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So I commented on a couple of posts by the above named blogger today and now feel like I need to get a few things off my chest, and then lay the matter to rest. I believe in speaking out if you don't agree with something, and defending yourself, because if you don't who will?
The blogs were about 'gays' and how being gay is sick and wrong and I felt I had to say something. I'm not gay, but I am a tolerant open minded people who doesn't make judgements on others based on my own opinions on what is right.
Because I dared to challenge this persons opinion, presented as a fact, that all 'gays' are 'sick' and need counselling, I recieved a rather sarcastic comment on one of my previous blogs, saying that its funny I am cheating on my husband yet I feel free to comment on his remarks about homosexuality. This comment also suggested I take a look at my own life and have a rethink.
It wasn't even what was said that angered me, after all if I am to have an open mind, I need to accept that people will think differently to me. But when people present their own mere, insignificant oppinion as if it were fact, thats what angers me.
Its the main reason I have never believed in religion as a positive thing. Because it seems to me it gives people carte blanche to go around degrading and insulting anyone who does not share their beliefs, and it is people like that who have caused many of the problems the world has today.
I'm not against Christianity at all. No way would I ever be against any religion that offers those who believe it in some comfort and direction, because that is a wonderful thing. It's the attempt by some to force it on others I find reprehensible. Who has the right to do that?
I also believe only one person knows how I feel about what I have been through in my situation and that is ME.
Of course I know that cheating on my husband was wrong. That's why I agonised over my situation for months before finally taking action.
I'm not a hypoocrite. I didn't marry in a church, before the eyes of God looking down on me. I married in a registry office and made a legal promise to be faithful to my husband with every intention of keeping that promise. As it turned out, I couldn't keep it up. I'm human, sue me. I made alot of mistakes that I am not proud of, but David is not one of them.
I had a long talk with my husband last night, after giving him some time to come to terms with everything, and he agrees its for the best. It hurts him, and me too, but it wasn't working and its a relief to us both now one of us has finally accepted that and made a step forward.
The only person I owed an apology to was my husband, and I did apologise. So did he, because he played his part.
Sometimes marriages fail, sometimes we make mistakes, sometimes things don't work out how we planned them to, even with the best of intentions, which I had when I married as a naive 19 year old.
I'm not answerable to anyone regarding my behaviour, and certainly not to someone I have never met who knows nothing about my situation or what I have put myself through with sheer guilt over the last year.
I don't think I will bother commenting on anything else they have to say, not because I fear the retaliation (as a sociolgy student, there's nothing I love more than a good debate) but because I would be wasting my breath. Some peoples minds are just too closed. So I guess we will just have to agree to disagree.
I can do that, no bother...doubt he can though....
Regardless, I shall be the bigger person, and gracefully retreat, thankful that my family have been more forgiving and that they love me, in spite of, and often because of, my imperfections.
I'll take that over anything religion has to offer.
If anyone wants to offer an alternative to what I have said (my mere, insignificant oppinion) I welcome them to do so...but if you want to tell me what I should and shouldn't be doing and/or feeling...don't bother.
LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDS and this is a free world where I shall continue to live my life in the manner I chose, accounting for and owning up to my mistakes when I make them...and allowing others to do the same. |
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Posted by chebtastic1 on 2008-01-20 12:38:59 | Rating: | Views: 70
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Religion is for people afraid of going to Hell
Spiritually is for people who have been there
Great post ... Well written. I totally agree with the thoughts presented here. I have a problem with religion also. There is to much condemnation and judgment in this world. We cannot know every single detail of a person's situation because we don't walk in their shoes. Compassion and understanding need to prevail.
I have read most of your posts and feel you made the right choice leaving your marriage. I know you anguished over the decision. The only person who has to feel right about it is you. When people attack and criticize it's because they are not at peace with their own beliefs. It's not about you ... it's about them.
I don't know if you are familiar with DifficultSoul who blogs on thoughts. She wrote a post regarding homosexuality entitled "Is God Gay". If you go to her blog look under "Blog Archive" then click November, 2007 it's the first post. Peace and Love To You.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-01-20 21:00:14
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Thanks for your support and for introducing me to the blogs of DifficultSoul, she seems to be along the same mindset as me on so many things, but is much more articulate!
Thank you and peace and love to you too! xxx
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Posted by chebtastic1
on 2008-01-21 17:25:06
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