| chebtastic1's Blog Comments |
| Posted in
Big Is Beautiful!!!!! on 2008-02-29 12:33:55 |
|
Wee_star - OMG does that mean I can expect to be a 40G or H...how will I stand up straight?? They will enter the room ten minutes before the rest of me does!! Lol x Thanks for your comments xxxx :-) xxxx
My1Heart - Thanks also for your comments. This will be my first baby...I reckon my man would like a couple of kids, but I will wait and see what this one feels like first! Lol xxxx
|
| Posted in
"My Father's Straw Hat' on 2008-02-29 07:55:18 |
|
A lovely post. There is something very unique and special about the bond between father and daughter, but above all, please remember...its unbreakable. In life, and in death.
Thanks for posting this very personal account of a man who clearly means alot to you xxx
|
| Posted in
On and on and on I go! on 2008-02-29 07:37:29 |
|
My fingers are crossed for you...and I'll say no more, totally understand what you mean about the crazy train lol xxx
Thinking of you xxx
|
| Posted in
Hmm...ideas? on 2008-02-28 20:18:43 |
|
You know...I've been exactly the same, just this past week. It's most unlike me, cause usually I only need four hours or so sleep a night. Of course, the one night this week I decided to go to be earlier than usual, I got woken by an earthquake, no less!
I've found myself exhausted at all sorts of times of the day, and I've got no college work done. I have decided to give myself a day to just sleep in, and sleep and sleep and sleep until I'm all 'sleeped out'
it might be simply that you need to set yourself a rountine, so that your body learns when you need to be awake and when its time to sleep.
I dunno if that makes sense...(its 1.18am over here and I'm exhausted!) but I hope it makes a bit of sense! xxx :-) xxx
|
| Posted in
Splendor of Babies! on 2008-02-28 20:03:19 |
|
I used to cry when I watched a birth on a TV programme...now I will find out for myself EXACTLY how it feels in August. Am I scared? No. Will I be requiring pain relief? Oh yes. Lol x
I can't wait xxx
There's just something incredible and beautiful about creating a life...
|
| Posted in
I Don't Derserve It... on 2008-02-28 18:12:41 |
|
Wow...thank you so much for your kind words. I feel like all my life I've been fighting a constant battle with self-confidence and self-doubt.
I have found that with David's love has come a stronger love of myself...but I still have more than my fair share of 'moments!'
I really, really appreciate your comments xxx
|
| Posted in
Just when I thought all was lost.... on 2008-02-28 17:07:14 |
|
I gotta say...there's really only ever been three members of the Royal family I have been particularly fond of - William and Harry and the Queen Mother - okay, she was a bit of a drunk and liked a gamble, but boy did she live her life and she always made me giggle. I read somewhere once that at a family dinner she had the kids in hysterics doing an 'Ali G' impression.
As for Harry...I think what he's done is great. He had to fight beaurocracy to be allowed to fight in the army and its wonderful that he did it when he could've hid behind a desk. Gooo Harry!!!!
|
| Posted in
Im here without you. on 2008-02-28 11:27:51 |
|
lovely...thanks for posting xxx
|
| Posted in
HAPPY BDAY TO ME on 2008-02-28 06:54:23 |
|
Happy Birthday xxxxx
|
| Posted in
Rumble in Urban Jungle on 2008-02-27 16:43:04 |
|
I'm in Nottingham too and it woke me up quite abruptly. At first I didn't know what was going on, and I was still not totally awake. I remember thinking...oh, another earthquake...and then, like you, I just sat and watched the house shaking!
Today everyone's been saying how terrifying it was, but like you I was just thinking...wow!
Its not the first...and it wont be the last.
Better than anything on TV though! xxx
|
| Posted in
For My Man...My David...My Soulmate... on 2008-02-27 05:53:29 |
|
ColoradoDreaming - Thank you for yet more kind words, I'm glad my posts make you happy and smile.
Someone asked me the other day if I regret time 'wasted' with my husband.
I had to say...no. Nor do I see it as time wasted. In most things you have to be wrong sometimes, to recognise when something is right.
I learned so much about myself through my marriage, that made me who I am, and without that...maybe when I met David I wouldn't have appreciated him half as much as I do now!
I hope that makes sense!
Thank you for your comments...you're too kind xxxxx
|
| Posted in
For My Man...My David...My Soulmate... on 2008-02-27 05:46:39 |
|
Twilight...thank you so much for your kind words. I too am thoroughly thrilled to know there is someone out there who is going through exactly what I am. In a way (not that I needed it) it's like it validates how I'm feeling, in the sense that I'm not exaggerating or worse, imagining it.
I'm so happy I can't find the words and I'm so pleased you feel the same way about your Elf...what we have with our partners is so rare. Truly, we are so lucky.
Here's to a very happy future.
|
| Posted in
Moment of stupidity on 2008-02-26 07:52:56 |
|
Oh my God thats aweful! It wouldn't happen over here, because of Human Rights laws (I'd like to think anyway). God, thats ethically and morally wrong surely!
Mind you it just goes to show (in the most extreme way) that sooner or later, things come out.
I'm stunned that the TV people were allowed to get away with that...and as you said...she ought to have seen what was coming, and known when to stop!
|
| Posted in
The Beauty of Grief on 2008-02-25 19:13:38 |
|
Beautiful...thanks for sharing. And I completely agree. When my father passed suddenly, me, my mum and my sister were instantly drawn together and are now very close, where before we were not.
