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my funny kids on 2008-02-29 03:33:54 |
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I'm glad to hear that. I think the key to dealing with turbulent times in life is to try to take them day by day. When one day seems awful you just have to remember that tomorrow can be better.
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Maybe I Am Dumb on 2008-02-28 03:09:38 |
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The thing about sex is that there are different opinions on it. Some people see sex as a very special activity and, because of that, it should only be engaged in as part of a serious, committed relationship (perhaps only in marriage). Other people see it as acceptable to engage in casual sex outside relationships and, I believe the reason why, is that they probably view sex as a recreational activity more than a "special" bond between two people. Personally I think both views are correct.. sex can be a special bond between two people or it can be purely recreational. The only problem with "recreational" sex is that, if you're not careful, you can end up with some partners who are weirdos/dangerous. And of course, you need to take precautions against pregnancy and STDs but that goes for all sex, even in a relationship.
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Today is the day... on 2008-02-28 03:01:36 |
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Good for you. :)
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3:30am on 2008-02-27 07:04:21 |
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I found sleeping pills didn't work for me sometimes either. My guess is that you probably just have too much going on in your head to sleep. I wish you the best and if I can do anything to help let me know.
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Are they really that dumb? on 2008-02-25 05:57:47 |
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I remember hearing about a study once that said something like 20% of women and 30% of men admitted, anonymously of course, to having cheated on their partner(s). So, if that's true, women do cheat less than men but not a lot less. :)
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this too shall pass? on 2008-02-25 05:38:17 |
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Maybe I shouldn't give advice because everyone's situation is different and I know that sometimes I get annoyed when people give me advice when they don't understand my situation but I'll risk it... I like the old Nike slogan "Just do it". Why? Well, I find that I'm often looking for the perfect circumstances.. I'll do it when X, Y and Z are accomplished, then things will be perfectly aligned, perfectly positioned and I can make my move and accomplish my goals. Problem is that X, Y and Z never seem to line up just quite right. Life never hands you the perfect scenario so, in the end, you have to "just do it". :)
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Afraid to say on 2008-02-25 03:21:18 |
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Hopefully this doesn't sound like I'm giving you advice 'cuz I'm not :) I just wanted to say I know how you feel about not wanting to express how you feel sometimes. I'm not thinking about dating here just about depression and anxiety. I have struggled with anxiety/depression/OCD for a long time and, when I'm feeling low, sometimes I feel like opening up and telling people how I feel.. but then again I am afraid to because usually one of three things happen: 1) they don't want to hear about it because they find it depressing, 2) they think that I'm weak and if I should just pull myself up by my bootstraps and get over it or 3)they want to give me advice on how to overcome my depression/anxiety. If they don't want to hear about it because it's too depressing for them then just makes me feel even worse because it makes you feel isolated, if they think I'm weak that makes me angry because I know I'm not and I don't like being patronized and if they want to give me advice, well I kinda appreciate that, but it seems to always be the same advice and I know it already... it's not that I don't know what to do, it's just that actually doing it is pretty damn difficult sometimes.
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"Thoughts" on 2008-02-25 01:54:03 |
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It's OK not to have an opinion on something, especially if you don't know enough about it to have an informed opinion. I think the world has more than enough uninformed opinions. People jump to conclusions all the time about things they don't understand (that's where racism and other prejudices come from). Not that I'm trying to discourage you from looking into things, learning and coming to an opinion.. that's fine, that's good, but don't feel bad if you don't have an opinion on every topic someone asks you about. That's a sign of wisdom. Only a fool has an opinion on everything. Which is why I guess I have so many of them. Lol.
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Jessica Alba racist?? on 2008-02-25 01:49:42 |
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I don't know enough about the situation to judge whether this was a racist remark or not. I know however that sometimes I will say things about my own heritage that could be construed as "racist" but I'm just attempting humour. For example, I'm of Irish and German heritage and I absolutely do not tan, I'm just incapable of it, so I make fun of my pale skin and the fact that I'm pale like a while back I said, "I better not fall down in the snowbank or nobody will ever find me." Is this racist? I guess, technically, in that it's making a comment based on racial differences/stereotypes but I'm not trying to demean anyone. I find humour is one of the ways to stay sane in an insane world. If you can't laugh at the things that bother you then you'll probably just blow up from frustration.
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Rage on 2008-02-24 20:41:56 |
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Thanks. Just needed to vent some of the frustration I'm experiencing right now.
