tOll Gate: lOve's cOld sTage

         they say that love is a process. a cycle with phases. it has its own beginnings and ends. starts, filled with joyous laughters and harmony. hilarios ends filled with agony and sorrow. but, we've stacked ourselves in this two phases that we never realize that there is still another stage that could make or make thge realitionship!! this two phases misinterpret everything. we are blindly focused with the ends and the beginnings of every relationship. the so called COLD STAGE!! the phase which still remain unnoticed. Undiscovered by many, took for granted by those who knew about it and they end up full of "what if's" and "if only's".

         i am not sure if many of you havew heard about this thing. or maybe you've been through this and just like others you let it past without doing anything, and now you're having a very hard time mending a broken heart. cold stage doesn't really explains its purpose. most of the time, our first impression when we hear this word is that "its time to let go","its not working",or " it is enough. but, this can also mean thata we must " think things up", let's talk","we can get through this", "hold on".

          this stage helps us decide about how are we going to keep our relationships. it can help us realize whether we should continue or we just have to stop. at this stage, we start to notice some not so ordinary changes with our love ones. we start to be paranoid about this changes. i do believe that once in a while in every relationship, we encounter this "crazy things". imagine this, you were perfectly in love with each other, building dreams anad future with each other, spending cloud nine together, then suddenly, you just woke up one day asking a very simple yet tough to answer question, "it is still love i feel for this particular person?" you'll notice that the temperature between you is tOo high, you always argue even about small things, you always find mistakes etc. and because of this horrid facts, you have to make a very important decision. you have to ask yourself whether you'd continue and patch things up or just stop and let each other go? you have to decide whether you can still be with this monster or let go of the angel? as what i have said IT CAN MAKE OR BREAK THE RELATIONSHIP!!!
         
         some get through this and live a happily ever after. but, not all of us lives a fairy tale. most of the relationships end because they made the wrong decision. many people thinks that letting go is the best way, but we dont realize that if only we can work things out and  be not afraid to take risks and second chances, or just take time to understand the cold stage and have faith, maybe, it can still work. we still have the chance to live a happy, long lasting relationship with the ones we love. humans are known for giving up that easy! only few fights, that's why only few knew about the happiness of life and the irony of love..