I am so grateful for my memories, and am no longer focused on how sad I am to have lost him...but on how lucky I was to have him to begin with.
Thanks for a lovely post. xxx
|
| Posted in
Always & Forever <*3 on 2008-02-25 18:50:38 |
|
Every time I read your posts...its like I am reading about myself.
My friend...you and I are in the same kind of love. The kind that keeps you awake at night because you cant calm yourself down enough to sleep. The kind that makes you stop in the middle of the day and just wonder...what are they doing right now...the kind of love for someone where you would die for them, where you cannot believe just how perfect you are for each other, its mind-blowing...
Nothing has ever made me happier than I am now, no one but David...and the one thing that makes me happier still...is to find someone who is also in this kind of love...the kind that passes most people by...when you meet your soulmate.
I'm so happy for you xxx
|
| Posted in
The two choices we face on 2008-02-25 10:41:16 |
|
I also wanted to add one of my late dad's favourite quotes:
'Better to do and regret, than regret not doing.'
xxx
|
| Posted in
The two choices we face on 2008-02-25 10:40:05 |
|
I completely agree...I have never felt more fulfilled than since I stopped sitting around and went back to studying, knowing I could do so much more. And the day I got the letter saying I was accepted for University was the greatest moment of my life...so far.
I never want to stop learning, and growing as a person.
As Oscar Wilde said 'Shoot for the moon...if you miss, you'll still land amongst the stars.'
A lovely post, thank you x
|
| Posted in
Your personal Oscar on 2008-02-25 06:44:05 |
|
The Color Purple...or pretty much anything with Tom Hanks in it...I love their movies.
I like alot of the British comedies too though, some you may or may not have heard of...films like East is East and Brassed Off, which I hear they had to put subtitles on in the US on account of the strong Yorkshire dialect!
'in a month's time when you're sittin' at 'ome and there's nowt but dole comin' in, at least I cn sit there too and know that I did summat - it weren't much, but it were best I could do and at least it were summat!'
Work that one out! lol x
I like that film because its about the dissection of the coal mining industries (and with it the communities) in the 1980's...and it forms alot of my political views today.
It's hard to narrow it down to one film, though. I guess any film that makes me think...or scares the living s**t outta me!!
|
| Posted in
LOST: ONE CUP SIZE! OMG on 2008-02-24 17:44:07 |
|
awe...thanks! (blushes). I hope so too. xxx :-) xxx
|
| Posted in
LOST: ONE CUP SIZE! OMG on 2008-02-24 13:43:38 |
|
To lastblastkl: An E is right! As in Eeeeee my Gaaawwwwdddd lol x I'm a big girl though (Uk size 18/20), so I guess I'm kinda in proportion! Chebtastic is a Geordie (Newcastle, UK) term...meaning big boobs! Lol x an acquired nick name...have to say I was called worse as a kid and I look at it this way... 1. they give my man hours of fun (not displeasurable to me) and 2. my baby will certainly not go hungry! lol x
|
| Posted in
Glasgow, London and Me on 2008-02-24 11:44:13 |
|
Congrats on the weight loss! And the award...I'm still looking forward to the Newcastle gig xxx
|
| Posted in
LOST: ONE CUP SIZE! OMG on 2008-02-24 11:41:07 |
|
Hehe...I have the opposite problem.
I lost about 5 stone (even though I didn't diet, dunno how it happened!) which I guess is about 60lb, but I didn't lose my boobs, infact they seem to have grown. I went up 2 bra sizes! I was a D, now I'm an E! Dunno if the size thing is the same in the US of A but thats pretty darn big.
The crazy thing is, I just found out I'm three months pregnant so they're only gonna get bigger! Yikes!
I think I got mine and my sisters, as shes very flat chested.
They're the only part of my body I totally like so long may they stay...although I am slightly worried that when I hit 60 I will find myself tripping over them...sigh...lol x
|
| Posted in
where are you from?????? on 2008-02-24 11:25:38 |
|
Good for you! Would you believe in England its technically illegal to display the St Georges cross flag in a public place? It's madness and sad, but true! Be proud I say! xxx
|
| Posted in
Just Joined .... and why on 2008-02-24 10:56:57 |
|
Hi,
I'm a great believer in us being shaped by the people and places around us...its that, and not genetics (or not just genetics) that shape who we are.
I'm a sociology student and there's nothing I love more than a good discussion/debate! Just don't start me off on religion - it'll never end!! lol xxx Wecome xxx
|
| Posted in
Atheism,God,etc...[[I'm bored, so have at it]] on 2008-02-24 10:51:43 |
|
I'm an athiest too and I believe in evolution. I can't explain nor prove it, and I don't mind that. I like not knowing it all and believe life would be very boring if everything could be proved and completely understood.
There's no clear cut proof of the evolution theory...but then theres no clear-cut proof of the thoery of creation either. So as I say...each to their own. xxx
|
| Posted in
Why God Never Recieved a PhD on 2008-02-24 10:39:49 |
|
Haha...fab. I'm printing this off! Thanks xxx
|
| Posted in
Belief in God on 2008-02-24 10:38:13 |
|
I don't believe in God either. I have had a million debates, heard many sides and opinions and I don't believe in God.
I don't know how creation came to pass, but I don't feel like I need to know either. It's nice that we as human's don't know everything. We are not as smart as we like to think, we don't have the answers to everything.
The enjoyment in life is from trying to find out, not in finding out, in the same way as the journey is always worth more than the destination.
