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Anyone reading my blogs will have gathered that I am very indecisive in the love department. I wrote about the trauma of my divorce and I was reeling as a result of the pain that came with it. We argued, I shut that door and concentrated on my new relationship.
And suddenly my ex is being very nice, polite and unusually conseiderate of my feelings. I get the feeling he is trying to 'engage' (one of his words) me somehow. I don't know what he wants but I will keep my distance for fear that I may consider having him back in my life. He really hurt me and I can come up with a million reasons why it would be a mistake to be back with him.
But I want to ask the divorced people one thing- Do you ever come to a point where you feel absolutely nothing for your ex? And i mean neither positive nor negative feelings. I get by by blocking him from my mind and focussing on other things because I can descend into a rage or depression when I thin about him. Do you ever really get over your ex husband?
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Posted by ffeeona on 2008-04-14 07:08:30 | Rating: | Views: 92
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I don't think you ever really get over your ex. Not because you want them back, but because they've taught you a lot or you've learnt alot about yourself from them.
However it is important that if you've closed the DOOR you should not go back through it.
Good Luck.
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-04-14 07:19:49
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Oh man! You never?! Well, i guess its a fact and you can't really do anything about it. I think the other problem is that neither of us has recently cemented a new life with someone else, (as in getting married or having kids) so there's always that feeling that its not too late. Love decisions are by far the most difficult decisions yo make!
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Posted by ffeeona
on 2008-04-14 07:52:17
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I know you hate me commenting, but I think if your ex treated you bad, you should focus on that and never forgive him. if he was sorry he wouldnt have done it in the first place
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Posted by southernsun
on 2008-04-14 08:00:44
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My mum would ask.... are you a camel/donkey/cow? Chew the grass spit it out then eat your own vomit... It's the same thing as you keep going back to someone who doesn't deserve you. You spit him out then eat his again. It's all metaphor!!!
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Posted by Deana
on 2008-04-14 08:13:43
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No southernsun I don't hate you commenting, i'm not sure why you got that impression. and you're right, I was just expressing that its hard to get over it.I haven't responded to his "advances" and do not intend to do so.
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Posted by ffeeona
on 2008-04-14 08:35:33
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point taken guys thanks. I'll concentrate on building a new life
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Posted by ffeeona
on 2008-04-14 08:37:14
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My mom and dad divorced when I was about 18. They were still concerned about each other. She had known him since she was 12. They actually really bonded over me. I was a trouble maker. If not for that the "how are they doing questions might have simply gone through. She did help me take care of him when he was dying. My father was alot older than her. I digress. I think each situation is different.
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Posted by Faith
on 2008-04-14 14:52:46
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