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Hi everyone,
New here. Reading entries on open marriage, lesbianism, sexual addiction - interesting stuff. I wonder sometimes if I'm weird because I have sex on the brain all the time, somewhat like a high school boy who views the world through a cloud of hormones. Only I'm in my late 30s. Is this typical? Universal?
My husband and I are very open sexually and have had a threesome with one of my best friends. It was cool, except that she regretted it later and that put a damper on things. I guess it's probably never as good as you fantasize it will be. Anyone had that experience?
Right now I feel very experimental. I want to try anything, especially with other women. I love to look at women (and men, but let's face it - women are more interesting visually.) What turns me on more than anything is the thought of watching my husband with another woman. I love porn, sexy movies, talking with friends about sex, flirting with men and women, plotting sexual encounters.
It isn't as though this is taking over my life to the point of interfering with work/family/relationships because I have a pretty balanced life. I don't want to view this as a disorder, but wondered whether it's a typical phase for women in their thirties?
Bella
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Posted by bellaroux on 2007-08-10 20:40:43 | Rating: | Views: 227
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Have you found there aren't a lot of posts about sex on here??? is it wrong to say that word or something??? I think about it...and the name of this website is thoughts.com....go figure.
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Posted by consistentlyincon...
on 2007-08-10 21:00:57
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Yeah, I did notice that. So what are your thoughts about it? Maybe we can generate a conversation...
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Posted by bellaroux
on 2007-08-10 21:04:57
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Umm, I love sex! I loved it so much that it was a shocker to realize that bad sex does exist...glad I only experienced that twice!
I don't think there is anything wrong in talking about it. I think more people should be open to discussing it as it could lead to more exploration and ultimately to greater heights of pleasure...
Did you read the one about the guy on here who's wife hasn't had sex with him more than 8 times in 5 years???? OMG, I would murder myself if that were the case. I am female, but I am sure that I am up to par with the libido of the average male.
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Posted by consistentlyincon...
on 2007-08-10 21:11:50
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Yeah, I read that and wanted to reply, "Come on over to my place - I'll fix you up!" Is it terrible that that was my first thought?
I feel deprived if my husband only gives me sex twice in a week. Tonight after we had sex, I asked him, "Are you glad that you have a wife who will always say yes to you, or is there a part of you that wants a challenge?" Sometimes I think he is bored with my being so easy.
I could honestly say that I would have sex every morning and every night if my husband would comply. But he could never keep up with that.
I have a friend at work who says his wife hasn't given him a blow job in a year. That's another case in which my first instinct was to be helpful and remedy the situation. LOL!
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Posted by bellaroux
on 2007-08-10 21:20:33
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Hahah. I couldn't believe he would A.) Not know she was a cold fish before hand. B.) Not talk to her about it!
I can seriously quote my boyfriend saying "I don't think you've ever said no."LMAO. I am always ready and willing...but he is so sexy all he has to do is look at me and I am taking off clothes (Mine or his!)
BJ's aren't my favourite thing to give...which strangely works since my guy isn't fascinated with them, but I do give him them just to hear him moan a bit for a change. You should tell that guy that his wife needs to "suck it up"...literally lol!
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Posted by consistentlyincon...
on 2007-08-10 21:25:24
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You should go read what I wrote to "sexless." I think there's something seriously wrong. Sometimes women need to be taught how to enjoy their own bodies. Sad, but a result of living in our perplexing Victorian/hedonistic society. (Meaning, we love to focus on sex in films & advertising, but as a culture we're actually pretty frigid.)
Yeah, you'd think that my friend's wife would give him some sucky-suck even if she's not crazy about it - since she knows it's his favorite thing on earth.
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Posted by bellaroux
on 2007-08-10 21:33:14
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I like what you wrote :)
I booked mark you, definitely hope that more people will start talking about sex on here! And I am glad that you are so open about it!
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Posted by consistentlyincon...
on 2007-08-10 21:41:20
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wow..hot! Coming from personal experience, threesoms, as u said, arnt all threre said to be. it can be awkward...depending on who your being banged by. yes, sex is good..cuss it feels good..and thats good.
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Posted by sarah
on 2007-08-12 15:48:19
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I agree...sex is good...I would be sad without it in my life! Never had a threesome before...although my ex used to want one all the time with anyone lol + me + him.
What about bisexual experiences, anything to say about them?
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Posted by consistentlyincon...
on 2007-08-12 17:41:24
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Given my age (50) I have to say that I've done alot of talking about sex at your age and have done my share of reading on it. But as we go through time our priorities change. Wants, desires, perspectives, values, health, hormones all change as we go through time. I leave the exploration and talk (which I have already gone through) to you, the younger generations. Hugs to all,
Kim
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Posted by Jesusmyvision
on 2007-08-12 17:49:32
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Sarah, you asked me about BDD. I replied in the same post that you asked that question.
Putting a question out there for you all. What do you suppose causes sex addiction?
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Posted by Jesusmyvision
on 2007-08-12 17:51:29
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Thinking about sex all the time isn't bad doing it all the time is!
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Posted by musiclover
on 2007-08-12 18:50:30
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What would be bad about doing it all the time? LOL
What causes sex addiction? Hmmm...I've often pondered that because I wonder if I have a touch of it myself.
I think if you're looking to sex to fill a void or make up for a past hurt then it's not so healthy. Of course if you are so gung-ho about the sex that you forget common sense and act recklessly, then that's addictive behavior.
I admit sometimes I've used sex to get the approval I could never get from the male figures in my life, and sometimes I've done reckless things (like affairs or not using protection.)But I think there's a difference between making some bad choices at certain times and making habits out of bad choices. Does that make any sense?
Bisexual experiences? I'll have to start another entry on that one. :)
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Posted by bellaroux
on 2007-08-12 20:20:09
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BISEXUAL EXPERIENCE..SOUNDS HOT!
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Posted by sarah
on 2007-08-13 08:48:52
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I recently wrote a blog on my husband wanting a threesome, I told him no, but really i wouldn't mind. Anyway, the responce i got from readers is that its a bad idea and will ruin our relationship. Is that always nesesarily true? What happened with your husband and your relationship after the threesome??? Just currious, i'm still really considering it.
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Posted by bloggermom24
on 2007-08-18 07:34:21
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"It isn't as though this is taking over my life to the point of interfering with work/family/relationships because I have a pretty balanced life. I don't want to view this as a disorder, but wondered whether it's a typical phase for women in their thirties?"
You jst pretty much answered everything. It's not getting in the way with any aspects of your life, it's not a compulsion that you just need to have and do, so no, you're just in a healthy libido phase.
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Posted by SpouseOfAddict
on 2007-08-29 10:27:17
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