I prefer to focus on my journey (my life) rather than the destination (where I will end up when I die).
As an athiest I am constantly made to feel that I am some sort of evil person who just hasn't found the 'truth' yet. However I stick to my own beliefs and this is, after all, a free world.
My parents were agnostic and left me to decide for myself. When I become a mother, although I am an athiest, I will do the same for my child.
Thanks for the post, I was beginning to wonder if I was alone with my thoughts! xxx
|
| Posted in
faverite quotes on 2008-02-24 10:20:10 |
|
Hehe x a few more for you:
You know you're not totally drunk if you can lie on the floor without holding on
I'm not paranoid...everyone IS out to get me!
If they can send one man to the moon...why cant they send them all!
Dont steal or lie - the government hates competition
...and on a t-shirt I bought my man for Christmas...
Body of a God...shame its Buddha!
Thanks for making me smile xxx
|
| Posted in
Two down front please... on 2008-02-24 10:13:46 |
|
Its both your points is why I am an athiest. Because I see religion as such a negative tool, used to at best make people feel guilty, at worst to out-right judge and condemn them. A platform to point at people and say 'haha...I'm better than you'
I know I will get lynched for saying that, but it's just my opinion.
When my baby is all grown up I will let him/her reach their own opinion on religion but as for me...I want no part of it.
A great blog, with some great and interesting points. xxx
|
| Posted in
teaspoons on 2008-02-24 10:05:53 |
|
dunno where they went, but if you should hear from them will you ask them if my pens are there too - there's never a pen to be had in this house when you need one!! lol x
|
| Posted in
Good Day from London! on 2008-02-24 07:58:46 |
|
Hiya...its true, London is very expensive. And its true, there are some stereotyped views of what 'Americans' are like.
But I will say this - there is also a stereotype from all visitors that all of England is like London - its really not.
London exists in its own little bubble, the reality of England gets deeper the further north you get, cause its strange but the further up the country you go, the cheaper things are, and the more manners you will notice, because things are far more personal.
Life is harder in the north, jobs are scarcer and people pull together.
I have been to London and felt invisible, and been to Newcastle, or Liverpool and felt like part of the family with almost complete strangers.
I love London but couldn't spend more than a day there. I'm going to LIVE in Newcastle.
I would recommend anyone who visits England, if they can, to venture out of London as much as possible, to get a clearer view of the country as a whole.
Im glad on the whole you enjoyed your visit though! xxx
|
| Posted in
Philosophy and thoughts on life, death, love, ect. on 2008-02-24 05:37:10 |
|
I really really like your philosophy, especially with regards to death.
My father died very suddenly when I was nineteen and I was the unfortunate one that found him (though every day I am so thankful it was me and not my mum).
For years I just couldn't get over it. I couldn't get past it and it was like I died too.
I found no answers in religion (I am an athiest), but I needed to get it straight in my head. Then someone said to me, simply...'don't be said you lost him...be glad you had him in the first place.' And that alone put it all in perspective. The best way to respect those who meant something to us is to remember them when they are gone. It is the greatest tribute of all.
I went back to living my life, keeping him in my heart. I went back to college and in the Autumn I will be going to University, something I know he would have been thrilled about.
Love knows no boundaries. It is infinate, unbreakable, eternal. Death cannot interfer with love. Death cannot kill what never dies. LOVE NEVER DIES xxx
Nice to meet you
Peace and love xxx
|
| Posted in
God? on 2008-02-23 16:56:53 |
|
Hi Mariedo,
I'm not religious, I'm an athiest. But I am human and not as a general principle 'anti-religious'
I believe its purpose is to control people (sometimes but not always a bad thing), to alievate fear of death and simply to give people faith, which in turn gives them peace within themselves.
As a human I try to live by a moral code, so I know the difference between right and wrong. Like all people...sometimes I make mistakes but I don't think I'm a bad person.
Religion is not for me, and I doubt anyone could convince me otherwise, but I am still happy and I'm not a bad person, even though I've done bad things. I owned up to my mistakes and have done the best I can to repair them.
My philosophy is live and let live...I don't tell others what to believe and ask they don't try to tell me.
I think its good you're questioning things - to question is to have an open mind and eventually you will come to your own conclusion that you feel comfortable with and with that comes peace.
Peace and hugs to you xxx
|
| Posted in
Get the F*** outta my bar! on 2008-02-23 16:43:36 |
|
We dont have tipping in the UK, and the wages aren't that great...what your bill is, is what you pay. I think that's much better - if you get great service, you can leave a tip but its not expected...I think thats better and far less uncomfortable. Getting chucked out is a bit harsh though! If its not madatory surely that suggests an element of choice? Or is it just that there APPEARS to be a choice. Either way...how embarrassing.
How crap that in a country like America, where the economy is supposed to be so wonderful...people are expected to live on 3 dollars an hour. Wow... xxx
|
| Posted in
Blond Joke 1 on 2008-02-23 11:38:30 |
|
haha...I'm a blonde, and I admit...I'm a bit of a ditzy idiot sometimes so I think in the nicest way there's something to the blonde theory! Haha x I recently dyed my hair brown as I always wanted to be a brunette, but alas, my family will tell you...I'm still a ditzy idiot...sigh....
Funny joke xxx
|
| Posted in
Do we really want honesty? on 2008-02-23 11:34:36 |
|
I completely agree. Everyone here always boos Simon too (he's on the X Factor over here, Pop Idol is purely for you guys now). I'm the only one who always says...at least he's honest! He told a young girl once that she would never be good enough to be a professional singer and he was right I reckon. Her family had been telling her she was the next Whitney Housten but it just wasn't true. They came in yelling and bawling and he told them straight...you're doing her no favours by lying to her.
