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The Joy of Giving Oral Sex
(2007-06-21 This is when it was first written and posted to my blog site at shoutpost.com)
I have been kicking over this idea, lately, that as human beings we really love giving to other people. Some people like to give money in a humanitarian way. While others like giving gifts to friends, family and even to strangers. We even give of ourselves to help the infirmed, those needing blood or a transplanted organ of some kind. Our nations give money and natural resources till sometimes there is nothing left to give. We were born to “give” of ourselves and to ask nothing in return.
I want to talk about a certain kind of giving that maybe goes un-noticed sometimes, the act of giving pleasure to the men in our lives. There are many ways we can give our men pleasure whether by listening to them, giving a sensual back-rub, or by allowing them a chance to lie back and enjoy great oral sex. Something that you can give to your partner, again the word here is “give” because there is nothing worse for either one of if the other thinks what is happening is “work” instead of something given freely. What I am about to write about is suggestions on how to give good oral sex to your man. I am not a sex expert by any stretch of the imagination and I will be listing websites of where I have gotten my information from. The friends that gave me their opinions have decided that they would prefer to remain anonymous and therefore I will keep their names out of this blog.
The term for oral sex for men is “fellatio.” It comes from the Latin, fellare, to suck. “Fellatio can be profoundly symbolic, for many men, it’s the ultimate in sexual acceptance from a woman. Even when it isn’t, fellatio is an opportunity for the man to lie back and just receive pleasure, which is something many men find very arousing. Fellatio is very wet, which increases the penis’ sensitivity. And most women can be more varied and creative with their lips and tongues than with their vaginas.” (1) One of the best things that we as women can do is talk to our partners. Ask them questions about what brings them the most pleasure and take mental notes on what they have to teach us.
Oral sex doesn’t just have to be fore play but can also be the main attraction. When talking to your partner about his likes and dislikes prior to the actual performance you can actual concentrate on the act of giving him pleasure. Start slow and be sure to practice frequently. It might seem like one person is getting all the pleasure as the other gives it-this is not true; each gives to the other and to themselves: one gives his penis, the other their mouth; one gives his trust, the other their care; one feels the warm, caressing mouth, the other feels the strong, warm penis-and all are pleasing. (13) If you are new to giving oral sex and are worried about what happens after your partner ejaculates. Talk about it first. Don’t go running off to the bathroom to spit if you’re not comfortable, tell him. Make other arrangements ahead of time. You could have something to drink near by to help rinse the flavor from your mouth. You could also use a flavored condom over your guy’s penis, be sure to use lubricant first, then licking and sucking around the condom. If you are with your guy and pretty steady there are certain foods that he can eat that can help change the flavor of his semen which can help make it more palatable. Fruits like kiwi, watermelon, celery, and pineapple are all said to make semen taste lighter. Beer and coffee are believed to have something of an opposite effect, and could leave her with a bitter taste. Alkaline-based foods like meat and fish produce a buttery taste, while acidic fruits (cranberries, blueberries and plums) produce a pleasant, sugary flavor. Most liqueurs will do the same, while dairy products can make for a foul taste because of their high bacterial putrefaction levels. (3) Even with this information it’s still very subjective because some people just do not like to swallow and I say people because I am not just referring to women here.
Personally, I think it’s very tasty and erotic to pleasure my guy through oral sex. I like nothing more than for him to give me pointers as to what feels better for him or to direct me. It shows me that he cares enough about me and our relationship to make each experience even better. I think this is best way to look at something like that. As for whether or not I swallow, I most definitely do swallow because I enjoy the closeness that oral sex gives to begin with but I love the knowledge that I have brought pleasure to my guy. I wouldn’t want to waste that gift of pleasure. Many sites have different techniques as to what makes them the best, that’s up to you and your partner but here are just a few of the ones I have found:
• Mouth Technique. If you're dealing with a soft penis this is a good place to start. You don't always have to wait until the penis is erect to put it in your mouth. You can put the entire penis in your mouth, while kissing it, licking it and/or sucking it. You can feel the penis begin to grow while it is in your mouth. You don't have to start going up and down on the penis with your mouth until the penis is at least partially erect. Then once it is erect slide your lips gently over your teeth and then onto the penis. This allows barely any friction on the penis allowing a good blow job.
• Mouth and tongue blow job technique. Mouth and tongue blow job technique. Try licking the head of the penis, and then use your tongue to lick up and down the sides of the penis. This will make the blow job easier by making the erection wet enough to slide the penis into your mouth easily. Don't forget to cover your teeth with your lips, and slide the head of the penis into your mouth. Once you've done this use your tongue to lick the sensitive areas underneath the ridge of the head and the penis.
