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I have contemplating wether or not to break up with my boyfriend of almost 6 months. We have been living in our apartment together since December. I moved in with him with the agreement that we would be splitting everything 50/50 and so far that has not happened. The thing is that I bought out the lease of our apartment with some settlement money so we have no rent but he is supposed to be paying me half the rent each month, half of the utilities, and help with the groceries and so far he hasn't paid up to the agreement. He has only pitched in a total of about $600. He owes me about $1500 and we have only had the apartment since Dec. That is not including all the groceries, entertainment, dog and cat food and I let him borrow $500 so he could buy a used beat up truck. His reason for this is because the state of ohio takes 70% of his check for child support. I try to talk to him about this and he just gets angry and he says that I truely love him I would understand that he is going through a rough time. What about me. I work at a fast food restaruant and make minimum wage. I get some child support for my son but I am starting to run on empty. I don't know what to do. My parents and my friends said that I should kick him out. I don't know if I can. He makes me happy most of the time but I can't keep supporting him and my son on the money I make. Not only am I trying to pay all the utilites, groceries, pet supplies, but I also have a car payment, car insurance, medical bills, and past due credit card bills. Doesn't he understand that I am going through a rough time too. I just can't do this. I am recently divorced from a marriage of 10 years but I don't know if I am staying with my boyfriend because I love him or if I am just afraid to be alone. Would if he freaks out if I try to ask him to leave. I don't think he would but I haven't known him all that long. Any advice??????????  Should I try to stick things out or should I just try to move on. I mean he has 3 kids with 3 different women and I know he has obligations to take care of his kids but why is it my obligation to take care of him. and isn't it my job to take care of my child. Am I just being a selfish person? Am I not understanding his situation. Someone please help me understand. Please I need both sides of the story. And really can child support take that much of his pay? 


Thanks for any help given....
Posted by broken97 on 2008-02-23 19:58:07 | Rating: n/a | Views: 83


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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-02-23 20:19:36
 
i think you answered every one of your own question love. i think you know what you should do and yes i do think you're afraid of being alone. if you knew my living arrangements you would understand. but if you're having this much misery you either need to sit him down and make him listen or kick him to the curb. your child is first and foremost in your life right now. good luck.
 
 

Posted by
broken97
on 2008-02-23 21:04:52
 
Thanks. I just don't want to hurt him!
 
 

Posted by
unreachable
on 2008-02-24 09:57:23
 
I think this blog is maybe exactly what you should say to him, i think he is yes going through abit of a hard time however i think he is self pittying himself abit much and taking advantage of oyuu and youur kindess and hospitality...youur child is the most imporatant person here and i can sort of relate because i have a child too and i think if he doesnt have the paitence to have a civilised or mature conversation about how youur feeling then oyuu should really consider listening to youur head and not oyuur heart...because he says if oyuu loved him youu should understand but if he loved yu he should understand youu and how youu need his help...if not just say to him i need to move home for a while or with a freind because the money situation is too difficult and i need to get back on track...i hope everything goes ok and make sure oyuu put your son and youurself before him because youu deserve that much x
 
 

Posted by
smileforthecamera
on 2008-02-24 13:50:42
 
Clearly you are not happy right now and the longer you stay in this situation the less happy you are going to become. The only good thing about this is that he makes you happy. He can still make you happy without using all your money. Just because you dont live together doesnt mean that you have to break up. Like the others said, you know what to do you just need the courage to follow through. All the best love.
 
 

Posted by
armypunk4077
on 2008-02-27 18:18:19
 
leave him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
 

Posted by
Mamacita925
on 2008-02-29 12:24:26
 
I was there once. It sucks like hell to think of hurting someone else but in the end you could be hurting yourself and your son by staying with him. You deserve to be happy and your son deserves that. Be strong, follow your heart, that's all you can do
 
 


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