It gets easier...my husband and I just celebrated three years. That's the hardest part, when it's not just you anymore. I don't mean to sound cliche but, if you guys love each other, you will work it out. Good luck!

You are truly so far ahead of the game... you know what the issues are, and what would happen with and without her... and you know you are headed in the right direction with her by your side. That is awesome. You should print this post, and keep it up to remind you for when things get really tough. And let her know you appreciate her, and what she brings to the table... compromise, love, appreciation and you'll do great! Hang in there :-)

It is hard... I have the very same problems sometimes, except I'm the one who was in control. I still have to be in control. I just can't let things go and not know what's going on. But my new husband has already said, you control the finances... he knows that he is really bad with money and has evidenced this to himself for years. I put my foot down and refused to be in debt FOREVER and to let either one of us just run about the town blowing money. But we had to find a happy medium. He can't go and buy something everytime a wild hair gets up his butt and I can't be the tight wad I want to be and not let us do anything. It will balance and you will find the level point. She obviously has high expectations for you and for your life as a couple. Try to see where she is coming from and raise your own expectations of yourself. Achieve small goals... note them, celebrate them and let her know. If she knows you are *truly* making an effort, she will loosen the reigns a little. For instance, save up $300 and give it to her to go towards bills. She will appreciate it and realize that you are IN this. Then say, hey, I'd like to save up $300 for such and such... she won't be so hesitant to say, "Cool, I think that's a great idea and you deserve it honey!"

Hope this helps. Check out my marriage blog... I just got married and just started it.