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Q. Is it possible for a husband to rape a wife?
Within the question it is to be understood that over an extended period of years, the husband and wife have had (what would be considered as) normal sexual relationships within the marriage. Further, it needs to be verified that those normal sexual experiences exclude any aberrant practices or experiences. We are discussing only that type of marital relationship where the husband and wife have, and do give of themselves freely to each other.
Take note… I’m not posing for discussion or questioning a sexual act between two dating individuals or casual acquaintances. Those persons who have not already committed to or given of themselves freely are held to a completely different standard both legally and morally.
To more clarify the question… Can a husband commit a criminal action that is otherwise a typical occurrence or experience over the lifetime of the marriage?
What then would constitute the difference between ‘MAKING LOVE’ and the heinous act of ‘RAPE’?
A. Of course it is possible for a husband to rape a wife.
The single essential component that CLEARLY differentiates between ‘MAKING LOVE’ and ‘RAPE’ is PERMISSION. Without the consent of the spouse, either the husband or the wife could be accountable for rape (although highly uncommon where a wife would perpetrate such an act on a husband).
Even FORCE is not ultimately a necessary element of rape (although, more typical than not). In the occasion where the wife is inebriated or under the influence of any medication or drugs, and a husband does commit the act without PERMISSION, it does constitute a rape.
Clarification
There are plenty of elements within a rape that should be recognized.
- Existing is a complete lack of respect for a spouse and a sense of dehumanization. A husband has to look upon his wife as a piece of meat and physically take her for his own personal, physical, selfish gratification regardless of the effect such an act would have on the wife. He does also extract an emotional, selfish gratification.
- Beyond the actual physical aspect of rape, existing is an imposition of his will over hers. There is a definite advance and exercise of unrighteous POWER. Such use of POWER has the lasting effect on a wife of inflicting a sense or feeling of power-less-ness.
- Combining both the lack of respect for a spouse, and very much like the inflicting of a sense of power-less-ness, is also created a sense or feeling of and demoralization of her personal worth being diminished. She then has to live with the reality and understanding of loss of control of her own ability to make that necessary decision and authorize PERMISSION. This loss of control is not just another way of saying ‘power-less-ness.’ That authorization / PERMISSION is hers to give and in its loss so is her control of her situations as well as her body.
Q. Is it possible for a wife to embezzle money from a husband? or vise / versa?
Within the question it is to be understood that there are some normal financial transactions that between a husband and a wife are intermingled. Likewise there are some normal financial transactions that are NOT co-mingled, but are separate to each spouse. The husband and wife have had (what would be considered as) normal financial relationships within the marriage. Further, it needs to be verified that those normal financial experiences exclude any aberrant practices or experiences. We are discussing only that type of marital relationship where the husband and wife have, and do give of their financial selves freely to each other.
To more clarify the question… Can a wife steal large sums of money that would normally be dedicate to the financial health and well-being of and within the marriage?
What then would constitute the difference between the normal ‘USAGE OF FAMILY FUNDS’ and the heinous act of ‘THEFT’?
Clarification / Explanation of events
- The wife works for a company that matches her donations to a 401K (company retirement plan). She participates in that fund to whatever degree that she decides is prudent and affordable. This represents a separate financial transaction whereby she holds access to those funds and she holds them solely at her discretion and determined use. The husband has neither the ability to contribute nor to access or determine use in any way, those funds.
- The husband, in lieu of a company that matches any donations to a 401K (company retirement plan), as a self-employed house painter, pours his extra dollars into the family home and dramatically reduces the mortgage as means of achieving retirement security.
- On the occasion where the husband was monetarily and fluidly capable to do so, did purchase with $14,000. a ROTH IRA (individual retirement account). Also based on prudence and affordability, these funds were solely dedicated as means of achieving (part of) retirement security and ultimately intended for use within the marriage.
- That $14,000. was split equally into two accounts. The first $7,000. was placed into an account in HER name, and the second $7,000. was placed into an account in HIS name.
NOTE WELL… She did not contribute any dollars whatsoever towards either of these accounts. Restated – her retirement fund donations are made through her employment.
: To date; his ROTH IRA account has a value of $ 8,327.oo.
: To date; her ROTH IRA account has a value of $ 00.oo
- Over an extended period of time, tactically prior to initiating a Petition for Dissolution, which carries an injunction forbidding such an action, SHE did drain the entire amount of funds from the account that had her name on it.
- She had the FUNDS and the account reconciliation / statements circumvented and delivered to her step-mother’s house in order to avoid discovery.
- Further she did SQUANDER those funds entirely.
A. Of course a wife can embezzle money from a husband. or vise / versa?
The single essential component that CLEARLY differentiates between the normal ‘USAGE OF FAMILY FUNDS’ and the heinous act of ‘THEFT’ is PERMISSION. Without the consent or knowledge of the spouse, either the husband or the wife could perpetrate such a crime. Although NOT LEGALLY accountable for GRAND THEFT, it is both MORALLY AND ETHICALLY incorrect, and is a financial assault on both the husband and against the marriage.
Even FORCE is not an ultimately necessary element of the theft. No gun is used or demand using any threat of harm. In the occasion where the wife is perpetrating a clandestine rearrangement of accounts, address delivery changes and hidden fund disbursements, clearly all of the elements of a crime are engaged. In the absence of the husband’s knowledge, the wife commits the act without PERMISSION and it does constitute a heinous theft absent of any form of accountability.
Clarification
There are plenty of elements within a theft that should be recognized.
- Existing is a complete lack of respect for a spouse. A wife has to look upon her husband as a piece of meat and financially takes him for her own personal monetary gratification regardless of the effect such an act would have on the husband.
- Beyond the actual act of theft, existing is an imposition of her will over his. There is a definite advance and exercise of unrighteous POWER. Such use of POWER has the lasting effect on a husband of inflicting a sense or feeling of power-less-ness.
- Combining both the lack of respect for a spouse, and very much like the inflicting of a sense of power-less-ness, is also created a sense or feeling of her personal worth being diminished. He then has to live with the reality and understanding of loss of control of hisr own ability to make that necessary decision and authorize PERMISSION. This loss of control is not just another way of saying ‘power-less-ness.’ That authorization / PERMISSION is his to give and in its loss so is his control of the life that those funds would have provided.
- On a purely physical nature, the dollars are a small reflection of the many hours of physical labor that are performed by a blue-collar laborer painting houses and sacrificing the alternative pleasures and available options that those dollars could have been used for.
Synopsis
As you can tell, this essay is not really about RAPE; or is it? All of the elements are the same and I contend that the theft is tantamount to RAPE.
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Posted by gmr8of11 on 2008-05-18 15:08:58 | Rating: | Views: 107
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I really enjoy this entry. All make sense, and all come to one thing. Communication! How communication is so important in marriage. Included in good communication are discussion, permission and agreement....
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Posted by Gwatlan
on 2008-05-29 00:04:45
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