So , I have this thought . Delima actaully, problem if you will.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months now. Four months and strong.He's two years older than I am, and lately all he's been thinking abt is sex. You probably know what I'm getting at .
I can tell you now that I dont act my age, let alone look it. I'm 4teen, and I look and act like I'm 6teen/7teen. The question I've been asking myself since the day my boyfriend & I starteddating was " Am I ready for this ?".Sad asking myself that question since Day One. But, I knew that it'd come down to this. He needs his sexual desires to be filled, and although studies now prove that guys who masturbate are less likely to get colin cancer, I dont think that really matters now that he has a girlfriend. Yenno?
Anyways, we've tried having sex before. Didn't suceed. It was one day after semmester one exams, so we had from like 10am-4pm together, and we decided to go back to his place. His dad was home, and his parents alreaedy figure that he's firstly) sexually active already, and secondly) they're pretty chill so his dad kinda left us alone upstairs while he went downstairs and watched his spanish shows and what not. We fiddled & then eventually he asked, Do you wanna do it? I didnt wanna seem like one of those, eshk I'm saving myself for marriage kinda chicks, but at the same time, I was scaredand I didnt know what I should say. I didnt want to say no, because, well.. I dont even know. But, I didnt want to say yes, and at the same time. I was afraid. I'm only fourteen, I dont think people my age should be engaging in sexual activity. Only hoe-bags do so.
But anyways, lately we've been spending more alone time together at each other's houses, and last week when he came over to my house, I kinda like somehow ended up giving him a handjob . How? I dont quiet know, things just happened, and one thing led to another.
Anyways, my point of this story is that, I dont know whether or not I should do it.
What should I expect?
Is it guna change things between us?
don't do it. if you both love each other then you can wait for the right time, marriage as you say. you're still young, look after your future and work on it...
Oh Honey. No. Really, that's a bad choice on your part. A 16 year old boy who's only been dating you for six months and asking for sex--- A) his hormones are CRAZY right now. He's not thinking with his brain, he's thinking with his dick. B) As a boy of that age, he's not doing this out of love/affection for you. I know it probably seems like he is. But boys at this age... they need time. Give him time to legitimately want to have sex with YOU, not just ANYONE.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying he doesnt like you. I'm saying he's not thinking with his head or with his heart right now.
And plus, be SURE that you want to have sex when you have it. Be nervous but excited, not nervous and scared out of your mind. Give it time, four months isnt long in the grand scheme of things, no matter how close you two are.
i'm fourteen as well. sadly, i'm not virgin.... i regret it and i think you will too. i was in the EXACT same situation as i am so i have some advice: take him aside sometime when you guys aren't in an "intense" mood (sooner than later) just tell him "i'm fourteen years old and i don't feel ready for this." regardless of what people say, guys will usually respect that. if not, than you know you made a good choice to say it. if he can't respect that, he would've hurt you very badly. good luck. send me an email sometime :)
DOn't do it I'm telling you now ppl will call you a SLUT and a SKANKY BITCH
I may not now much but trust me girls in my grade have had ddit, don't do it, it could ruin your life.
-Tay
