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I have been married 3 years and everything is perfect. I love my husband, he is good to me and I wouldnt change him for the world. I go to college and I have a class that required me to go to an elementary school and volunteer as a teachers assistant for class credits.
When i went the principle assigned me to the schools elementary art teacher. When I saw him I was struck. It was like love at first sight or something, or lust. The thing is, nothing like that ever happened to me before AND I'm 22 and he's 39.Im NEVER attracted to guys that age but I was to him.
I spent weeks with him and he always seemed to want me around. I would tell him that I could come once a week and he would tell me to come everyday. We would talk like if we new each other longer and we ad so much in common. He would always lean on close when he would talk to me and put his hand on my shoulder or lap. I started to like him more and more. I would get extremely nervous when I new I had to go to the class and I would make sure that my hair, makeup and perfume was looking/smelling good.
I feel terrible cuz hes married with kids and Im happily married as well. But Its been 2 months since Ive seen him and I still think and fantasize about him.I never did anything with him but I am like completely obsessed with him.I feel like I am emotionally cheating on my husband.And I feel that if the Art teacher would proposition something I would give in. He wanted me to keep coming even after completed my requirements so I lied and told him that I couldn't because I started a new job, just to avoid anything from getting out of hand because I do not want to cheat but I feel that I would if I had the chance. Is there something wrong with me? |
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Posted by crystal000water on 2008-01-09 02:25:29 | Rating: | Views: 144
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Hi friend,
I am feeling for you. There is nothing "wrong" with you. It's hard to ignore this kind of thing. But, I've got to tell you my view of this. This 39-yr-old is an emotional predator. Why would a married man entertain an emotional affair? He has children, that makes it phenomenally worse. He is involving them in this, willingly. I applaud your wise decision to not meet with him after your assignment, that takes a lot of character. and I'm not saying you're not very special, but if you don't give in to his approaches, he will find someone else who will. Because this is him, hunting for something that shouldn't belong to him. He made a promise to his wife, and now to his children and he wants to break it.
I must be forthright and tell you that I'm currently on the other side of this situation. My 36 year old husband of 11 years is cheating with a 22-yr-old college student who lives with her parents. We have a son who is inexplicably hurt by all this. His view of his dad is changed forever and as he grows, he'll understand more. I don't care how commonplace divorce becomes, it is hell on earth, there's no other way to describe it. He filed for divorce, I've moved out, we have joint custody, and it's hell. Happiness doesn't come from chasing things, it comes from knowing who you are and seeing people as God sees them, wonderful, beautiful creations. That's my take. Love to you!
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Posted by BrokenBeautifully
on 2008-01-09 12:07:27
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Thank you guys so much. Youve made me feel so much better and more confident. Ive always known what the right thing to do was and Im glad that I was strong enough to resist this temptation. The only thing that sucks is that I still think about him. But I guess time will erase that, hopefully soon!
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Posted by crystal000water
on 2008-01-09 14:51:38
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Atleast you know you were wrong for feeling that way. And good job at not putting yourself back in his presence... I am sure his 39 year old butt had a ego boost when he realized he got your attention. Who knows, but stay faithful to your husband. I always try to put myself in the other persons shoes-would you want your husband sweating a hot chic?
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Posted by luvneverfails
on 2008-01-09 16:29:06
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People can't help who they are physically attracted to. It's like telling the average woman not to think Brad Pitt is attractive. But you handled the situation very well. You didn't cheat on your husband and you made sure you wouldn't see him any more so the oppurtunity would never arise. That's a hell of a lot more than many other women would have done. Eventually you will stop thinking about him, he'll just be a memory, as long as you do what you are doing and stay away. Your husband is very lucky he has a faithfull wife like you.
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Posted by STRAITJACKETJANE
on 2008-01-12 07:14:03
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