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Okay, I had a friend about a year ago and we had a fallen out six months ago and haven't seen her since. I went to playgroup for the kids yesterday for the first time, and she was there for her first time. Ironic, huh?! I gave her my number and told her if she wanted to, she could call me. She hasn't called yet, but that's okay. It's been giving me some time to think things over myself.
I realized that during our six month friendship, it wasn't really a friendship. Of course I was there for her and helped her out. (Just to update you, this was the timeframe when I had a lot going on with my son and ex- husband.) She had stayed with me for a little while (a week) and I told her that she had to go somewhere. She told me that since she was staying with me, she would help me out. She never put groceries in my fridge, or gas in my car. She didn't have a license, so I drove her where she needed to go. Before I told her that she needed to leave, I was talking on the phone with my son's doctor, Nick was crying, and Kaitie was screaming. Guess what she was doing.... she was heating up left-overs for her boyfriend. Remember, she didn't help put groceries in my home. Yet, she was eating it. Whenever she got groceries, she would give them to her boyfriend to put in his home.
Okay, that's just some of it. The fallen out happened when her boyfriend wouldn't 'let' her visit me. My son got approved for SSI and then her boyfriend was more than happy to let her visit. I avoided her for a day or so. I got a message on my phone telling me that she thought that I was avoiding her. Okay, I was. So, I called her up and asked her if she wanted to know why I was avoiding her. She said yes. And I told her exactly ' I feel like you and Austin are using me.' She got upset and hung up. Called my message phone a minute later and left one nasty message. I mean, it was really loud, and rude.
I had done a lot for her. Under the circumstances, I needed the help more. I fed her, sheltered her, and cared for her and two young children with only $300 a month. I really did feel like she was using me. Was I in the wrong? Do you think that maybe she's changed in the last six months?
By the way, when she seen me yesterday, she asked me if I still received SSI for Nick.
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Posted by eternity323 on 2007-11-02 16:02:09 | Rating: | Views: 152
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sounds like she and her boyfriend were both using you for the little money you had...why didn't she just stay with him? I am not one to hold a grudge against anyone but I would tell her that you forgive her for what she did to you and then just look for another friend. People who use others are not worth being friends. as far as the ssi benefits for your son, tell her it is not her business because it is not.
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Posted by friends101
on 2007-11-02 19:54:45
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Yes, she was using you! People don't change easily,so she probably is the same way she was 6 mo. ago. The only way a person can change is through a relationship with the Lord, and it doesn't seem as she has that. Don't worry about her anymore, pray for her and forgive her, that's the best thing you can do for her! Your rewards will be in heaven where they are well protected! I pray that you will be able to forgive her.
Renee' aka jazzilady
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Posted by jazzilady
on 2008-01-22 16:18:56
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