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the days off to a not so great start.
the weather is bad today. The weather guy said that todays forecast was going to be the coldest day we have had in the past twelve months, he wasnt kidding. Theres snow on the ground and its very windy. the wind chills are several degrees below zero.
plus this morning my voice is gone, and my nose is plugged up and i cant breathe. I dont like taking meds in the day cause they make me drowsy and I just have too much going on during the day to be falling asleep. Ive stocked up on kleenex and have my trusty vicks vapor rub which i keep stuffing in my nose to help me breathe.
anyways, I annoyed J this morning and now Im annoyed too.
It was 6:30 this morning and J was gonna go drop his son off at school. So I told him why dont you drop him off at his moms? Its so early, there is probably nobody at the school. (His mom lives a block away from school, we live about a half mile away. I thought he could just wait at her house for a short while and walk to school from there when theres more light out) He gets this look on his face and says "because he hasnt asked me to drop him off at his moms house". Oh really. Could it be that he doesnt want to bother her this early? Why not call her up and let her know that her son needs to be dropped off there cause the blowing snow is too much for him to walk in? She's his mother! Who cares if we're bothering her? If she gets pist off, so be it.
Grrr. It annoys me that J is so afraid of bothering his ex wife that he would rather show up to work late so as not to ask her for help with their son. He would rather go drop off the kid at an empty school while its still dark. On the other hand, the witch wouldnt think twice about calling up and TELLING us that my stepson needs a ride or whatever.
Tell you what, if J gets that job in DC, my stepsons mom is going to be a lot more involved in his care whether she likes it or not. I simply have my hands full. And its only right that she help out with her son.
I havent mentioned that she gets to claim him as a dependent every other year on her taxes even though he lives with us and she doesnt pay a dime in child support. And yep, its all legal.
I remember telling my friend K a few years back that I really didnt know what it was like to have hate for someone until I met my stepsons mom. Its not that I hate her cause shes my husband ex wife. Its that she doesnt like to help out with her son and leaves all the work to us. A few weeks ago, he got sick over the weekend while at her house. So she calls our house early in the morning and J gets up and goes and picks him up to take him to the emergency room. He doesnt even ask her to take him. What was wrong with the kid? A sore throat. It was a cry for attention. $50+ bucks down the toilet cause little junior felt like playing sick.
It just so happened that it was on the same weekend that his mom lied to him and told him that she didnt show up to his band concert because she thought it was a parent teacher conference. Huh???? No, Im SURE I TOLD HER IT WAS A BAND CONCERT. IF SHE DIDNT SHOW UP, ITS CAUSE SHE DIDNT WANT TO GO. AND WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE IF IT WAS A PARENT TEACHER CONFERENCE?
Its so sad how that kid worships her and she doesnt really give a shit. Whats worse is that my husband ignores it, instead of confronting her with it.
There was a time a few years back when I got a call from the school saying that my stepson was sick and needed to go home. At the time, my kids were 4 , 2 and 6 months old. I told the school nurse to call his mom and gave her the phone number.
A short time later, stepkid and his mom show up at our house. She came and dropped him off cause she needed to sleep and the school woke her up and shes really tired but she went and picked him up and brought him to me. Like she did me some huge favor. I told her that I told the school to call HER cause I had 3 little kids and it was hard for me to just get up and go, and besides the baby was asleep.
Well, SHE was really tired. She needs to sleep. She cant have her own son in her house right now cause shes so damn tired.
AND I'M NOT? I had a 6 month old, plus two more kids under the age of 4 and I dont need to sleep? If she needs to sleep, its cause she stays up late with her boyfriend. Not cause she's up in the middle of the night tending to a crying infant. Instead of taking her son to her house she brings him straight over here and drops him off so that I could take care of him on top of my own kids. All so that she could catch up on her sleep.
and then she gets really pist off if she so much as HEARS that I gave her little precious angel a mean look. "youre not his mom, you have no right to discipline him!!!" Well, then since Im not his mom, then I have no right to be washing his clothes and making sure that he gets a hot meal every night either.
ah, she can just go straight to hell !!! (mean thing to say. I know. )
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Posted by greencat on 2008-01-16 10:08:03 | Rating: | Views: 89
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I hope the venting made you feel a little better anyhow. I know it helps me. Whoever that woman's divorce lawyer was must be brilliant or your husband just completely caved. I never heard of a deal like that. I hope things get better for you.
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Posted by HungryHeart
on 2008-01-17 00:27:57
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so sad what this precious little boys mother is doing.....Will keep you in my prayers.God bless you for taking care of all your babies...Love them always.
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Posted by Hollis
on 2008-01-20 09:45:46
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The same thing with my son; it's some strange loyalty that they have for their biological mothers! As if they have to protect their good name. I think it's their shield of protection in order to be ok that their mom's arent' there or to justify it somehow! I have read your blogs and I am amazed at the similarities! except at least his bio mom wants to see him or has to, mine went on to have another kid and didn't even call her own son to tell him he had a new baby sister!
In the end I feel like I will always be the bad guy!!!
Girl we can vent together and maybe come up with some simple solutions to our step-sons!
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Posted by stephm00
on 2008-04-29 17:44:27
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