So i've been out of the game for awhile. Not to bash the system by calling it a game, but whatever it is, be it a dance or what not, I've been without practice. I am not complaining here at all, I never had much of a desire to be in the competition, but either way all my cards are now in. This game that I am referring to here is the dating game.
Having moved on from a relationship of almost four years I find myself back on the field trying to figure out how to play again. All at the same time it is exciting, enjoyable, scaring and oh so confusing. This confusing part is why I sit here writing this. I am confused about how to initiate, how to carry through, the speed in which to carry it out, etc, etc. Making this more confusing is the new development of this gal entering into my scene in which I would like to ask out. I am hesitant as to where to begin this whole thing.

This situation with the gal is interesting in that we have no connection that we know of. The extent of our relationship as of now is eye contant at school. We do not have class together or some sort of activity. We only see each other as we pass by so its not like we have something to go on here. Being so where do i start this. How do I enter into the broadest form of a relationship with the girl w/o having a distinct connection with her?
What do girls even look for in the initial interaction between themselves and a guy? Does that initial conversation determine it all? I sure hope not. I rough at this, never been much of a dater, let alone a pursuer. Although i wouldn't consider myself so, i do want to enjoy the joy and excitement of dating. As if i need more thoughts rushing through my head, i also want the joy and excitement of a secure relationship. Ya know, that person that you can look at in the eyes be completely satisfied with because of the joy that radiates from them. I want this too, but am having trouble telling myself it takes time. So I am stuck in this point of wanting to go and date while also wanting to have a secure solid relatioship.
I guess i have only one choice and that is to take it day by day and see what the Lord brings. If He has it take months or days in getting to know this girl or another, only time will tell.

In the meantime i will make the most of every opportunity. This being the case, step by step i will being the dance, the compitition and the game of dating, may the best win.

peace