Thoughts.com Blogs - PRIVACY....... A CHOICE TO SHARE!

   I have been chatting with my friend AGAIN and here I go posting on her AGAIN....Heck, if not for her life sometimes I wouldn't have anything to bitch and talk about......but bitch I must do. Maybe someone else has experienced this same thing and they would understand better than me.
   She likes to keep her life fairly private for obvious reasons. She posts just what she wants anyone to know and on this site feels pretty safe doing so. We all do at times. But there are some things she has kept private for her own reasons. I don't know her reasons for doing so but thats not important, the thing is it's what she has chosen to do.
   She had been communicating with another person on line and has kept that to herself. She cares a LOT for this person I think, even more than even she cares to admit. She has continued to say things like "I hope to meet someone" or "Someday I want to fall in love". Most if not all people would assume she hasn't met anyone at all, but the truth is she has. Is he the right person for her? Only time will tell!
This guy has taken offense to the fact that she hasn't acknowledged his existence and keeps saying those things about 'not having met anyone yet' is wrong. He was pretty shitty to her today and she is very upset. Does he have the right to be upset or does she? Is the fact that she has kept this 'relationship' private wrong? Isn't it her right to keep what she deems private to herself? Is he understandibly angry with her? He wants her to say "He is here", "He does exist", "I think I have found the guy".
She just wanted to keep it between them and make sure it was real. Today they had an arguement (a bad one it seems) and it was over the issue I have explained.  Is she being the hypocrite? Is he being unrational? Do they both have a case?
   Shouldn't she have the personal right to not share what she doesn't want others to know? I personally know of relationships online here that the people involved didn't want to get out. They still said things like 'I want to meet someone'. It just seems to me that your privacy is the only thing we have left in this world. Once its 'out there' you no longer own it, the world does. The world is privy to your most intimate secrets. So why wouldn't someone want to hold that close for as long as she wants? I'm not sure what she will do but the entire thing may be moot now bc they are not speaking and that is the real shame. These people care for each other a lot and if whether or not this relationship is 'public' or not is what it teeters on then maybe its better to let it go. I hope for their sake it can be worked out.......seems like a waste of two good hearts otherwise. TY

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