• Hand and blow job technique #1 . Place one hand at the base by grabbing (not too hard) the penis which will help keep the penis erect and in position. It can also keep the foreskin of an uncircumcised man out of the way.
• Hand and blow job technique #2 . While grabbing the penis at the base place your mouth on the penis and follow the movement of your mouth up with your hands. Also by alternating mouth strokes and hand strokes it can become sort of a hand job and a blow job. This technique is great for those who gag easily because the hand will regulate how much of the penis will be in your mouth.
• Hand and blow job technique #3. Playing with his balls is a technique that can be very enjoyable. Be very careful when playing with his balls, try to be very gentle. You can even play with the balls in your mouth instead of just licking or stroking.
• Hand and blow job technique #4 . Don't limit yourself the hands can be very useful outside. Use your hands to explore the male sexual anatomy. Use your hands to explore his thighs, stomach, balls, ass, perineum or any other place that will stimulate him.
• Deep throat blow job technique. This is not an easy blow job technique which requires you to take the entire penis into the mouth. The key to learning how to deep throat is to relax the jaw and the throat muscles to stop the gag reflex. (4)
· Snaky-Lick Trick. This involves using your tongue to tease the underside of the penis head. You should use very slight tongue movement as this area is extremely sensitive. Just one upwards lick should be done every 15 seconds. This blowjob technique is said to result in very powerful orgasms. (2)
· Humming. Some men have also suggested that they find it very satisfying when their partners actually hum while the actual sucking is going on.
There are other things to consider when performing oral sex on your partner than just the ones that I have mentioned so far. I think it’s important that we also talk about the other areas of his body that you could be stimulating as well during this beautiful act. Such as running your hands over his chest and even holding his hands while your mouth his pleasuring him.
One of the most erogenous zones on a man’s genitals include the back of the head of the penis, the line of skin that runs down the center of the testicles, and the underside of the shaft of the penis. Try stimulating these areas with your tongue as well as taking the entire penis into the mouth. Another form of stimulation that many men like is to have their perineum stroked. The perineum is the area in between the scrotum and the anus. This area is sensitive when the male is aroused. You may like to try rigorously massaging the perineum just prior to orgasm which gives many men a rush of pleasure. Some men like to have their prostate massaged during oral sex as well. (10) Some men also enjoy having their partners perform Analingus which involves a variety of techniques to stimulate the anal area including kissing, licking, and sliding the tongue in and out of the anal opening.
Yes there are techniques to learn but what it comes back to is that it is a very special act between to loving and giving people. During which I like to make eye contact with my guy during oral sex because I think with such a beautiful, sensuous act to begin with I want to show him how much I love what it is I am doing for him. I also want to be able to see his face, look into his eyes and see what he is feeling as I share this with him. This is a time where I have a chance to show him my feelings as well as how much I care and love him.
Remember communication is the key to performing good oral sex. Here are to 10 Advanced Tips from Libida.com on How to Give a Good Blow Job (Fellatio) :
* Take a deep breath before you take his penis into your mouth to relax your throat muscles.
* This is to prevent gagging if you think his penis is going to touch the back of your throat.
* Use your hand around the base of his penis to control how deep he goes into your mouth.
* Try swallowing when his penis reaches the back of your throat. It kind of tickles.
* You can start a blowjob when your partner's penis is flaccid and stimulate him to erection.
* Pubic hairs in your mouth are normal. Just stop for a minute to take them out & then keep going.
* Use a finger in your partner's anus to massage his prostate.
* Pop an ice cube in your mouth or a mint for extra stimulation.
* Run your hands over his inner thighs as your mouth moves on his shaft.
* Keep your teeth away from his penis, or very, very lightly rub them against him while sucking.
* Not all men come during oral sex. Don't worry if he doesn't - his orgasm is his responsibility, not yours. (6)
I suggest everyone go out and have a good practice.
~Blessed Be
Links used for writing this weeks blog:
(1) http://www.ehow.com/how_1000252_oral-sex-man.html
(2) http://www.bjtutorial.com/how_to_give_a_blowjob.htm#cooliris
(3) http://www.askmen.com/love/dzimmer_100/117_love_answers.html
(4) http://www.icame.com/give_a_good_blow_job.htm
(5) http://www.ehow.com/how_1000253_creative-oral-sex.html
(6) http://content.libida.com/tips/page.aspx?id=be0bf3e9-c7d8-4a1e-8ef7-0732bd4a9824&Affiliate=tsb
(7) http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/blow-job
(8) http://www.gotosextoys.com/how_to_give_a_blow_job.htm
(9) http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html
(10) http://www.freddyandeddy.com/howto/howtofellatio.htm
(11) http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/fellatio.asp
(12) http://www.sagazette.com/oralsexguide.html
(13) http://www.minou.com/aboutsex/fellatio.htm
(14) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rimming
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