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Before you get the wrong idea, I love my husband and things went off though not without hitches but it is way to stressful to get married so that is it. I am happily married.
First, even the simplest wedding is expensive. Ours was a medeavil wedding and just our garb topped $400. Then my wedding jewelry (which I made myself) topped out at about $130 (pearls, quartz crystal, svarski crystals, amethysts and glass beads in head dress, earrings, bracelets and the topper a nearly 1 pound 6 strand necklace). We also bought a video camera, a $95 bouquet that I forgot to bring. We paid site fees and feast fees for our guests (It was at an SCA event - The Feast of St. Andrews)
Plus there was three days of running around, eating out, numerous visits to WalMart for everything under the sun... we went through $2,000.
But cost aside, the stress is just unimaginable. The person making my dress started late. She finished it just hours before the ceremony and could not finish Tom's garb so he had to borrow the wedding gard of a friend. I was in tears during the fitting process and then to top it all off, I got sick. I said my I do's with a stomach bug and a head cold.
Of course, I regret not a moment. The pain pills I took for my knees kicked in just as my three hulky groomsmen walked me toward the altar and by the time we did the cakes and ale ceremony I was making jokes about how nasty the cookies we bought were. Its all on tape.... including all three kisses.
The people who meant the most to me were there though many who had promised to be there were not. That is one of the things that happens with weddings. Tom's best man got called away on a job emergency and he did not get back until the next day.
Its funny, we have been married since April (it was the only way to get me on the insurance when we found out about the cancer) but its like its "official" now. This was the wedding that we had wanted and had planned for 14 months to have and now we have had it and all I can think about is the future and making Tom happy.
So I am never getting married again because its expensive, crazy making.... and because I have the only man I will ever need. And how do I know that? I have two bad marriages and a damn good one under my belt. Husbands one and two showed me what I did not need, husband three showed me what a wonderful thing a good marriage can be so when husband number four found me I knew I had been found by "Mr. Terrific".... there's no sense continuing to shop when you find the perfect fit. |
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Posted by beautiful_crone on 2007-12-12 18:21:44 | Rating: | Views: 82
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OH Sweetie! I am soooooooo happy for you! And a little jealous at your medieval wedding, how much I would have love that! Of course you have found Mr. Terrific...no one gets married for the fourth time unless they're really sure. Now, I don't know if there are any pictures up yet, but I'm gonna go look!
Love and Light
and so Much Joy!!!!!
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Posted by smilinirisheyes
on 2007-12-12 21:54:13
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Pics will be up in a week or so. I have pics coming from three sources. I can't wait to see the professional pics. I previewed them as he was posing me. I have never looked like that. This guy is fabulous. Tom is waiting on his wallet sizes to take to work.
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Posted by beautiful_crone
on 2007-12-12 22:44:42
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Weddings are only stressful if you make them stressful. I didn't have a wedding planner, I did everything myself for a very expensive wedding, and I would relive it all over again in a heartbeat.
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Posted by Sprinkles
on 2007-12-22 23:17:29
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You must be such a perfect person dear. I did not make my wedding stressful all by myself. The seamstress, my husband, the feastaucrat (again... an SCA wedding) and suddenly becoming ill all had a hand in that.
Further, I had no wedding planner either and while I am sure your wedding was far more expensive than mine I am sure that mine was just as wonderful as yours. And the only reason I won't do it again is that I have been down the aisle four times and I am finally satisfied. My you turn 43 someday and be able to say that you are satisfied.
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Posted by beautiful_crone
on 2007-12-27 22:39:53
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I believe that any wedding has stress in it. Whether its very expensive or if its less than anothers. I did everything myself also, but I bought my dress and rented tuxes and someone else made our cake..and I still was stressed out. I believe we spent without my dress....about $300 and it was very elegant and the reception was wonderful.
I am so happy for you that you found happiness. May God bless you always.
Sadiee Lady
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Posted by Thinks_2_Much
on 2008-01-03 00:21:52
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cant wait to get married, i envy you yet i am very happy for you!!
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Posted by Malaika
on 2008-04-28 10:25:47
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