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Weird Friends on 2008-04-30 09:20:25 |
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Really? well i've stopped talking to my weird friend and have realised that she isn't really a friend anymore. What holds us together is nostalgia from college days and we no longer have anything in common. Its quite a strange situation to be in.
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Conservatives on 2008-04-30 09:13:16 |
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to rose22, i don't think i really understood the part about "small c,internationalist" please explain. I have read your blog and enjoyed the one about the coffee. I like mine not too hot, sweet and white (or shall we call it brown) what does that say about me?
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Conservatives on 2008-04-30 09:02:34 |
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thanks guys for your comments. I thought i should ask because the more blogs I read (mostly on the topics of sexuality, social roles, religion, politics) the more I'm startled by how old fashioned I sound. Just wanted to know if people who think like me still exist!
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A bunch of F-words, and 4 Ps too... on 2008-04-30 08:54:16 |
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nice article!
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A bunch of F-words, and 4 Ps too... on 2008-04-30 08:53:29 |
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nice article!
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Ask me Out on 2008-04-30 04:47:49 |
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thats your opinion, maybe he should date you. maybe he's too good for me, true. But i'll not lie about what matters to me. I'll not sugar coat the concerns I have because what I say is in earnest. If these things are not important to you then you are a lucky girl (I think),maybe I'm a bad person, thats the deduction you have made. But thats you, and thats me. We have different lifestyles, ambitions and standards.
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Putting yourself First on 2008-04-30 02:18:52 |
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thanks!
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Death on 2008-04-30 02:16:08 |
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thanks a lot for your comments! I'm happy that you find them meaningful. As for being older, I'm 30 so I guess that makes me just a little older (lol) I think I've experienced a little more than you and some of it hasn't been so good but some has. I hope you have better luck than I have!
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First day of Spring and I was mad on 2008-04-28 10:37:58 |
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i know exctly what you mean. My husband used to do that a lot and I was always so tired from taking care of the baby (first baby so I was in hyper mode) and he used to complain that I was never in the mood and too tired to fool around and that would make me even more pissed! But you know what, if he at least sobers out when it really matters and he's there for you for the really important moments then there's something worth holding on to. Keep at it, and teach him to treat you the way you want to be treated but start by treating yourself!
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marriage cheating on 2008-04-28 09:30:33 |
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i'm not really sure. I don't think he's do this if he really loved her.
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marriage cheating on 2008-04-28 08:21:12 |
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so true!!
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toxic ex on 2008-04-28 02:23:15 |
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thanks for your comments. He did eventually come to pick him up (yesterday in actual fact) and I guess thats that for now. Its just typical of him though, he's really very difficult to understand. I'll just have to see how it goes.
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Blunder! on 2008-04-23 10:12:43 |
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well turns out he hasn't checked the site out so yeah!
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pregnant man on oprah on 2008-04-16 05:23:33 |
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i agree with you totally! I mean what is the whole fuss about? 'He'is a lesbian who has decided to have a baby and wants the whole world to applaud! A woman having a baby, hmmn, happens everyday..
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motherhood on 2008-04-16 05:20:29 |
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I love your article and know what you mean. My son is 41/2 now and I wish I could remember how it felt to hold him as a baby and smell that wonderful smell of milk and baby powder. Babies are wonderful and they do grow up so quickly. I'm going to have to have another one just to relive those days! :-)
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Married & Single on 2008-04-16 02:59:10 |
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of course, they know how to treat all women, except of course their WIVES! I think that anyone who dates a married man deserves to NEVER find true love herself, and deserves to NEVER get married or find someone who will love her enough to want to marry her because in my opinion, dating a married man is a very selfish act and it shows that you do not respect the sanctity of marriage.
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there is no agenda on 2008-04-16 02:47:44 |
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Amen.
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Love on 2008-04-16 02:42:03 |
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THANKS
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The Physio, Coco the Clown and Me on 2008-04-15 07:08:21 |
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a really good laugh!
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She's not heavy, she's my daughter! on 2008-04-15 07:05:15 |
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I really enjoyed reading your article and it really does teach us a valuable lesson about what is important in life. its also very well written!