I'm all for encouraging kids to reach for the stars, but there is a need for realism too.
I think you're right...people are constantly asking questions they don't wanna hear the answers too. But in something like the music business I'll bet there are a million people like Simon Cowell...so if you can't take his criticism, you wouldn't last five minutes anyway!
I think regardless its always wise to have a fall back.
Great post. xxx
|
| Posted in
Newcastle and Comedy on 2008-02-21 20:27:22 |
|
Oooh...a night of comedy and a fabulous excuse to visit my Geordie fella again! I'm there! :-) xxx Thanks xxx
|
| Posted in
My Life so Far on 2008-02-21 18:22:01 |
|
I used to be very introverted and solitary. The absolute best thing I ever did was making myself go back to college. I was kinda forced out of my comfort zone, had to work with people, talk to people I didn't know...and I was terrified. I was for a while on auto pilot before I realised - hey, I was doing it, little me on my own. I'm not making a lot of sense, but I guess what I'm saying is sometimes you just have to face things that scare you or make you uncomfortable and just do them...the boost to your confidence combined with the rush of adrenalin and fear will make you feel so much happier about yourself. I've got to go through it all again when I start University in October, and try somehow to balance that with having a baby in September, but although I'm terrified...at the same time I can't wait!
Good luck with the job! xxx
|
| Posted in
She/he is not my type....a question on 2008-02-21 13:57:16 |
|
The things I do or dont find attractive about people tend to be traits rather than physical attributes, or rather thats more important.
My non-types would be guys that don't know how to smile, and rude men...manners are so, so important to me.
I like my men big and tall (not muscley as such, my man has a 'jelly belly and is over six foot tall and wide it seems!). And if they're not tactile...they just don't do it for me at all. I love my cuddles! xxx
|
| Posted in
Love, Is It Okay? on 2008-02-21 13:47:54 |
|
Love is always okay...real, true love is so much more than okay. No matter who its for...another man or another woman. Love has no boundaries, because it is a feeling, not an action. Did that make sense?? xxxxx Peace n love xxx
|
| Posted in
An Angel Kissed Me on 2008-02-21 13:43:54 |
|
And I was thinking of someone as I read this...it gives me great pleasure (of the kind words cannot do justice) to say that I have found my angel.
Thanks for another beautiful post. xxx
|
| Posted in
Valentine's Day Follow up... on 2008-02-20 05:51:10 |
|
Awe, what a shame. I went to Newcastle for the week to be with my man. He had made a tonne of plans for Valentine's Day, culminating in a meal at an Italian restaurant on the seafront in the evening. I knew he had little money though, so leading up to it i managed to convince him the meal was not necessary (although he wasn't convinced).
We spent the morning having a lie in, in the afternoon I took a test and discovered I am three months pregnant (!!!) and in late afternoon/early evening, we took a walk down to the beach. It was cold, wet and very windy, but we sat on a bench on the promenade, wrapped up warm and ate fish and chips right out the paper...it was absolutely perfect, and a million times better than the meal in the posh restaurant would ever have been....(sighs....) xxx
Hope next year goes better for you!! xxx
|
| Posted in
"Did everyone on here run to Vegas?" on 2008-02-20 05:44:07 |
|
Ooh a debate! I agree with EasyToSay its hard to read something and know for sure if a person is being genuine or sarcastic or whats intended - I wasn't, I was smiling when I wrote that and intended nothing unfriendly...
If it wasn't for the internet I'd never have met my current partner - many have said that if I had spent less time on the pc and more talking to my husband I might have been able to save my marriage - however I disagree. I was prepared to talk, tried to for six years...trouble was he wasn't prepared to listen.
Anyway...I digress. Completely agree - there's a saying 'True love comes not from seeing the perfect person, but from seeing an imperfect person perfectly' - that is, to see someone's flaws and love them in spite of, or often BECAUSE of them...or not, as the case may be. Just because the previous generation did better at marriage (lower divorce rate) doesn't mean they were any happier necessarily. I recently saw something in the paper about a man who was married for 60 years until he lost his wife - he had 4 kids, 13 grandchildren etc...and on his 95th birthday, surrounded by his family and friends...he announced he was gay! That he had always known it too, but had chosen to ignore it! I know that will open another can of worms (can't wait for that, lol) but it just goes to show...there's nowt as weird as people and their ways and you just never know from one person to the next the facts or reasons...the beauty that comes from the fact that we are all different.
And I should add that I for one, am not very articulate, I get tongue tied very easily, so if I need to vent...the easiest way for me is to write it down.
That's the beauty of a site like this...it lets you air things you might otherwise have trouble saying.
Ooh...I love a good debate. Sorry for hijacking your page whiteknight! xxx
Smiles for everyone :-) :-) :-) xxx
|
| Posted in
"Did everyone on here run to Vegas?" on 2008-02-19 12:19:01 |
|
As for why we were unhappy and why our marriage failed...I mistook loving him for being in love...and he believed as I did, that that would change over time. I also feel that for a long time I forgot who I was, I stopped being me and became 'Mrs ....'
Don't know if that makes sense. xxx
|
| Posted in
"Did everyone on here run to Vegas?" on 2008-02-19 12:15:37 |
|
Being on the internet IS interacting with real humans (unless robots have taken over them!) The internet is just another way of communicating, a mark of the world we live in today. If you are indeed in la la land, (and aren't we all...), then so are the people who read your blog and write their own on here. Aint it fun?? Sorry...just had to say that! Hehe.
