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Is it wrong to be selfish?
Is it wrong to say no?
Is it wrong to want a life of my own?
It must be
Guilt creeps in all the time
I have a decision to make
Someone will get hurt
but who?
Will it be me
Or my family?
Choices are so hard.
I want to scream,
My head is all over.
I know not what to do for the best.
Is it wrong to say no to help?
I want to help
I really do.
If only it would not cause so much thought.
I should not have to think,
I should know the answer.
My head says yes
But my heart says no!
Has my heart turned to stone?
I hope not.
Arrrgghhh, i need to run.
I need to clear my head,
I have to get out of here.
But i can't,
I am trapped.
Trapped between right and wrong.
But what is right?
What is wrong?
I have no idea.
Whatever i decided
It will be wrong for someone.
Decisions, Decisions.
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Posted by bubblydi on 2008-03-12 14:24:24 | Rating: | Views: 111
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man i wish you werent hurting so,you will make the rite decision, i will say a prayer for you today, peace
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Posted by bjm1
on 2008-03-12 14:51:35
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Have you ever tried flipping a coin, Lovely Di?
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Posted by Pauligan
on 2008-03-13 05:34:34
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People are always pushing us to love thy neighbor, but I like to remind others of this:
A wise book holds this...Love others as you Love YOURSELF.
I like to say that true compassion, is not asking someone to do, anything they would not be willing to do themselves.
It is okay to say no...to have boundaries.
If help is being given out of a pinched heart, then it seems to me, that you are a people pleaser,, and some people take advantage of that.
You make your own schedule, if you have a hard time saying no...try this.
Instead of saying no....
say this:
I will check my schedule, to see what kind of freedom I have, I will get back to you on that.
It gives you time to get brave enough to tell them the truth.
The truth being...I AM TOO TIRED.
You are just a caretaker....
Remember...you are the only one who is going to take care of you...you better do it well.
I love you.
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2008-03-13 10:22:05
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How well I understand, because I just did this myself.
I had to finally put everyone else's feelings aside and do what was right for me. They (people back home) are having a hard time adjusting, but they are adjusting.
This was the very first time I considered my own feelings as well as everyone else's. Before making this move across the country, I rarely considered myself as worthy of my own attention. I wasn't a martyr, nothing that noble, but I did very often push aside what I thought might be best so that others could shine.And for that period in my life, that was the right thing to do. But now I have my own ambitions and I know the dilemma very well.
My highest quality advice is, do for yourself what you might to for someone else. Consider yourself as part of the equation as well as your loved ones.
They will adjust like you have the many times before when you didn't consider yourself. You are worthy of your own considerations. Your opinion matters just as much, your happiness matters just as much.
I did what I did because I wasn't sure if I could live with the regret that I knew would come if I didn't.
You are wonderful...and very much a loving person, your heart will never turn to stone because you do care for other's happiness. Just now, care for your own.
Much love to you my friend...much love.
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Posted by smilinirisheyes
on 2008-03-13 13:11:40
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This is all too common, and yet, not so trivial.
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Posted by SubTomato
on 2008-03-13 22:53:18
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You shouldn't have to make this decision alone honey
i'm here if you need me
i love you x mwahhh x
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-03-14 18:37:17
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Hey...just stopped by to peek at your thoughts.
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2008-03-16 20:01:44
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