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Children on 2008-04-14 09:19:38 |
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thoughts - support on 2008-04-14 08:49:34 |
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right
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When is it really over? on 2008-04-14 08:37:14 |
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point taken guys thanks. I'll concentrate on building a new life
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When is it really over? on 2008-04-14 08:35:33 |
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No southernsun I don't hate you commenting, i'm not sure why you got that impression. and you're right, I was just expressing that its hard to get over it.I haven't responded to his "advances" and do not intend to do so.
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When is it really over? on 2008-04-14 07:52:17 |
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Oh man! You never?! Well, i guess its a fact and you can't really do anything about it. I think the other problem is that neither of us has recently cemented a new life with someone else, (as in getting married or having kids) so there's always that feeling that its not too late. Love decisions are by far the most difficult decisions yo make!
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Blogs? on 2008-04-14 07:43:41 |
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whats wrong?
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Bad Memory on 2008-04-14 03:48:37 |
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I'm so sorry you went through this. It is really socking and I think you really need to see someone about this, tell your mom, see a therapist. You are still young and you need help before this scars you permanemntly, its not too late. see someone who can help you. None of this was your fault, you were just a child.
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Family Issues on 2008-04-14 03:00:25 |
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thanks Faith. I feel better now that I've made that decision. Its better to avoid confrontation.
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What is wrong with me? on 2008-04-14 02:54:15 |
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THANKS GUYS, ITS GOOD TO KNOW i'M NOT ALONE!
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Disenchanted on 2008-04-14 02:45:28 |
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yes I do actually. All that ranting actually makes me feel better. And I am already singing a different tune; the saga continues!
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New Twist-Love Interest on 2008-04-14 02:41:02 |
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Thanks guys. I guess I was upset about the fight that we had that day. We talked about everything after I sent the blog and Í realised that I'm putting a lot of pessure on both of us in the relationship. The thing is we did date before and we broke up when things started to get serious. I broke it off because of the money issue. We argued a lot after that and after considering all the points I mentioned, I decided to stop talking to him altogether. But he is the only person who really understands me and I really believe he IS my soulmate. When I fought with him what made me really sad was that I couldn't tell him about it; he is the one person who I can tell all, even about my feelings towards other guys. and that is where the problem lies; I love him. All the stuff I mentioned in the article is true and they do get on my nerves but the fact remains, I want to be with him. And even after I wrote the article, I called him, angry as I was. Even when he gets pissed with me and I with him, we continue to call eachother and I am relieved when the fighting stops. What a messed up situation!
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living in a third world country on 2008-04-11 10:36:12 |
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yes you're right. hoping to travel a bit and come down your side for a bit of retail therapy..there's nothing to buy here!
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Straight up confused and uncertain on 2008-04-11 07:09:20 |
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love the article, esp. second paragraph (One line). I feel that too sometimes.
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Blog 1: The forming of ideas: the shaping of thoug on 2008-04-11 03:07:46 |
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wow, great article! you must be an academic of sorts! I personally find it enthralling when someone expresses feeling in a manner that I would not have thought of myself. BRAVO!
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Infidelity... on 2008-04-10 10:36:36 |
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great post!
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Finally! on 2008-04-10 09:46:46 |
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wow, there are men who are happily married. I'm considering remarrying and I'd like to find out how long you've been married because I really wonder if and how men can stay happy after being married for a while.
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the truth about my child..... on 2008-04-10 09:26:34 |
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I've never read anything so powerful on this topic. Even though I've never experienced it, I can feel your pain. But you need to forgive yourself, whats done is done, and don't allow your pain to stop you from loving your Amelia completely. I think you need to see a therapist because you sound like you're experiencing a lot of pain. Pray about this, God will give you relief.
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Family Issues on 2008-04-10 09:17:52 |
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thanks for that. I'm now focussing on people who have a positive impact in my life.
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Soulmates on 2008-04-10 05:43:38 |
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I think I know what you mean. I'm almost dating this guy who I swear is my soulmate. He really 'gets'me and I can say ANYTHING and he understands. It doesn't feel like an effort being ith him and I don't need to explain myself, he knows me.