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Abuse of Authority on 2008-02-24 20:34:59 |
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I think that may be part of the reason why problems can arise and, I'm guessing, it is why these days there is so much emphasis on 'community based policing' as they call it - i.e. having good relations with the general public, liasing, etc. I have a lot of respect for the police - my brother-in-law is a police officer and a friend of mine is trying to get in, I myself probably would've applied except that I know I wouldn't pass the physical and eyesight requirements - but I don't think they're above being questioned or examined or improved.
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we all know nothing lasts forever, so why do we co on 2008-02-23 23:24:24 |
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Denial is a popular passtime. Your spouse/bf/gf is cheating on you.. deny it, don't believe it. You have an addiction? No I don't. Deny it. It goes hand in hand with escapism. That's why so many people like to abandon themselves in TV, video games, drugs, alcohol, etc. etc. It's hard to face reality and many people aren't up to it. I know that some days I certainly don't feel up to it. There's a tv show that I like called Mythbusters with these two guys who do a bunch of weird experiments and, on one show, one of the guys had some kind of result he didn't like (I can't remember exactly what it was) so he said, "I reject your reality and substitute my own". That's what many people do.
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But, since we've no place to go... on 2008-02-23 22:48:35 |
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Well, I can't really argue with that. Bush actually scares me. They did a poll in Canada recently where they asked what the most dangerous country in the world was.. about 70% answered the USA with Iran and China being distant second and third. Now, there is a certain amount of latent anti-Americanism in Canada amongst a large number of people but I think that the reason the number was so high was due to the Bush administration.
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But, since we've no place to go... on 2008-02-23 16:17:35 |
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I was never really all that enraptured by Clinton. I know a lot of Canadians, especially those who come from the left wing of the political spectrum, liked him but after that whole Monica Lewinsky scandal I found I really couldn't respect him too much.. not so much because of the affair (although I don't approve of that) but rather because he lied about it and, very probably, committed perjury. It's OK to make mistakes but lieing about them is a sign of inability to take responsibility for yourself I think.
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Fed up on 2008-02-23 01:48:45 |
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Don't give up. I know what it's like to be stressed out. Right now I'm really stressed out with lots of things.. work, my family, etc. etc. However, I'm looking to an old Chinese proverb for some inspiration: "This too shall pass." Every lousy phase in our life will eventually pass away and a new day will come around with new opportunities to make things better. That, and the occasional beer, gives me hope. ;)
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But, since we've no place to go... on 2008-02-23 01:32:35 |
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I listened to a - rather long - speech that Barack Obama made on CNN the other day and found it rather inspirational. He certainly has charisma. Whether he has substance that goes with that or not I don't know. I guess it doesn't matter since I'm not a US citizen and can't vote anyways. :)
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rolling with the punches on 2008-02-22 06:48:31 |
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Feel free to "babble". That's what thoughts.com is for.. to express yourself and it was rather interesting babble anyways.
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HR IS NOT HIRING on 2008-02-22 05:51:24 |
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The job market is a lot better now than it was years ago, at least where I live. However, even so, it is true that employers often expect more qualifications than are really necessary. You often see employers asking for years of experience and/or a wall full of diplomas, certificates and degrees to get a job that, often, in the end is not worth it. As for only lazy people working for others... hopefully that was a joke because, if it's not, it's got to be one of the dumbest statements I've ever read. Not everyone has the necessary capital or education to start up their own business and, if everyone did start their own business, the economy would fall apart because there would be no labour pool for employers to draw on.
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rolling with the punches on 2008-02-22 03:23:19 |
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Yeah, I always enjoyed law too, though I find the criminal law more interesting than civil law. Read law texts and court cases in my spare time. Never went to law school though, partly because I didn't have the money and partly because, although I love the law, I was never really interested in defending people. More interested in prosecuting them. LOL. And you need to be a defence lawyer first before you can become a prosecutor. :)
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My eyes are dry my faith is old on 2008-02-22 02:50:07 |
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I went to a Christian school and, for a time, when I was younger, considered mysef a Christian, although I wasn't a particularly good one and I wavered back and forth a lot. Now I have decided that I'm an atheist. Just from a logical point of view, to me it doesn't logically make sense to believe in a higher power, whether it is the Christian god or any other. But that's just me. I still respect people's right to choose to be religious; my sister is for example and I'm still friends with one of my former teachers from the Christian school.
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rolling with the punches on 2008-02-21 08:18:11 |
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If you want to know more about your legal rights consult a lawyer that knows South African employment law. Often you can get some free advice out of lawyers.. many will sit down with you and give a free initial consultation.
