When I was in my twenties, I would have stepped in and told her, "Let's get out of here"...not wanting her to get involved in a messy situation and thinking her naive.

Now, I would leave it up to my friend's discretion to do as she decided was acceptable for her.

FF:
Intereting reply. So...you think age, or experience
has changed your opinion??????
funnyman

Depends on the age of the female friend and how close a friend she is, I believe. I believe you pulled your female friend aside. Me? I would walk up to them and ask him how the wife is doing? LOL! Jk, I would have pulled her aside and informed my friend (if she was a close friend) and then, let her make her own decision as to whether to continue kissing or leave him alone. The older the woman, however, the less apt I am to get involved, unless she's sloppy drunk!

El:
Funny enough, I could see you asking him how the wife is doing? LOL!
Question: Why the difference in an older woman???.....Don't you think that
it's possible that she also may be naive and not know what's going on???Interesting scenario there. Thanks for responding.
funnyman

Hmm, I guess I would assess first if one or more of the 'parties' was intoxicated (impaired judgment) and then I would probably let her know he is married in a discrete manner. Or perhaps I would ask the guy what he was doing just to see his response. In all fairness I feel the other party should be aware of marital status going in, so I do not think it is a bad thing to give someone the head's up. A friend of mine met a man while he was married but he and his wife were both aware of the fact the marriage was over and it was at that point my opinion of situations changed regarding the 'rules' of the game (even still I do not feel comfortable with the whole dating a married person thing as sometimes people are not honest) . Though I believe it is better to wait until the situation resolves itself before getting involved, I do not feel it is my place to judge people. I do believe honesty is the only way to go and then let people make up their own minds.

Vestiges:
Just out of curiosity, why would it matter if either or both were intoxicated?
Wouldn't you sill want to find out if your fiend knew what she was doing?
Jus asking here.
funnyman

fm - I was thinking if they were drunk, they may not care how they were behaving or might not listen to reason. I guess that was what went through my mind. I just write whatever pops into my head and sometimes I have trouble being concise. Of course I would want to find out if my friend knew what she was doing hence my comment saying 'I would probably let her know he is married in a discrete manner...'the other party should be (made) aware of the marital status going in' .

To clarify: I would definitely tell either party the other was married as a 'heads up' as I would hope one would also tell me should I be in that situation. (do I need to disclaimer that statement?!) Simply stated: Yes, I would tell her/him. Sorry for making it more complicated than necessary.

Sorry, I didnt mean to offend you. I was just curious as to the
intoxicated situation. Thank you for clarifying.
funnyman

At the earliest possible opportune moment I would take my friend aside and tell her. After being informed she could make her own decision it would no longer be my business.

Greunie:
All all the women who have answered so far, I would
certainly have guessed that you would answer like this.
This is exactly what I would have guessed you wuld say almost to the T.

Thanks for answering. Always nice to have you here.
funnyman

Hi FM!!
I would tell her...then she can make up her own mind.
But, always, be a good friend and tell her in case she is naive.
:)

SMI:
Thank you so much for reading and voicing your opinion here.
Everyone seems to be on the same wavelenght as you on this one.
funnyman

I would approach them so they both see me and remind him, so she can hear, that he's married. And maybe offer to take their picture with my cell phone camera.

Dawgblawg:
Great response....Something a little different here.
Thank you for expressing yopur opinion. It's nice to
have you here. Come back and see me again.
funnyman

funnyman - you most certainly did not offend me. I just write so poorly it is difficult to understand what I am trying to say.
I apologize for coming off in a manner that would lead you to believe I am offended, I was trying to multitask when I answered (foolish me) I was on the phone and trying to explain myself. I love your questions and responses. I do appreciate how you ask for clarification. I do it as well when I do not get what someone means.
I appreciate your patience.

Your blog is one of my favorites and I love to read what you have to say.

Vestige:
You don't write poorly at all, you write very well actually.
I happen to love your blogs too. Have a great Halloween weekend.
funnyman

ha.. I'd talk to my friend when I got the chance and drop the news for sure, without a doubt. If she knew already.. then.. I can only forewarn her, making sure she understood what she's getting into, and what she does there after is her business.

what did you do?

hoping you a great and fab Halloween weekend! xx

Lola:
Great response....I will tell everyone what I did tomorrow.
Thanks for expressing your opinion here....
funnyman

I would take my friend to the side really but if she chose to go back she could not say I did not warn her. I have seen this happen before and it was too sad to see the wife at home and you know...But it is not my business lol. Take care

Lana:
I like how you think here, and yes I agree about the wife at home,
in many cases. Love having you here. Thank you for stoppin' by.
funnyman

An older woman, naive? No, I don't think so. Guess that depends on what you view as an older woman and what being naive means to you. Since I don't know your definitions and only you seem to have been there, I'd at best, only be guessing. If a woman of any age is drunk in a bar and she's a friend of mine, that warrants watching out for her in every way, shape and form. That's what we do.

El:
I have known several more mature women who display the
nature of Naitivity. That's what I meant. Just because they are older doesn't
necessarily make them more worldly.

Drunk on the other hand yes indeed. I totally agree.
Thanks for clarifying your comment.
funnyman

faced the situation once.. told her quietly: "darlin'- that ain't a class ring on his finger.. He ain't got any...."

Mike.....
I loved that answer..... Thank you for commenting
my friend..... Loved it...
funnyman

most girls know what they are doing , all you can do is be there if they ask for your help - Puck

Good Puck. I am starting to get a little difference of opinion here.
Great response my friend....Thanks for reading.
funnyman

I didn't even read the other answers...

I would mind my own business. No one knows what the situation is between two ppl. How do we know the entire picture?
Until I walk in their shoes....it's live and learn. I do not want anyone stickin their nose in my private business EVER!!!!!!! So I don't do it to others....
I may be the underdog here....minority...but it's MHO.

You are exactly right DP.....Great response.
U and Puck seen to be the underdogs here in this on. Good for u .
funnyman

Well if you are in a bar sucking face with someone you just met....you pretty much made the decision that you don't care whether or not he's married.

I'm a firm believer that if you are dumb enough to get yourself into trouble. You eventually have to wise up and get smart enough to get out of it.

Makes no difference to me if they are friend or foe. They have to look at their self in the mirror. Makes no difference what I think when all is said and done.

Pita:
I see u joined Puck and Dreampowers club here on this one....
Good for u. I always love seeing both sides to the question.
Thank you so much for your opinion here.
funnyman

OK!!!!!!!!!! I have promised everyone MY response so here is what I did.

I went uo to the GUY with my cell phone out and said:
Your wife just called me and asked what time U were coming home????

He sheepishly shyed away after that and my (girlfriend) just went away
and found another guy( unmarried as it turned out).

Today, they are happily married.
funnyman