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the rawness of being a new arrival is wearing off finally.
i met up with some new friends this week, and the human contact has been worth more than anythingmoney could buy.
It is nice being able to meet peple who are in the same boat as us, it gives me a chance to see that -yes- you can get though this- and yes- you r kids will eventually settle into a new life.
The biggest bugbear at the moment isd wathing the kids adapt to a new way of living. they are both taking it in their stride, but even still, the thought processes they are learning and the new situations are such a massive change- sometimes I feel that I have put them under too much pressure.
One of the girls I met this week Susie, was saying that it hard to explain to people why you would want to uproot and move all this distance if your life is basically pretty good where you came from. She's right , it is hard to explain exactly what draws you to go through thisd experience.
I have learnt so many new things. Parts of me that I maybe didn't excercise fully at home as I drifted along with the predictable ebb and flow of my life.
We have a new rule in the house . Each day we will start a conversation with at least one person- even if they don't look like the kind of person we woud normally talk to.
Today at the gym, I did mine. if you sit waiting or other people always to mke the first move then I guess nothing would ever happen except passive experiences.
I have always let myself be led in the past, alhough it was never a negative thing. I am learning how to be assertive- and a leader and an organiser- and it feels good.
I think sometimes you don't challenge your fears until they are placed directly beyween you and something that is so obviously within your reach.
my day out
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