With regards to your blog...I think that people change as their lives progress...for some couples thats not a problem, for others it means that they are just no longer compatible. I believe thats whats happened to you, whiteknight, and to me too. Sad? Yes it is. But for alot of people its just how it goes. Strength lies in recognising that its happened, and eventually acting upon it.
Thanks for your comment on my last blog btw...and peace to you.
|
| Posted in
Where I Belong on 2008-02-19 10:27:45 |
|
Wee_Star - Thank you...I am thrilled, though a little apprehensive, as I've been through the pain of miscarriage before. However, I won't dwell on that, because as a believer in fate, I feel that now I am with the right person things will go okay.
ColoradoDreaming - Thank you! I know I will certainly do my best to be a good mum, using my own mother as an example, and better yet, I know for sure that David will be an awesome dad - he's one of those guys who you just know was born to be a daddy! :-) xxx
TwilightAngel - Thank you. I wasn't going to put anything in the blog about it, because we hadn't told anyone about it at that point (and still only his and my mum know about it), but I couldn't resist! As for names...if its a boy, David gets to chose, and he wants Stanley, either as a first or second name, after his dad...and I think Stan is kinda cute. But as I am in charge of the girls name...no ideas yet there! Lol x Maybe that could be a good idea for my next blog...to ask for suggestions? ....Mmm...
whiteknight - believe me, know one was more speechless than me, and especially David, when I told him he's gonna be a dad, and before he is 45!
It wasn't exactly planned, but as I constantly find...the best, the most wonderful and beautiful things in this life...well, they rarely are, are they?
Thanks to everyone for your comments. I'll keep you posted!! :-)
|
| Posted in
Anger and rage. Swearing. on 2008-02-17 08:19:00 |
|
Awe...hun...your home should be a peaceful place that you can come back to and relax in - if this man is taking that away from you, I say kick him out! What he is doing is totally out of order!
I hope everything is sorted very soon for you xxx oh, and thank you for the comment left on my blog ;-) xxxxxx
|
| Posted in
The lil red haired girl...... on 2008-02-06 09:00:56 |
|
I really hope she will be okay...she's so lucky to have you on her side, and as I said before...I'm rooting for you guys and your future together xxx :-) xxx
|
| Posted in
Anyone else fed up with the McCanns? on 2008-02-06 08:54:32 |
|
I do think not enough consideration is paid to the other millions of children who go missing every year and sad to say...I think its an issue of class.
I wonder what would have happened if it had been a single mum on benefits on holiday in Skegness, eating out with some friends whilst she left her kids alone in a room? I don't need to wonder - at least she would've been investigated, at worst torn apart by the police, social services and the media.
My sympathy too is with Maddie, not her parents, as in the process of all this fuss, other parents are going through the exact same thing and getting no help or support to find their kids.
Something about the whole thing just doesn't feel right though, and I've heard alot of people say the same.
|
| Posted in
GPS of marriage on 2008-02-05 18:54:39 |
|
I had alot of people asking me why I didnt just leave months ago...but there were alot of reasons I didn't. It's easy said, not so easy done. When your married your lives just become entwined, mixed up, and its hard to break that (or rather was for me).
Keep focused on that light at the end of the tunnel...best of luck to you xxx I'm rooting for ya xxx
|
| Posted in
My Mock Interview today on 2008-02-05 18:48:26 |
|
We just did this at college...I'm hopeless in interviews too!
I was advised to treat it more like a conversation, not try to be anyone but myself and be polite but relaxed, therefore appearing more confident.
I was advised that if asked what your greatest weakness is, say it but add ways in which you are working on that particular problem. For instance for me I said my greatest weakeness was not having a high level of confidence, but that I was working on it by forcing myself into uncomfortable situations (such as presentations) and I was gaining more and more confidence all the time.
Always end everything you say about yourself on a positive, and that is what they will remember.
Interviews are something that take practice.
Above all just always be yourself xxx
|
| Posted in
So-Called Blind Faith on 2008-02-05 18:34:36 |
|
Thank you...the more I've been reading your blog the more I have come to realise how similar outr situations have been.
Ignore what people might say (or at least try to!) and trust in your heart...if it feels right, it is.
I really hope that you eventually have all that your heart desires, and I believe you will if you hang in there...what is meant, is meant.
Best wishes xxx
|
| Posted in
Mcskills, masters degrees or thinking for yourself on 2008-02-04 18:36:38 |
|
As a Marxist I believe this 'preparing for work' thing is about preparing more people to pay taxes! Of course, I believe having skills for work is vital, we need a decent job to survive and have any decent sort of life. But what about choice?
Whatever happened to the pursuit of knowledge?
I am currently doing an Access course and am going to Uni in September...I love to study and expand my mind. I think I am doing this at just the right time - next year my college is dropping the Access courses and A levels in favour of more vocational courses, to meet the need for a skilled workforce.
They say the academic courses are too easy. I challenge anyone who says that to sit some A levels and an Access course - they are anything but easy!
I recently completed an assignment that was referred back to me because what I had written was correct but didn't meet the assessment criteria. Basically saying I knew too much, more than I needed to. When did that become a flaw?
My sociology lecturer is now leaving to go back and do her Masters because she is so disheartened by the way things are going. The whole system is falling apart and actively encouraging dumbing down.
