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My lady gave birth to ourpremature son this morning...obviously they are both still in hospital. I came 160 miles to be hereand today has been the greatest day of my life. I am too hyped to sleep and was wondering...whatshould I be doing? For her and our son? Is there something practical I can do for her, and for him?I had been reading up on pregnancy, but hadnt got as far as the birth etc cause hes very early(should have arrived 2nd August!)!! Any parents out there...help me out? x Peace and lovex
Posted by geordiedreamer on 2008-05-21 15:40:28
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First off, CONGRATS!!! Im not a parent but ive heard that the
father instinct will kick in soon and you'll just know. Just be
there for your lady and son. Just out of curiosity, what did you
name him?
Posted by smileforthecamera on 2008-05-21 17:17:12  
Thank you...yep, the instinct is kicking in! We named him Stan,
after my dad. I just wrote a blog about him and uploaded a pic! I
will always be there for them, always x thanks for your reply xxx
Posted by geordiedreamer on 2008-05-21 17:34:10  
Well, it's pretty obvious - you should be FREAKING OUT!!! After
that, get some rest - she's gonna need you! Congratulations!
Posted by BootLady on 2008-05-21 18:20:01  
You should be resting up, as she should be. Then you both need to
support each other through the weeks ahead. My first son was born
a few weeks early. It is amazing how much work taking care of an
infant can be. Good Luck to all of you.
Posted by circe on 2008-05-23 00:02:04  
gd congrads. Good luck and my best wishes and hope they both are
fine.
Posted by norm4u2 on 2008-05-23 02:18:57  
Congrats, I am extremely happy for you (and chebtastic). My
son is now 7 months, but I was in hospital with him for nearly a
fortnight at the beginning. My husband's role was to keep me
sane and stand up for me against the v stalinist NHS postnatal
system - I felt like a prisoner. A wishlist: give her and the
baby cuddles if you're allowed to hold him yet, be there when she
has her meals (you might want to bring food in as NHS menus
planned for pensioners), let her sleep - really she needs
Definitely do the nappy changes when you are there. Field any
relatives who descend too often and reassure her if she feels any
randomised guilt (I felt I should have been able to DO something
that would've stregthened my son and kept him inside longer -
nonsense of course). At home, get the crib up in your room, get
the place clean, tidy and get food in the freezer. Catch up on
your own sleep and remember once he's out, the first 12 weeks
home are the worst! Good luck, and congrats again!
Posted by rose22 on 2008-05-23 14:44:26  
You should be making it easier for them to rest. And when you can
calm down you need to rest so that when the baby wakes and she
still needs to rest you can take care of that. Learn how to do
what ever the baby needs. Changing diapers, bottles, burping,
massage,etc. You should know how to handle the kid as well as she
does. I love to see a daddy amazed with his children and family!
Posted by anotherdaze on 2008-05-26 12:13:41  
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