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rolling with the punches on 2008-02-21 08:13:13 |
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I'm not a lawyer no but I do know some about the law, well at least Canadian law. I was dismissed from my job last year and I'm sure that, if I hadn't known the law, they would've tried to claim it was "just cause" and not paid me anything but, since they knew that I knew a little about the law and would probably take them to court, they gave me severance pay. As for not being able to go into the same line of work.. your former employer can't really force you not to go into the same line of work unless you, at some point, signed a contract promising not to.. which some companies do make you sign upon being hired. At least that's how it works here.
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rolling with the punches on 2008-02-21 07:22:59 |
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Just curious on what grounds your boyfriend was dismissed? If he got a severance package then I'm guessing the employer didn't have just cause to dismiss him as severance pay is usually only given in cases where the person didn't commit wrongdoing that amounts to "just cause"... at least in Canada.
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Wake up call folks! on 2008-02-20 05:00:41 |
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People who do things that are wrong usually have rationalizations... it's ok to steal this towel from the hotel 'cuz their prices are too high, it's Ok to cheat on my taxes because I am struggling to get by and I deserve more income, it's Ok to cheat on my spouse because they're not meeting my needs, etc. The funny thing is that a lot of the time these people actually believe their own excuses. They don't want to think of themselves as bad people so they make themselves buy into their own deceptions.
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lately on 2008-02-19 07:27:27 |
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If you're seriously depressed for a long time and/or thinking about suicide or violence a lot then I would suggest you see a counsellor. I found counselling was a lot of help for me in years past when I was dealing with really bad depression and anxiety.
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Hurt... on 2008-02-19 05:29:41 |
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Life is full of disappointments yes but, as you said yourself, it is also full of good things. I've lost jobs, then found new ones. I've lost friends, found new ones. Life is going to throw some great things your way and it's going to throw some crap at you. The only thing you have to decide is: How will you react? If you decide to focus on what is good in your life instead of what is wrong I think you'll find it a lot more enjoyable.
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Do i deserve this?? on 2008-02-19 05:11:05 |
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Do you deserve to be caught up in this? No, you don't. Unfortunately these kinds of things are pretty common. It is possible to love more than one person at a time but this usually causes a whole lot of problems because most people are not capable of having an 'open' relationship where they share their girlfriend or boyfriend with others. So, your girlfriend will have to make a choice and hopefully she makes it soon because it's certainly not fair to keep you waiting for her decision.
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hehe i got these off a myspace bulletin on 2008-02-18 22:11:54 |
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Hillarious. :)
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The One Valentine I Want, I Can't Have on 2008-02-18 07:27:54 |
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Dreams are nice. They can give you hope, inspiration, etc. However, you also have to be able to deal with unpleasant realities too. Like bills for example. Man I hate those.
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my secret life, how it is now. The art of on 2008-02-18 07:24:34 |
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Interesting how you say you lie all the time. I would prefer to be honest but I guess, in your line of work, a certain amount of dishonesty is part of the game.
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It's only a Question on 2008-02-18 07:14:48 |
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Hmm. That's a good question. I have one for you: Why does my little toe hurt? I didn't hit with anything and yet it really really hurts. Bizarre.
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Can't Sleep on 2008-02-18 05:30:32 |
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All I can say is that I wish I had gone to college/university. I never did. I've taken some online post secondary courses and such but never gotten a degree. Because of that there's lots of jobs that are out of reach for me and now, at 28, I'm just trying to figure out a way to get together enough money so I can maybe go to university and get a degree in something. So, if you have the opportunity to get a post secondary education .. do it. It might suck sometimes but it's better than the alternatives. :)
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Iraq's Echoes on 2008-02-15 08:10:12 |
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You really are an excellent writer. Do you write for a living?
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Not Moving After All on 2008-02-03 19:06:42 |
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Thanks. I appreciate that.
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Not Moving After All on 2008-02-03 09:21:08 |
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Thanks. Let's hope so. :)
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Phyllis on 2008-02-03 08:03:48 |
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At least you have a little certainty about when your elections are going to be.. we have a minority parliament here in Canada which could fall and result in an election at any moment. Which has both its good and bad points.
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Phyllis on 2008-02-03 04:31:36 |
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I find the US system of selecting presidential candidates quite confusing but interesting. Out of curiousity, are these people you write about actual persons or fictional?
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trying times on 2008-02-03 04:19:33 |
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Your poetry always makes me think. I'm never quite sure I understand it completely but I think this is talking about holding on to hope.. in which case I agree. :)
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Self-Indulgence is not bad. on 2008-02-03 04:17:21 |
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Interesting self-interview.. where did you get the questions from? Did you just think them up?
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