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as i said its gonna be an in medias res begining, if i remember correctly to the expression from the literature classes. im sharing right now where i am, and what i think now the most important is.

basic question: what is the meaning of life. well, i came up with an answer, maybe not too unique: who cares? why are we here? - who cares? is there god? - who cares? do we as humanity have a supreme goal? - who cares?

why? there is so much answers out there for all these.  ask a christian, he would say we have to be nice on earth so that we can go to heaven afterwards. a buddhist would say,  of course we have a supreme goal, that is to get rid of the reincarnation process, and finally get destroyed completely, (nice one:)) and so on. what that tells me, is that we, as humanity dont know the answer. we have thoughts, ideas, ideologies etc. but we cannot agree on what our goal is. i cannot say, okay all the buddhists are wrong, bc it doesnt seem to make a lot of sense to work on destroying myself completely, bc who knows, what if its the truth?

what i think that if the answer not sure, i have to possibilities: either choose one beleif system, that suits me, and say for instance, ok, from now on i live for charity, bc the ultimate goal of life is to help others. thats a way, and makes a lot of people comfortable. if you've grown up in a religiou s family you have little if any chance to not chose the beleif system that your parents had. i didnt, so i got to the second choice: you dont care about it.

what do we want finally? if you ask yourself what do you want, it leads you to one thing. (at least it led me to one thing). for (a stupid) example: you want money. ok, why? bc of this and that. pretty soon you realize that its not the money what you want, but the feelings that it gives you, or the things you want to buy for that. ok, thats nice, but since tony robbins its nothing new. but can you enjoy whatever things or feelings it might be, if you are not happy?

happiness

no, i think you cant. who cares your feeling secure or have a lot of self confidence if your not happy? who cares about the good house and car to drive if your not happy. bottom line: without happiness youre screwed, and with happiness it doesnt really matter. I mean, what would you chose: to be poor and happy or to be rich and unhappy? and you can ask the same question about everything. if you have happiness you have everything you really need. and that includes all the philosophy of the world. you dont need to know your higher purpose in life if you are happy. (you dont know it anyway, you can only guess, or follow people who guessed earlier.) you dont need to know whether theres a god, or theres several of them above. who cares? what do you need more then happiness? nothing in the whole world.

42 - nooooooooooot

so i answered the question about life the universe and everything this way: the goal of my life is to enjoy it, to be happy. once again: since i cannot know the purpose of life i dont bother finding it out. i just enjoy what i have. (also i dont beleive anyone could find it, but thats another issue. i think einstein said that a problem cannot be solved at the same level where it occurred, and i dont consider a lot of people creating religions being a higher level then you or me). maybe theres a purpose, maybe not. i also heard that every religion has the same roots, so if you dig deep enough you can find the connections. it sounds really nice, and would be very confirming to know that after all humanity has the wisdom, the different cultures only express it in a different way. but so far i couldnt figure out how on earth you can find the common routes between christian ethernal heaven/hell and buddhist reincarnation? (my favourite example) all the explanations seem to be unnatural and unsmooth.

I chose

so far so good, i thought to myself, but how do you achieve happiness? and that took a while to figure out:) actually its much much easier as it sounds. its so simple that its almost unbeleivable. i only have to chose - and thats it. you know, i kept hearing stories about people who had major losses, family, health, money, whatever and they still were happy after a while. some of them lived through such catastrophes in their life, that seemed to be totally unrealistic that they can be happy, so i hardly beleived it. but then i realized, that whatever i think a condition of happiness is, only exists in my head. i thought i couldnt be happy without legs. dumbass, of course i could be. there are people out there without legs, but with happy moments. so there is no prerequisit for happiness - AT ALL. i only have to keep in mind that i want to be happy, and voila - im happy.

and it works

woww, first, i couldnt beleive its so easy. but i tried it out and it worked! the next time i failed in something (and ever since) the only thing i do is to remind me, that i dont need this to be happy. whenever something is not the way i would like it, i think to myself, what a wonderful world, and that it should not influence my happyness. Actually its pretty bad of an idea to make happiness depend on anything at all. So next time you feel unhappy, please try to detach from the situation,  remind yourself that you want to be happy no matter what, and write me whether it works for you as well! Bc it works for me every time.