... why not talk it over with your daughter.. maybe you can allow her to have an accnt.. as long as you can open it to check on what she's doing...

There is an issue with that because there are people out there who are not allowed contact with her and I dont want them trying to sneak in under an alias to try and communicate with her.....and I don't think im ready to give my 10 yr. old who has already proven before that she is not old enough to trust with something as serious as that. Im sorry there are just to many wierdos out there for my comfort.

Well if you are not comforable allowing her to have one, then thats just it. Don't allow her. Seeing as though she is only 10 years old you still have tons of control. Dont allow her on the internet, schools don't either, so there's no worry there, and just guard her from certain friends, that might pressure her into making the wrong choices.

Her friend did it at her house, I cant control that. I dont even let my daughter go over to friends houses because of situations like this...and the schools do allow them on the internet after they finish their work in comp. lab, thats why im so worried that her friend or someone else will lie and pretend they are a guardian and try and make another.

yahoo has no way of knowing if you lie about your age. I understand being upset and wanting a scapegoat of sorts, but it's your daughter, or your daughter's friend that lied. I'd talk it over with them and tell them your reasons why you don't want her to have an account. I don't suppose it would be that upsetting to a ten year old if they were denied an e-mail account. I mean, after all, how much e-mail would a ten year old receive, except for junk mail.?

did you talk to her friend's mom?....

well... she really is.. too young..

talk to her more... explain why you feel that way.. don't be harsh.. she'll just feel hate towards you..

Well this isnt the first time ive had a problem with this girl, she has also brought weapons to school and has been suspended. So I think im going to talk with the principle and I reported the abuse to yahoo and filled them in on the details so I am waiting to hear back from them.
She is too young, and if you read my first blog you will see why its out of the question trust wise and age wise.

Thank you guys for your comments by the way :)
A lot of people look but dont answer to help.

this is a very valid point. there are crazies and weirdos out there. it's very hard to keep tabs on your children these days, and i'm not even a mother and i know it. i have friends with children around 10, and they have email accounts through KID FRIENDLY SITES. you can check out sites like zoobuh.com. these are kid friendly email sites. i wouldnt think a yahoo email was nessisary for a 10 year old. also, contact the school. since thats the other place she has intenet access. they can set controls from their admin systems as well as lonog as they are notified. and as for friends, let the friends parents know prior to her going over there that your child is not to be on the internet. you can set high parental controls with sites like kidswatch.com. hope this is useful :). have a great day!

Oh and communicate with your daughter :) left that out. if she is comfortable with YOU, she will come to you for questions.

Thank you, I just wish there was a better way for Internet providers such as yahoo where they could make you show proof your an adult first. Like have you enter your social or something a parent would old have memorized.
I dont think anywhere on the Internet is safe for a child, there are always people out ther trying to find loop holes.

Kids today are hard enough to raise without all the bad outside influences. Especially this thing we call the web. If you ask me, when they are old enough to pay their own bills they are old enough to venture on the web, until then keep it locked up!!!

We had a very similar situation with our daughter. She was at her friends house and they were chatting to someone who claimed to be young man and was posting and was asking them to post inappropriate pictures of themselves. Her friend also had set up an eMail account for her, which we do not allow her to have. Unfortunately, we finally had to talk to her about her choice of friends. We don't allow her to go to this friend's house any more, since it is evident they are unsupervised when she is over there. We do allow her to have a Facebook account, but our computer is in an common area of our home, where anyone can see what you're doing when you're online and I have set-up parental controls to monitor my children's usage. Good for you for being a good mom and staying proactive in your daughter's life.

Well I still think 10 is too young for an type of email account and I dont think keeping your kid of the internet will shelter them in any way. Thats why so many kids are being abducted and raped or come close to it. Theres no reason for her to need an email account or be on the internet. Anything she wants to talk to her friends about she can do at school.
Thank you every one for your comments.

I am on your side on the point that 10 is way to young to have an email account. She is too young to understand reality from fiction. And fiction is all to easily what is given on the net. Our children sit around to much as it is. The web should be a tool for them not an addiction. Much like video games should be a once in a while thing not their sole source of entertainment!

Homework help?sure. research tool, yup! email or IMs? Oh heck no!

Yes our kids need to know how to use a computer. That is just todays world but I for one do not wish to see my sons grow fat and disconnected from the world because they got addicted to the fiction of the net.

sorry for the rant.

And Pointyhair01: Sweets I know this doesn't seem huge to you but it is more important than you think.

I can agree that you are upset, after all, it would make me upset to see and hear about things like that. I talked with a real good friend of mine, he is a cop and I grew up with him. He told me, there is nothing they can really do because it just asks if you are over 18. They don't have security measures to find out and make sure the person is of legal age. That is how older men and women get caught up, by this, and therefore, they try to claim intrapment; but age is not verified. It is a shame, but some kids don't have the values as we had growing up.

Well not to beat a dead moose...or was it a horse? Whatever.... :)
I echo the thoughts of many on here, as you obviously are a responsible parent and you remain diligent and mindful of your child's actions...cannot say that for many parents out there who would rather be "friends" with their children and not parents.

To make this thought process a lot easier, when children are involved with parents, just keep in mind, it is not a democracy, it is totalitarian dictatorship, and you are the dictator, your word is law, if you don't want a 10 yr old to have email then so shall it be done, no email. Good mom, she may not like the decision now, but she will respect you for it later.