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Live in harmony by showing love for each other.
Be united in what you think, as if you were only one person.
Philippians 2:2
_there was a couple who consulted a marriage counselor and asked for advised on how they could lessen their arguements. the counselor gave them an assignment to be submitted the next time they'll come back; to make a list of what they admired about their spouse. after a week, the couple came back but now so different from the last time they drop by. they thanked the counselor and came back no more. what magic did that list do? a quarelling couple, in just a week turned so loving and understanding just because of a list?! yes! it's no magic, maybe miracle but is so real!
_finding one's fault is so much easy. that even in your first meeting, you could point out hundreds, if not ten of his "faulty" characteristics. those that you find "not normal", unconventional and are not "so good to your eyes". yeah, for example, the man beside you in a coffee shop or someone across you during the ride. you can think of visible unwanted character that he has that you do not like. it is so easy to find someone else's faults. this leads, in a relationship of blaming and quarelling. we all have flaws and will have much than we could possibly think or even imagine. why did the counselor did not asked them to list those they do not want from each other and then discuss and make an agreement for them to adjust to each other's fault? simple, it would take almost a lifetime for them to finish and find solution to the numerous item in the list. that would cost the couple bankruptcy and worse, they'll never fix what they are trying to fix. you will have more flaws, i tell you, as you age.
_even though it is hard, the counselor knew it will be hard, the couple tried to look at each other on a different angle. we usually see the flaws on a person and see him as a big flaw. that is so wrong! we are not giving him the chance to prove himself good. that made it the "list" magical. it made the couple find traits from each other that would made them like the person more. instead of looking for bad things that would made them hate each other more, the counselor made them see each other's beauty and it worked! it will work on you too, on us. if we could just ty to learn that each one of us has the other face of the bad coin, we will have a harmonious unity with each other. just accept the fact that each one has flaws, and that include you! you have flaws too. yet you want to be accepted. you want to belong and not be left out.
_making one smile by noticing his good side made not only him smile but you, your heart, others and God smile too. putting a smile is not easy, especially when you can't find a reason for yourself to smile. but, try to paint a smile on someone. you'll see the magic how that smile would make you smile too.
_make yourself smile by making others smile. |
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