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The bridesmaids dresses have been ordered at last...Now all I have to do is get my own dress lol!
Scott bought me flowers last night. It was sooo sweet. He bought them because they had a calla lily in the center and he knows how into them I am right now. Sadly...The scent they give off makes me slightly ill...so its a good thing that I am making my bouquet out of silk flowers huh?(and his boutonniere too!)
I am relieved that we've finally gotten at least one thing out of the way...but I am still freaking out at EVERYTHING else that’s left to do!
The biggest issue I am having right now is by far my most personal... my dad. For the longest time he was nowhere to be found. He did not become an active part of my life until I was about 13. His idea of an active parental role was visiting once a year and calling once a month.
After I became an adult he finally created a farce of a relationship with me...and then he proceeded to try and break me, emotionally speaking. I'm sure that it was not his intention to drive me insane or make me suicidal... but he did. He pushed me far past my breaking point.
Now he expects as my father to walk me down the aisle...Not going to happen! He wasn't there! My grandfather is the one who took me to the father-daughter girl scout dances. My grandfather is the one who taught me to ride a bike, how to fish and how to drive. And my grandfather is the one who will be giving me away.
Which leaves me with my main wedding issue... how do I tell my father that I absolutely will not allow him to give me away?
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Posted by catch22 on 2008-02-27 15:42:37 | Rating: | Views: 70
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I understand your dilemma having recently planned a wedding myself. We actually got so fed up with all the little details and trying to make everyone else happy, that we just eloped. It was awesome. But if I were you, I'd just explain to your father that you're not going the traditional route and would prefer to have your grandfather do it because you're closer to him. It's not going to make him happy, I'm sure, but stand your ground. Because hopefully you'll only do this once and it should be exactly how you want it to be. Good luck :-)
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Posted by Thorne
on 2008-02-27 17:47:15
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Hi! I noticed you were Thorne's first visitor and so nice to him so I wanted to come look at your blog! I love your blurb in your profile! I'm 24 and watch cartoons and even sing the theme songs so I totally agree with you....
As for this post, I agree with Thorne. You have to remember this is your wedding and it should be what you want. It might hurt a bit at first but so has what he did to you. If you are willing to understand the things you've gone through because of him and still talk to him...well he owes you this understanding. That's how I see it. I know it's all easier said then done and it shows that you are a kind and caring person to even have these concerns. I wish you the best of luck! :)
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Posted by Duckie
on 2008-02-27 18:06:41
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Thank you both so much for your friendship as well as your insight. Your support means a lot to me.
:D I know that this too shall pass.
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Posted by catch22
on 2008-02-28 16:18:16
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