friends are over rated!!

[jenbla420]

I used to be "popular" in high school, and i invested so much time and energy into a bunch of meaningless relationships that no longer exist a few years after graduation.

I should have spent more time with my family, and studying, instead of tryin to be cool. My family are the ones who will always be my best friends.

[funfreak]

Congratulations! You have just entered adulthood. But look out, because there are just as many foolish endeavors and distractions ahead.

[Poignant]

The former friends and/or relationships you are now discounting from your past life, still will always be an important part of your life in that they helped shape you into who you are today. They are at the very least, the "stepping stones" that have helped to get you where you are. For that, I would not say that you had "meaningless relationships," but instead, you had relationships in your past, that currently don't have the same meaning, as they did while you were living them out.

[jbeaney]

You will also find that as you and those acquaintances age, some will realize what they couldn't see in youth and will reconnect and make lasting friendships..and alas some won't..and those aren't really your loss only theirs.

[Piglady]

Holla Buffy!!!!!!!!!!!

[jenbla420]

ive been out of high school for 8 years now, i dont want these people back in my life.
i read lots of blogs on this site, and so many young people are wrapped up in their friendships, and love lives. i remember being in their shoes, and feeling like these relationships meant more to me than anything. i was trying to get a point across that there are more important things in life than who you hang out at the mall with. i wish that i could have seen more of the big picture when i was their age.

[jeluckystar]

You ;know i'm right there with you jenbla. If only i knew then what i know now. How many of those people were not real friends. Just a waste of time and distraction from whats really important. Now that i'm older and just started focusing on family and only good friends who really care i finally feel like everything has more meaning and i finally have strong bonds and amazing people in my life.Of course that includes you girl!

[MrJohn]

Friends come and go,
I think we learn over time
that friends are situational,
sometimes based on location/nearness
to you physically or common interests,
but as time goes by, many will fade away.
But this world is full of people,plenty of new people to meet
and befriend.

[Unsureprophet]

I know what you mean. When I was really young I wanted many people to like me. Then I realized that those people weren't really my friends. Now I can count my good friends on one hand but I'm cool with that. It's great!!!

[MrJohn]

Have no more than 12 disciples.

[jillsthoughts]

Your friendships will change over the years. Those high school friends may never be part of your life again, or there may be some who come back into your life later on, after maturing, like you... :)

The good news is that you acquire friends as you move through the different phases of your life. Some stick with you, and others eventually fade away. I have been blessed with three really great friends who have been with me through the hardest times in my life. Then there are a few friends who have been really great friends at different points in my life, but even though they are not my best friends right now, I continue to view them as really good friends. And then there are my high school friends. Sometimes we get together and have so much fun. These are friends that are very different from me now. But we share some very fun memories, and so when we get together, we remind ourselves these memories and our younger days.

Family is also important. My sisters and I are very close, though they are 10 and 12 years older than me. I am also very good friends with one of my brothers. He gets along well with my husband, so we do things socially with them. And then there is my twin brother, with whom I spend the least amount of time because we have the least in common. Funny huh? :)

Just go through life filling it with people. They will bring much joy and support to you as you take your life journey.

[flag_n_twirls_FP_10]

for me i keep a few close friends...not like i dont have many others that i know and talk to but i only keep a few close friends that i keep full contact with daily...i know i am known and that that means a lot...i am known for good things...not just popularity...but to me popularity is not how many people you know and are friends with it is how many of those friends that really know you and you know them...

at my school the most popular kids are those that are in the band and flags because they are the true people...they do not have fake personalities nor do they have friends with somebody for money or possessions, but instead because of personality and similarities, and we are like a family, a huge family of 100+ members

and also friends are not my whole life, though i may want to hang out with them, i only do that when i am completely done with school work and have spent some time with the family, other than that i only see them during school and school occasions like games, practices, and competitions, and a few parties here and there

[Losai]

I don't consider the people who I hang out with or talk to in my day to day as friends. I have very few true friends but those people are absolutely amazing and mean the world to me. I'm quite careful of using certain words.... love, hate, friend... these words carry tremendous meaning to me.

My acquaintances however.... they come and go. I know this and while I may miss some from time to time I recognized our relationship for what it was. Family can be amazing but not everyone has a great family and I suspect few have a great family all around (into the extended). Not to say they aren't out there though

[MyGallimaufry]

I still think the world of several friends I had in grade school and who remained friends through high school. We remained friends even when they went off to college and I did not. Alas, I moved away from my friends when I was in my early twenties, and I have not seen any of them since (although I spoke on the phone to one of them, and have corresponded, a few times, with him). But I made no real friends in high school, and miss only one person from high school (a guy in the class ahead of me who went to my grade school, with whom I worked for a year after graduation). Those friends from grade school that were friends of mine through high school. . . We went to the same church, and we had a genuine affection for one another. Interestingly, other than church activities, I don't think any of us did that much "hanging out" together.

[KeepOnRollin]

True friends are not over rated and I have found a need for them in my life. I think that your definition of "friend" will change over time and you will find that true friends are a necessity.

[House]

it doesn't matter how much time you invest in your friendships/relationships because odds are that after high school you won't have the same friends and you won't be in a relationship with any one form high school

[parker_xox]

yes, but true friends are the most precious things in the world.
they really bring happiness.
its just a matter of meeting the right person who just CLICKS with you and you know you'll be inseperable.

[funnycat]

Friendship is the most beautiful in life .

[black_lady]

I wasn't cool at high school. Never tried it, never wanted it. I was the weird kid, the smart one, the mysterious one, but never the cool one. And guess what, I had much more fun than the cool kids did - out of school :D

[happyhippie1965]

I used to be "popular" in high school, and i invested so much time and energy into a bunch of meaningless relationships that no longer exist a few years after graduation.

I should have spent more time with my family, and studying, instead of tryin to be cool. My family are the ones who will always be my best friends.

I have some friends that are over-rated. I'd better not nane names though.:(:mad:

[debbiestrange]

I used to be "popular" in high school, and i invested so much time and energy into a bunch of meaningless relationships that no longer exist a few years after graduation.

I should have spent more time with my family, and studying, instead of tryin to be cool. My family are the ones who will always be my best friends.

As percentages go, in the world of psychology, teens pay more attention to what their peers think than what their parents think. This has been researched over and over again. It isn't until the child reaches adulthood, usually around 21-25 that their cognitive growth catches up with them and they realize how simple minded and selfish they were as kids. Don't worry yourself over it...your kids will do the same thing, just as kids have done foryears and years.

[Educr1]

ive been out of high school for 8 years now, i dont want these people back in my life.

Neither do I. By the way your photo is very beautiful.