Ok, I know exactly how you feel. It's hard to let go of someone when your heart won't let them go. You need to tell this boy how you feel and see what happens. If he's not a nice guy then you can back out when you see that for yourself. As far as your friend goes, tell her how you feel. That you are not comfortable with her talking to someone you used to date. If she is a true friend, she will respect you and back off. If not, then you don't need friends like that. Hope this helps some.

You can't expect your friend's to not talk to a guy simply because you like him. It sucks, but it's going to happen. If they do end up being together, you'll get over it (even though it doesn't seem like it right now).

As for this guy you can't get over: maybe it sounds as though he likes you because that's what you want to be reality?

I have the same mentality about crying a lot of the time, however, you have to realize that it's healthy to cry. Once you actually cry and let it out, you'll feel better.