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Go.. on 2008-04-10 03:07:05 |
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whats wrong?
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The First Post on 2008-04-09 09:32:23 |
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Well thats a start I guess. That was pretty much how I felt when I first wrote, now I am addict. I have finally found an outlet for the stuff that goes through my mind but none of my friends really want to know. Its GREAT!
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Should it be, all about me? on 2008-04-09 09:22:36 |
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WONDERFUL POST!
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Nobody's Listening on 2008-04-09 09:19:27 |
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I was so touched by your article. I have felt that way many times and I AM listening.
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Chin up ... it's not so bad ... on 2008-04-09 06:11:25 |
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Though I can't relate to the financial aspects of divorce, I can soo identify with the pain of watching the person who shattered your life walking away and marrying someone leaving your life in tatters. It's very painful to watch the perpetrator skipping off and starting a new life with someone else while your life is seemingly in ruins. And its true that it only takes a small thing to trigger all the negative emotions. I deal with it by avoiding him altogether and telling my friends and family not to talk about or tell me anything about him. I simply do not want to know. And remember that he probably takes pleasure in your pain, don't give him that satisfaction. Try to focus on the positive elements of your own life and your kids, its hard but it will be ok one day.
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child/New man worries on 2008-04-09 05:56:15 |
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I see what you mean. It's very difficult to let someone into your life when you have suffered abuse in a previous relationship. But I think time is what you need. Time to assess the situation and see if this new man deserves you and should take a permanent place in your life. Perhaps what you may consider doing is to keep your relationship between yourself and the guy before involving your child.I say this because if you introduce him too early, your children will always end up sharing your disappointment if the relationship ends. Only when you are confident that the guy is there to stay should you involve your children.
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Love Again? on 2008-04-09 03:21:01 |
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I see what you mean. I guess I'm just worried that I'll end up being the breadwinner should we get married. I really love him and he has been very patient with me and puts up with all my b**s**. Sometimes I think I'm afraid to love him you know, I got divorced two years ago and I'm so afraid to commit to someone. I know its stupid because he is a totally different person but I don't want to be hurt, and its easy to find fault in the relationship so that I have a good reason not to take it seriously.
I know he's struggling financially (he too got divorced a year ago and his wife took everything) and sometimes I just feel like giving him or loaning him money but I know he'd feel pretty bad if I did that, and another part of me is not really sure I'd be comfortable doing that. I come from a very traditional society where men are expected to provide. My ex was reasonably well off and we had just about everything but he is the coldest man I have ever known. But my boyfriend (is that what he is?) is attentive, loving, patient and really wants to get married and have a baby, and I want that too but I'm nervous about his financial situation. But I also feel bad for making such a big deal out of it, he tries so hard to show me that its not important.
We can spend a whole day together talking and doind simple things and I feel so good being with him. I wouldn't mind spending all my time with him, he holds my hand, rubs my feet and listens to my problems, joys and anxieties. All this has made me realise just how much he means to me. Thank you.
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Of school boys and alpha males on 2008-04-08 05:14:32 |
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i found it hard to follow your blog after the first two paragraphs...what was the point?
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Stressed out on 2008-04-07 08:30:52 |
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girl it sounds like you're in quite a situation. I personally feel you don't need to give up your dreams to support someone else. If he really is your soulmate, he should know how important your own ambitions are..and I'msorry to say that he may well be taking advantage of your generosity and just sitting on his arse because you've got his back. you deserve to have a life too!
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Men who need so badly to be touched on 2008-04-07 08:22:51 |
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just wanted to know, are you a prostitute?
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I'm in love on 2008-04-07 08:06:00 |
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Well, I understand what you're saying but I do understand him. I guess its a question of values really, my worry is that when all the euphoria is gone and we're faced with bills then what do we do? Maybe it won't matter i don't know but I'm used to being spoilt and sometimes I get frustrated when I'd like us to do things together and he withdraws because he knows he can't afford it. maybe I should pay more attention to him and help him out.. thanks
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