you know something i never looked at it like that,
but yes you are of course very correct in your analogy.
i feel a great bond with my friends on thoughts, and
like you say it is people whom i have never really met.
but i feel the bond just the same.
good post friend thanks for the share.
regards fraglerock

My pleasure Frank... Thanks for being a true friend
and responding honestly...
funnyman

Because they get us more than people in real life do..
Why? Because we can pretend and relate without being ashamed to..
They're miles away from us... We can't see what they do..
BUT we can only see them as is, they are here..
Which is wonderful, fantastic and such. :)

But I'm not saying all...
I've got friends here worth fortunes..
And they are... Real and totally, truly awesome and good people.

<3

Freezie:
You have said a mouthful, TRULY. THANK YOU,
from the bottom of my heart.

Funny,

That's good question!

I am going to have to give this concept more thought, but I am not sure anyone has the correct answer.

This question is as difficult to anwer as: Why do people love; or, why do people hate?

- Thom

Thom:
Oh, I don't know....Is it really that difficult????
Come on, you can answer this.....
funnyman.

Could it be that because to connect with another person through writing is more like two minds meeting without all of the encumberances of "reality"? I believe we are attracted simultaneously to two different groups: People who we feel are similar to us, and people who we feel have traits that may differ from us but otherwise complement our own.

Great reply Firewater, interesting theory.....
funnyman

Souls that are meant to touch... find their way to do so. The wires of cyberlands are no different I find. <3 Love you FM! Hope you have a beautiful day.

I would have to agree with this response 100 %.
funnyman

Just a few of many thoughts on this huge question:

1) People really do wanna open their Hearts to others and on the internet and in paticular within Thoughts (which has such a welcoming philosophy) it is safe to open their Hearts (at least they think it is safe...and I wont go into huge explanations on this here).

2) When Hearts are open then the mind opens at a different direction (yes she said different direction so do note that) and words read that are written by others can be exposed as words one might have said.....for there IS feeling meted out to the words....thus begins a 'connection'.

3) The bonding that happens develops thru not only words but desired feelings that flow so easily when unencumbered by looks/body language and everyday interferences.

4) The bonding grows becuz the give and take is far easier in the isolation of a place that can be 'denied' later if anything at all goes astray. BUT ~ make no mistake ~ most people are seeking out some bondings in some amounts more or less. IT is the heart connecting to the mind. Then throw in when two people choose to connect Heart to then SOUL and finally mind at the same time and magic might appear to happen. Imagine how the internet has made those possibilities far more numerous.....when before internet times....people were not as likely to connect with as many people or from so many other places round the globe.

Ok ~ my fingers are aching today ...so I am gonna quit typing altho I have about 2 more books worth to say!! lmtlsao

Always Love ~
KateyB

Katey:
I think you make excellent points. Especially #3.
You're right, everyday reference points being taken away and
just the magic in the words themselves DOES add a lot to the
attraction.

Thank you for taking the time to read and write "your book" here.
Hahahaha.
funnyman

I would say our deepest wish is to be accepted, to be understood, to be respected. Here on thoughts, as an avenue, it is easier to offer this to each other. The limitations we feel in RealLife are left at the door. Here we can be 'minds' together. Out in RealLife, there are obstacles, there are prejudices, there is noise. Here there is words, the sentiments we feel from those words, the ideas thattouch our own understanding of life and the result, a touching of minds. In the RealWorld, we choose, first and foremost, through physical apperance, through proximity, through smell, through luck... and then we sit in our relationships, silent, unable to touch each other because we are now connected but our souls continue separate. There is nothing as delicious as a mind connection. However, there is a horror here too, as some of the ones who have tried to bond in real life discover... those prejudices overwhelm even the best mind connections. A profound, complex question with many levels of truths to unveil. Great question!

G:
You have said a mouthful, and very meaningful mouthful
at that. Words DO mold us. Words can influence not only
our minds but also our souls.

Great reply... Thank you.

I think it is a dependency of sorts.People reach out to anyone looking for that little extra attention, and when we receive it, we tend to give that attention back.

Skip:
Also a good thought. We certainly all do want the attention
and when we get it, we beg for more....Interesting...

Thank you for reading and commenting. Come and see me again.
funnyman

"To share one's true, deep, inner self can be more intimate than sharing one's body. It makes for a communion of human spirits cemented together by the Spirit of God."
"Friendship As Sacrament" -- Carmen L. Caltagirone

The essence of any human relationship is that of spirit not flesh. While we think the carnal things of this world hold the key to contented happiness -- true joy and happiness arrive through the feeding of our spirits by those people connections that include the honest sharing of thoughts and ideas -- spoken from the heart. Amazing question! Peace.

CD:
Carmen Caltagirone makes a very valid statement.
I too believe that sharing our inner selves is much more
intimate than sharing our bodies.

I am a big believer in spiritual things and I truly believe
that the mind creates and bonds us through our perceptions
and our most inner thoughts.

Wonderful comment. Thank you.
funnyman

I agree with Greunie. I think that there is a fierce connection with people who have the ability to fluently express themselves and their feelings and thoughts without the bias of physicality or economic status or geographic barriers... The value of finding people who seem to relate to you and your experiences is immeasurable, as so many of us walk around feeling judged and misunderstood.

