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Was the Governor’s wife a jealousy woman?
The answer to this question we may never know, and it is not important that we know whether or not she was a jealousy woman, the most important question here is, “are you a jealous man or woman?” Jealousy has been around from the beginning of time. Satan was jealous of God, so he seduced Eve in order to get them to turn away from God. Jealousy has destroyed many relationships and will continue to do great harm in the future if we don’t confront it head on.
Jealousy is the fear we feel when we perceive that someone else has, has had or might one day have – jealousy does not confine itself to a simple present tense – the affection of our partner. In other words, it is related to loss. In the event of physical disloyalty, whether real or imagined, there is also a sense of outrage. To experience jealousy is to suffer. In its extreme form, it is like being locked in a furnace, consumed by flames of rage, anxiety and suspicion. We have been usurped; our self-image plummets. If we do not know all the facts, we are pulled in two opposite directions –desire, on the one hand, to have our worst suspicions confirmed; on the other, to have them proved wrong. How then can we tame this complex, self-destructive emotion which gnaws away at the very fabric of our relationship?
The first thing is to remind yourself that, unless you have proof of unfaithfulness, your jealousy is based on a perception, not on a reality. If you are jealous by nature, you might be reading into your partner’s actions a significance that doesn’t exist. For example, let us say that recently he or she has started going to the gym more often, and that this keenness has coincided with an attractive instructor starting work there. You have seen them laughing together after class on a couple of occasions. You might start to imagine the worst. But, when you consider the bare facts, you have to accept that your partner is only being friendly.
In arriving at this conclusion, you might realize that it is, in fact, your jealousy that is the problem. If so, you will make little progress by telling your partner how you feel and asking them for practical reassurance (by spending less time at the gym or by changing classes).
The best thing you can do at this point is to begin working on your self-esteem: unfounded jealousy almost always stems from a profound insecurity, a sense of being unworthy. The most effective way to sustain a healthy relationship is by discovering who it is exactly your partner is in love with – in other words, by getting to know and be yourself more fully than ever before.
Stop worrying about Mrs. Governor, and start worrying about your own relationship. Look into the mirror and see the real you. Ask yourself, am I being the best wife or husband that I can be? Am I pushing my partner away from me by nagging him or her about other women or men? These could possibly be the most important questions you may ever ask yourself in light of what has happen in the Governor and his wife’s relationship. Be good to yourself and be good to your partner. Live today and tomorrow will take care of itself. Be Blessed.
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Posted by davistheblackeagle on 2008-03-14 06:55:17 | Rating: | Views: 186
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Hello, Davis! Another great blog! What you said about jealousy is so true, wow, two sides. Sometimes we want to confirm the suspicions for personal validation and other times, we want to prove them wrong. Sometimes, in the same breath.
Yes, the core of jealousy is fear and lack of self-esteem, usually unfounded. Hopefully, unfounded is what I really want to say! Sometimes, I found that my intuition was right on the money, too. Not every time, but near the end of our marriage, that was the case.
Thank you for this post! You offer such clear-sighted, concise blogs, inspirational blogs. We are happy you are among us.
Peace and God bless you.
Much love,
Ellie
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Posted by Ellie2008
on 2008-03-14 17:41:14
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It is true that we are always attracted to what the rich and famous are doing. We are so busy analyzing other people's affairs, so we forget to take care of our own's.... Great post. Thank you for reminding us.
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Posted by Gwatlan
on 2008-03-15 03:26:55
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Thanks Ellie, I am blessed to be here and found you and so many other wonderful people. What a great place.
Much love,
Davis
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Posted by davistheblackeagle
on 2008-03-15 20:24:46
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Gwatian, I thank you for stopping by and allowing me to be a part of your daily thoughts.
Much love,
Davis
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Posted by davistheblackeagle
on 2008-03-15 20:26:22
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Thank you Erica for stopping by and considering the thoughts that went into writing this post. Your comments are important to me, because they continue to help me formulate my thinking to a higher degree in order that I may continue to write and be a help to others. Please do stop back often.
Much love,
Davis
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Posted by davistheblackeagle
on 2008-03-16 23:22:23
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