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I read today a blog on Suicide. It prompted me to write here, as it explored both sides of the story fairly evenly. Some people think of suicide as being selfish and/or cowardly and/or pathetic. Some find that it is a very brave thing to do. I sit niether side of the fence, and both. Having lost my closest friend to suicide, I recognise the horrific aftermath. The days when I shouted (and sometimes still do, but rarely) at the headstone with her name upon it, for being selfish, and leaving me, or causing me so much pain, but mostly I'm left just wondering why she couldn't come to someone and felt it was all so bad hse had to be gone. On the other hand, I can't help but think, not how brave someone is, because I think it's desperation that drives unfortunate souls to suicide, but how desperate one must be. And how much pain they must be suffering.
This leads me to what it was I wanted to say. People are wuick to judge having read osme of my entries, usually I write having had a particularly bad period, or am feeling especially trapped, but often people never realise that when I speak out, it's because I don't know how else. What you see on the screen, is usually precisely what's happenig inside my head, it's just I don't know how else to get it out. People think that wanting to be thinner is a crime, but it's not, what's wrong is when you force that upon others, which is never, hase never and willl never be my aim. Maybe you don't agrre with my thoughts, and that's good, where would we be if we all agreed? What I do find not just irritating, but somewhat upsetting is the amount of judgement people exercise over me. The chances are that 1 in every 15 people you meet has suffered the voice in their head that tells them that the are fat, and therefore, worthless, hopeless, useless, unworthy, and weak. If it was your son, daughter, mother, father, aunt, unlce, cousin, or friend, would you be so quick to judge?
I'll leave it here for now, before you start to tire of my ramblings, but the moral of the story for me is always that there are two sides to it. Maybe more, and the idea should be to reach comprehension, and exercise compassion, to be better people, and to better ourselves, all of us.