FF:
I couldn't agree more. Thank you for sharing yourself
with us today.
funnyman

two superb comments.. I find it easy to bond to people here because I'm just looking for people who make me think- who inspire me. i'm not looking for emotional support or spiritual guidance.. I'm blessed with those.. enough so that I'm able to share.. and I like that. I find my greatest ties to those who show many facets to their personalities.. who are unpredictable sometimes.. guess I'm saying.. kindred souls. i was able to meet two folks this weekend. one, dreadnaught, was just as I imagined her.. maybe more so..Evetspordlaw was NOT what I'd pictured.. but I liked him more than the guy I'd envisioned. We really got along great.. but I think it's because we were all ourselves on our posts.. we had nothing to hide.. cyber or real.. I've found true friendship here..

Mike:
So...Are you saying I am unpredictable at times??? Hahaha.
Ya know, I really would like to sit and have a beer with you some day.
I think we ARE kindred spirits.
funnyman

I KNOW we are.. love to! I'll even be the straight man.. whatever happened to comedy duos? about the last great team was Belushi and Ackroyd..

Tell ya what, you be the straight man and I'll buy the beer.
:-)
funnyman

Now I have written about how we are all connect through this universal pool of thoughts or infinite intelligence if that term fits better. I have also written about thought vibrations as well. Now if this is true then we all resonate at a frequency that is particular to the thoughts we hold. This could explain the term birds of a feather flock together. But I feel for some it goes much deeper then we simply think alike. I'm not one to believe in soul mates and I believe we had that conversation over a beer FM. But I do want to say there is truth in what Scar said "Souls that are meant to touch... find their way to do so". I will leave it at that for I am not prepared to write about something that I feel has no clear explanation.

D

D:
Ah.... The Infinite intelligence....Don't get me started...
Hahahaha.

Your statement lends itself to a whole nuther book I could write.
Love hearing from you my friend.
funnyman

I agree with C and G....They both said it for me so I am speechless:) Sorry but I am! You clever cookie:D

Lana:
Come on now....You are VEVER speachless. Hahahaha.
funnyman

Sorry you make me come back and rethink things when you have a deep question. I honestly think that before you ever join the cyber world there is a tiny void that you want to express and recieve understanding for. There in real life people are not as open with their emotions and when you get the opertunity to see someone whos mind is in sink with yours it is soul touching. BUT keep in mind some minds connect out of commonality and some by just pure fate. You can try to drive it out of your other half but sometimes your passion is not in sink with theres and you never really new it till you join a place like this, or maybe they are blind to it all. You know the opening of pure passion.

But I say like CD...an emotional connection is deeper than physical...much

Hope I do not sound to deep, but honest.

Lans:
I KNEW you would be back, it's the psychologist in you.
You make an excellent point. It is much easier here to make
a connection with someone as there are so many people here.

There is BOUND to be someone here that thinks on the same
level of consciousness as you, just by sheer odds. Yes, you are also
right about WANTING to find that "soul" connection to someone who you
may not have in a spouse or significant other.

Great reply.
funnyman

Yeah yeah I know you love me because I'm just so DAM wonderful :P, Hahhahaha, No but really YUP you DO its me isn't it I'm not vein honest :P....

OK so I too have found people I have connected with here at thoughts.com, people that have made an impact in my life, people that I would truly miss if I never had contact with them again, it is I suppose as in the real world in many ways although we have not met in person we still talk Via IM chat or web cam so get a real feel for their inner minds and personalities. We share our lives with those we bond with thus building a relationship so to be honest its really not that strange.
This is the new world, the way the world is moving forward so it is bound to happen, that we find like minded people especially in a place where we already have so many the we have things in common with IE; writers.

OK so that's my thoughts on the subject :)...

((Hugs))

Crimson Queen.x.

Crimson:
I will tell you the truth. To me, you certainly are and will be
an influence on my life. The creativity in your poetry sets you
apart from the masses, and you have certainly touched my life many times.

I believe you are an incredible talent and one who should NOT squander it.
Believe in yourself, spread your wings and let the WORLD enjoy your
God given talent.
funnyman

I am blown away by the AMAZING question and AWESOME, INSIGHTUL comments from all of you!! I am tempted to copy and paste all the bits I love into one damn fine comment, but I won't! LOL!

I have connected with many people on Thoughts during my year and a half here and am still connected to them. Like minds, a similar sense of humor, intelligence and courage we admire or share, similar childhood experiences or locales bond some of us. I also think there are certain people we just know 'get us' on many levels and that is a very sensual, special experience to share. Most of the people I am in contact with outside of Thoughts are exactly as I pictured them which tells me that like me, they are putting as real a foot forward as they can in their blogs, emails and IMs as possible. I like to write like I'm talking directly to my reader(s) and so do they. A 'real' connection is possible then.

I also believe that our ideas, words, thoughts and feelings can be transmitted as energy and will be received by an open, receptive heart and mind. Strange as that might sound, we are able to draw others to us...that may require a blog to explain, though! Great question, funnyman! I do love how you think :) xo

EL:
There are TRULY some amazing people here. NOT just for their
writing ability although, many are great at their craft, but within
their souls they possess an amazing light which shines upon us all.

I am grateful to be in this company of enriched and very spiritual minds.

God bless.
funnyman