I think its really sad.
|
| Posted in
Vote for me! (updated) on 2008-02-04 18:27:39 |
|
how do we vote...im new to this! xxxxx
|
| Posted in
Monday, Monday. on 2008-02-04 18:25:13 |
|
It's never too early to think about such things hun. I think it's important to discuss them BEFORE you have kids.
Hubby and I used to talk about scenarios like that when we were trying for a baby. He freaked me out with some of the things he said. I realised we agreed on very little about raising children. I think this was where our differing upbringings really came to the front.
David and I have talked about this too...and we have decided that whereas we cant know exactly what we would do, unless we are in that situation (I think most parenting skills come purely from experience), we have made one promise to each other that we would display a united front infront of our child, and if there are things to discuss (if one of us has dealt with it in a way the other one disagrees with) we will discuss it in private. Better yet, where possible, we will talk about it before taking action.
One thing we are agreed whole-heartedly on is no matter what any potential kids might do, they will always have our unconditional love and support.
I don't think there is anything more important than that.
There is always one parent that is softer, (in our family it was my dad) but I do think when your husband experiences the love for your child, he will mellow a little, so don't worry too much about it.
Definitely talk these potential scenarios out now though, sooner, rather than later.
Good luck and as ever, best wishes xxx
|
| Posted in
Play your role II on 2008-02-04 17:17:50 |
|
I can totally relate to what you are going through. I married someone I loved but wasn't in love with, with the very best of intentions and to be honest I wanted to leave for years before I actually did. People have tried to make me feel guilty for that.
Like you said...I am human and I made a mistake. I am glad there are no kids involved though.
All that aside, to me it takes two to make a marriage and two to break one so how come I'm the only one getting the blame?
There will always be people who think they're better than you...guess all you can do, is ignore them. Your happiness is paramount. xxx best wishes xxx
|
| Posted in
The morning after the night before on 2008-02-04 16:51:46 |
|
Hiya...I will most definitely have fun next week!
Nope...no sign of my period yet. We're gonna do a test next week and find out together! Will be sure to let you know! xxx thanks for stopping by xxx
|
| Posted in
Can the strength of friendship be stronger than lo on 2008-02-04 15:50:57 |
|
elfage2 - without getting myself into a debate or arguement, I have to answer your claim (with the greatest of respect). 'I have never felt pain.' How do you know that? My first love and I had to split because of cultural difficulties which meant we could not take it further without one of us having to compromise our beliefs, which we were not able to do. I was married for seven years to a man who systematically sapped me of all my confidence, thinking it was ok to stop me from achieving my dreams by convincing me I wasn't good enough, who broke my hand, my cheek and my nose and made me feel that no one else would ever want me. Believe me I have had my share of pain, and its because of that pain I can see ever more clearly what I have now and how very special it is. I'm 27 nearly and I've been through more than I'd care to discuss in my blog just yet, but I know what is right for me and I may not have God, but I have total faith in my life and my future with my man. I have found my soulmate and my other half, so there is no way it is going to end. And I do know that for sure. He is the love of my life, and my best friend, and I his, and that wont ever change. Other people might not have faith in that, but we do, and I guess thats all that matters. You are speaking from your experience, not mine, but genuine thanks...I will always cherish what I have xxx :-) xxx
I do get what Whiteknight is saying though too...alot of logic there. xxx
|
| Posted in
Play your role on 2008-02-04 11:21:11 |
|
Know what you mean...I had my auntie lecturing me last night, saying I should have stayed with my husband 'even if I was miserable.' She too was basing every ounce of rubbish that came from her mouth on the girl she used to know me as...but I have changed alot. Of course, according to her I have changed because of my 'new-fangled ideas I got from college...'
Arrgghh...some people are infuriating.
Do whatever feels right to you...a miserable life is a life wasted.
Good luck! xxx
|
| Posted in
Remembering Dad on 2008-02-04 11:12:07 |
|
Beautiful...my biggest regret when my dad passed was that I so wanted to say something at his funeral and couldn't do it, because I was still in such a state of shock. I couldn't open my mouth to speak without sobbing and I always felt I let him down.
I think this is a lovely testament to to someone who was clearly a lovely man. Thank you for sharing.
"He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man."
Peace and Love to you xxx
|
| Posted in
Self Love on 2008-02-04 10:57:48 |
|
Another fabulous post and so true. Touched a nerve as this is something I am only just learning to do...love myself.
Thank you for lifting my day xxx
|
| Posted in
HE rang ME!! Haha.... on 2008-02-04 07:52:47 |
|
Haha...well when I was watching it was 3-7 to the Patriots...but touche whiteknight...hmm...would love you to have a chat with David...lol. Congrats anyway, thanks to your team I'm gonna have a very depressed Geordie on my hands when he finally sobers up! lol x
(Secretly though, I always vote for the under dog...just don't tell my fella that!!) xxx cheb xxx
|
| Posted in
In ur openion on 2008-02-04 07:47:25 |
|
I don't think we are all on the same trip...how can we be, when we are all unique? I certainly don't see my life as meaningless, I might be a blip in existance, but as long as I mean something to someone, my life is worthwhile x
|
| Posted in
Choosing Not to Judge on 2008-02-04 07:44:00 |
|
Another lovely post and very true.
My father died almost seven years ago and I got sick of people saying they knew how I felt (even though they meant it, as people often do, with the best of intentions). How can anyone know how I feel but me? Another girl who lost her dad will feel completely different to how I felt and still feel. You have a better idea, but nothing can be generalised, especially not a feeling.
