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ive about had enough over a month ago now i had agreed to a friend her husband and his 16 year old son to come and stay gere for a few days so they could get on thier feet and find jobs and an apartment when they moved back from maine
they where going to stay in a tent in the back yard but first the tent was just a tiny dome tent and the two of them thier son and their rotweiler dog was going to stay in this tent so i said thier son could come stay inside but he would have to sleep in the living room a few days latter it was getting too cold out to stay outside in the tent for anyone soi cleaned out my grandaughters play room and offered them to stay there till they where able to find a place
its now been over a month and none of them at all has made much of an effort to find a job or a place o stay and at one point they where going to let thier son quit school and sit around my house all day and play my play station three but i couldnt let that happen my ids have to go to school so why shouldnt he
these people live completely differantly then i do it feels as if my house has been turned upside down now i actually feel like i dont even live in my house but more like i am living with them
they dont help with bills have barely helped at all with food and thier famiely will show up from out of state with thier dogs and inform us they are staying here fro the weekend or this past time till tuesday then i end up cooking dinner and serving it to twelve people i feel liek i am a hotel and a restaurant
and thats not it i dont believe in downing my kids at all nor do i believe in hitting my kids but the way they talk to thier 16 year old is beyond me and the way he speaks to them i cant believ ethe disrespect that runs within this famiely and they yell and fight with each other all the time
they have my grandaughter calling them grandma and grandpa i dont like how they play with her at all just fooling around with her they will say " who said you can make all that noise, im going to dot your eyes ,what are ou doing causeing trouble " just things you dont think of saying to a wo year old even if you are just playing
i clean up after these people do thier laundry cook for them pay the bills buy all he dogfood personal things like shampoo soap toilet paper laundry detergant etc and i ;have had enough but because of the person i am i cant say ok get out of my house i hace had enough because i think to myself if i do that where are they gooing to live what about hier son hes going o have to quit school or something if i make them leave and thier dog is going to starve
the husband did work for a week but when he got paid he had to register thier jeep never offered to pay part of a bill or part of the morgage or buy food he didnt buy thier dog any food or anything im going nuts and dont know what to do i just keep hopeing hell get a farm job or something that offers houseing with the job and they will leave
i will tell you what though the other day the girl that is staying here told my daughter if she kept talking loud she was going to slap her because she had a headache and my daughter looked at her and said i would like to se eyou try that i dont teach my kids to be rude like that but we are all at wits end over this situation so i didnt sa anything to her about it at all but i did vow to myself that if she ever lays one hand on any of my kids or my grandaughter they will be out no the streets within five minutes and i dont care if they dont have a place to go or not
ok well its getting late and i have to get to bed because i have to get up in the morning with the kids for school and start my day all over again with cleaning and more cleaning and hopefully somewhere in there i will find time to play with the baby and while she naps hopefully i will be able to have some sit down ime between all the cleaning and cooking
ill write more soon and hpopefully i can write about some good things it isnt like me at all to complain like this but this was the best way i could think of to get some of this off my chest
good night
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Posted by haileymema on 2007-10-02 20:08:23 | Rating: | Views: 60
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To be honest, i'm just like you...i bend over backwards for friends and family and yet they just walk all over me...i'm only 24 but this has happened too many times now and i'm getting sick of it. The last time someone tried to walk all over me i put my foot down, they didn't like it much but i sure felt better. Sometimes not matter how mean it seems because you have to watch out for you and yours first. I had a friend stay with me for a while too, it was getting to the point where he was inviting all these people over to my apt..people i didn't even know. After a while i looked at my bf and said "he's gotta go" and i sat him down and said "look, you're my friend and all and i was willing to help you, but we can not afford to take care of you, i'm going to have to ask that you find somewhere else to go"..he didn't like that but he respected the fact that we just couldn't afford to continue the way we were going. Maybe you should do that with your friends as well? I mean it's not your responsibility to make sure that they work and have food and that their son goes to school...it's their responsibility to be good parents, the burden should not be on you. Hope this helps.
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Posted by ForgottenOne
on 2007-10-02 20:32:51
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I would change the locks...and tell them...Sorry your few days have been over a long time ago...and if need be, get some inforcement in...A friend would not let another friend be used like that...xo
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Posted by olp76
on 2007-10-02 20:33:11
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I agree with changing the locks...Give them $50 to go to a movie or something...then change the locks...set their stuff out in the front yard with the door and a note that reads....Free ride is over...it will be the best $50 you ever spent.
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Posted by Brokenhearted
on 2007-10-02 20:51:21
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