I have read this one a couple of times and I wanted to say something positive but I know you might not want to hear anything positive right now but come to think of it maybe you do.

I am not one to do a God quote but "God will not give you more than you can handle."

in other words You can get through it. Your Friends can get through it but they will need you and their other friends and family to help. Like I said right now it isn't what you want to hear but there is no one real answer that we know but Everything that happens happens for a reason.

Believe me I was where you are at a few years ago. A friend of mine killed himself in 2005 not even a year later another friend killed himself and a month later my Aunt died. I believe every death that I have experienced mad me a stronger person hopefully you can come away with a new found strength.

When I started reading your comment, I thought, "here we go with more positive shit that I don't wanna hear," but after reading your quote, you are right and I DID need to hear that. Especially because I've been wanting to take my friends pain and make it my own so they can be free from it. I think part of me felt like I was strong enough to handle their pain and they weren't...but just as I got strong, I know they are or can be too and I know there will be times when I am weak and they will be there for me.

What I just don't understand is He won't give you more than you can handle, however you have people committing suicide because they don't think they can handle what's going on...

Usually the ones that commit suicide are the ones who have not had the family upbringing or they didn't know they had the support of the family and friends.

And also I believe that Suicide is the easy way out and selfish.

I 100% agree that suicide is SO SELFISH!!!

It's always hard to lose people we know in our lives. Maybe if you think of little things as blessings instead of the big picture it might help. For instance, I have cerebal palsy. I wasn't supposed to live long and even if I did I wouldn't have a normal life, I would say that where I am today in regards to my CP is a blessing.

One day your friends will be in a place where they begin to lose people. I've been there. Lost two family members in 5mth period and knew about others' loss.

Its ok to be angry.

Strider

I am definitely angry. It's like I can't even be sad anymore because I'm that angry. When my friend miscarried, I yelled WTF and was basically mad the entire day. I know people tell me to count my blessing, you have a family who loves you, a great job, blah blah blah, but I feel like that doesn't mean I can't be pissed when something happens. For example, a rape victim...Is she supposed to think well someone raped me, but at least I didn't get pregnant or get a disease?? I mean I know it can always get worse...believe me, everytime I thought things couldn't get any worse, they sure as hell did, but damn...

Hey hunnie...I totally understand why you are feeling how you are feeling....That is why one of my favorite quotes is "Life is a bitch, than we die.", because to me it is true...Last year my best guy friend was murdered, he was like a brother to me, o my gosh I feel apart...I was also abused almost all my life, by my parents and was a cutter, anorexic, bulumic...So yes I understand why you are feeling how you are feeling....


Well take care and much love!!!


xox Samantha xox

Thanks Samantha. And I use that quote a lot...

I lost my mom 4 short years ago, and its like since she is gone, a part of my reasons for being alive, has been cut short.
Yes its probably true that "life is a blessing" but when family members and friends die, a piece of your "life" is being yanked away from your heart. Its a cross we will all have to bare...one I don't like at all. Now THAT......sucks.

...dani

You are so right. When I was at my friend's father's funeral, I thought how selfish it was of God to take away people we love...but then I realized that it's selfish of us not to let them go. At the same time, my mom ALMOST died a few years ago and anyone else in that situation would have more than likely died. She hates when I tell her this, but I mean it...If she would have died, I more than likely would have killed myself shortly after.