We are unique and our perceptions are all different.
I try not to do it, but like you said...we do all slip sometimes. We all have our stereotypes and ideas on what is acceptable and what isn't and I think thats fine and normal. Its when we try to force our own opinions on others I find it unacceptable.
As you said...nothing is ever black and white (except I agree on the issue of abuse) and whats abnormal to one person...will always be normal to someone else. It all depends on whose eyes you are looking with.
Peace and Love
Cheb xxx
|
| Posted in
HE rang ME!! Haha.... on 2008-02-04 07:26:54 |
|
Haha...yeah, I'll bet he got teased to death over it. I did think it was very sweet though! I haven't spoken to him today though...partly because he will be gutted the Patriots lost, and partly because he's probably got a truly MONSTER hangover! hehe xxx Just goes to show...you can't win em all! xxx
|
| Posted in
In ur openion on 2008-02-03 19:54:10 |
|
To me, the meaning of life is just to live it...question everything, love, be happy and follow your heart xxx
|
| Posted in
Travelling Nutter on 2008-02-03 16:01:12 |
|
Oh dear...what was that you said in a previous blog about how you attract nutters?? Seems you still have the knack!
Part of why I can't wait to leave Nottingham and move to Newcastle is because I find that the people in the North have far more manners - the further south you go the more invisible you get!
I hope you feel a little better now you're home, take care! xxx
|
| Posted in
Very sad on 2008-02-03 15:09:22 |
|
Awe hun...I'm so sorry. I've been in the same situation, and so I have an idea of how you are feeling. June 4th is the day for me...my baby would have been 6 this summer. People think because you never gave birth, or you weren't too far along it doesn't hurt the same, but it does.
The important thing is not to forget that baby, ever, but find a balance between rememberance and moving on. I hope you will be able to find the strength to see you through the day, and I will be thinking of you xxx
|
| Posted in
SUPERBOWL XLII on 2008-02-03 15:01:00 |
|
All the way from across the pond...New England Patriots!!! It doesn't start until 11.30 tonight here but I may stay up and watch some of it. Meanwhile my man is up in Newcastle having a Superbowl party and he's rooting for The Pats too (he kinda got me hooked!). I don't have a clue what's going on when I watch it...but I'm still hooked! Should be a good game! xxx
|
| Posted in
Marriage on 2008-02-03 14:46:02 |
|
Your post made me kinda sad because my marriage was exactly the same. I was married for seven years and recently separated from my husband. It wasn't that he was bad, it was that he was...indifferent. So blase about everything, so damn lazy.
His mum used to fuss around him and he expected the same from me. Where I went wrong is for a while I complained whilst still doing all those things for him. I guess over time he got good at zoning out my complaining (legitimate complaining!) and focused on the fact that he still got his way.
I believe that was my fatal error.
My advice would be to communicate with your husband at this early stage that you wont be treated like this, because its not fair on you. And if all else fails...I'd stop doing anything for him that he ought reasonably to be doing himself. He'll soon get the idea.
As for your mum in law...mine was like that...no one would have been good enough for her boy. I would just ignore her, or if you can't...don't take anything negative she says to heart. She's only saying it cause in her eyes she has lost her child!
I wish you loads of luck anyway, but above all, remember that we only get what we put up with. It was a lesson I learned all too well, and the hard way.
Best wishes to you xxx
|
| Posted in
Defining Ourselves & Views on Marriage on 2008-02-03 11:26:01 |
|
1. Erm...I suppose I think to a large extend society defines us (although this should not be the case) in that we always seem to feel a desire to 'fit' somewhere. I believe we are defined by labels placed on us (such as 'white', 'black', 'gay', 'straight' etc...) but that we ought to be defining ourselves. Saying 'this is me, I'm a good person...' or whatever. I'm not convinced that makes sense...maybe I'll come back to that later when I've thought some more.
2. Before you can define under and over-rated, you need to define normal, but I don't think this can be done with total confidence. What is normal anyway? A hundred years ago it wasnt normal for a woman to wear trousers!
3. As for marriage. I'm separated and my marriage was kinda disatrous...but I would still marry my new fella like a shot. As WhiteKnight said...if you find the right person it has the potential to be wonderful, and if the person is right for you, there won't be any issues of 'control' but of equality. You will just 'fit' together. The key is to be sure you have the right person, and that's where I went wrong seven years ago...I just didn't have the patience to wait for my soulmate to come along and the consequence of that for me will be being a divorcee at 27!
As usual you've got me thinking...lol
Thanks for another interesting post xxx Take care xxx
|
| Posted in
At work .. on 2008-02-02 14:56:13 |
|
Hi and welcome!
Up until a year ago I could just about switch a computer on...it just takes a bit of practice!
Welcome to Thoughts.com - it is a very friendly sight and no one will mind if your writing skills aren't tip top.
Just have fun! xxx
|
| Posted in
Questioning Myself on 2008-02-02 11:56:38 |
|
I really like you, because of something that you maybe consider a flaw - you question everything. I think this is very healthy, not something enough people do, and better than simply being a passive robot!
I think everyone reaches a stage in their life where they just don't know who they are and what they want. To stop yourself going mad, try thinking about things one at a time, and remember, you don't have to commit yourself to anything. Your thoughts feelings and oppinions will always change, or you wouldn't be human.
I don't believe in God, because I don't believe in the concept of religion really. The bible has been translated and translated badly and then whole societies are based on something so flimsy it causes arguements and wars and lots of negativity.
I know that many people take alot of comfort from religion so I'm not going to say anymore, but its just not for me. My parents were agnostic and left us to decide and I decided it was not for me, too restrictive, too judgemental.
As for being unsure whether you want to date men or women...maybe you just haven't found the right person yet, or maybe you just aren't ready to date yet. Maybes you need to find out who you are before you can offer yourself to someone else.
Don't forget, should you not date til you're 30, 40, 50 or 70...or never at all...there's nothing wrong with that. It's like I was saying the other day...we place too much importance on what society thinks is 'normal' but as this varies from culture to culture anyway...who's to say what IS normal??
The most important thing is to be happy with and within yourself, and this involves exploring, questionning and having an open mind.
I think you will be fine, so long as you don't try to tackle everything at once.
I wish you luck, love and peace. xxx
|
| Posted in
I have failed. on 2008-02-02 11:39:04 |
|
A great post and so true.
I am one of those people who beats myself up when I know I have let someone down or done something wrong.
I am finding that as I grow as a person, I am getting far better at acknowledging when I have made a mistake and taking something positive from it (like you said, the hope of not repeating the action), but I do still tend to dwell far too much on things.
Also, what annoys me most about myself is that although it annoys the hell out of me, and I wish I didn't, I still place far too much importance on what other people think of me. Why? I don't know.
You're right. At the end of the day, the only person who should matter is you and how you feel, because if you are not happy with yourself (or at least content) how can you expect anyone else to be?
Thanks for this post, it really made me think.
xxx
|
| Posted in
Can the strength of friendship be stronger than lo on 2008-02-02 09:53:51 |
|
Agreed. The strength of a friendship, should be stronger...but often love blinds us! The solution I have found in my own life...is I have a best friend, the best friend I ever had...and I'm also in love with him. So we combine the two. Everyone in our lives serves a purpose. We love them all for different reasons, so I think ideally one shouldnt actually place one above another in terms of importance, but try to find a happy balance. east said tho!
|
| Posted in
life as we know it on 2008-02-02 06:19:56 |
|
I agree...and I agree about dogs too. My mum's dog passed away six months after my dad and it was like he died all over again, she grieved with the same sort of depth and no one understood but her family.
I have never had a day of my life without a dog as part of the family...they know you, inside and out and are just wonderful companions (mum has another rescue dog now, she swore for all of 12 hours she was 'never gonna have another dog' before she was down the shelter getting our Honey).
I really like your posts...they are so positive and I think you're a wonderful person. Never met you...but somehow I just know I'm right.
Teddy is lucky to have you xxx
|
| Posted in
One Moment Lasts a Lifetime on 2008-02-01 18:54:34 |
|
A beautiful post and very true...made me think about my relationship as we have shared the same dream many nights...I believe it happens when we find the other half of ourselves...our soulmate. I'm so happy for you, cause I know how wonderful it feels to be in this kind of love xxx
|
| Posted in
Is It Weird I'm Not Jealous?? on 2008-02-01 18:13:47 |
|
Thank you, lol. Yes, that made perfect sense. It hasn't bothered me as such because the thought hadn't crossed my mind at all until someone said it to me, and even then I haven't even considered it to be remotely a problem.
I do trust him, a thousand percent. After all...if he didnt want to be with me...he wouldn't be. That's how I see it. He sees me once every 7 to 8 weeks, it would be very easy for him to finish it.
And yes, I definitely DO think too much...lol x
|
| Posted in
Distressed. on 2008-02-01 17:29:05 |
|
Don't worry...how you feel is normal and I'm sure lots of people have been through the same thing.
When I first got married I was very much so in love with my husband, but whenever we fought my thoughts immediatly returned to my ex. Daft because he was no better for me. But sometimes we don't think logically. It's normal. So long as you're sure you're married to the right person (and that's where I messed up) then you will be fine.
Keep smiling and remember why you married and why you love your husband...that should help you feel much better xxx Take care xxx
|
| Posted in
Porn so good...LOL on 2008-02-01 17:15:20 |
|
I agree with that...all men, as with all women, are different.
My relationship now has just the right balance. He wants me to have my own life, go to Uni and do whatever makes me happy, and would never say to me...'no, don't do that', or 'no, I don't want you to do that'...he is totally supportive. But at the same time is quite a traditional man - chivalrous, protective and ever so slightly old fashioned.
He makes me feel safe and secure without smothering me. I certainly wouldn't want to be in control, I like that he takes the lead, in all things really, and I like that he does so in a way that I don't feel my independence is compromised.
I don't think when we set up home though, that either of us will consider ourselves the head of the household.
|
| Posted in
Complaints on 2008-02-01 13:37:49 |
|
hahahahahahahahahahaha...thanks...just the giggle i needed! xxx
|
| Posted in
i broke up a one yr relationship yesterday on 2008-02-01 10:13:18 |
|
I have been in a long-distance relationship for a year now and literally have never been happier, even in my marriage when my husband and I lived together! If you love someone you can handle it (though granted it is hard) and so long as you NEVER see them its quite possible to be happy. I've actually found it appreciate any time with him far more and though I miss him, we have enough emotional love to see us through til the next visit. Physical stuff isnt the most important part of loving someone. If you are thinking about someone else also, then its not the kind of love that would have survived the distance anyway, or you would have deemed it worth more and wouldn't look elsewhere. I hope he and you are able to move on from this and be okay.
|
|
|
