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I do hope this is not another unhappy post, i'm just trying to keep track of the things that are happening to me after the Big fight i had with my husband. We had a bg fight on Friday morning and he was saying that i am not taking care of the kids like i used to and he said lots of things that are untrue. Just because he is taking the kids to school and back to his mother's does not mean i'm not taking care of them. I mean who is feeding them, cooking for them, cleaning the house, doing laundry, giving them their bath and getting them to sleep. Not to mention that i wake up several time at night, to change the sheets and clothes of my boy cause he just trying to get through the night without diapers. Plus i have his younger sister who keeps losing her pacifier in bed. Now he thinks he's doing everything? He's not doing any of those andi don't wat him to, that is my job. But to tell me that i am a terrible mother? What is he doing for them. Anyway....So after that fight on friday i called my sister and invited her to sleep at my place just to change the mood. I went well and actually he was trying to make me smile and sending kisses evrytime i pass by...he has that habit to pretend like nothing happened and i hate that. That didn't work with me and i was still mad in the presence of my sister. When she left i was getting my kids to nap and he came home opened the door with lost of noise (he does that  a lot) which awakened my daughter and got me mad. So i told him why do you have to do this don't you know that at this hour our kids sleep? And then he got mad...in fact i've never seen him so mad. We had another fight, he confessed that living with me is hell, that he couldn't take it anymore, he was very loud and angry. So i tried to stay calm and i didn't say a word. And we never spoke for the whole weekend except for the necessary stuff in front of his mother and his friend who came over. But he spent every moment of the weeekend yelling at the kids and last night he hit our boy because he woke him up.?? iS that allowed damm him i could have killed him for that. Anyway that's what happened and i will make sure it will never happen again, even if i'll have to pack my kids stuff and go to my sister's.
    Posted by angelinatresjolie on 2009-01-19 05:09:41 | Rating: | Views: 67
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Thank you for sharing this snippet of your life. Definitely look after yourself and your kids, and I don't think you sound like a bad mum. for the fact you care so much and do the not so fun things - like change beds etc. shows you are more than a great mum.
Please look after yourself and your kids. You are important.
Posted by  EasyToSay  on 2009-01-19 05:16:42 
  
Thank you EasyToSay for your comment. I'm begining to be an addict of thoughts.com
It feels good to have supportive people like you guys on thoughts.com even know bloggers here don't know each other. I'm trying to do the best i can to be a better mum. So thanks again :)
Posted by  angelinatresjolie  on 2009-01-19 05:54:04 
  
Tresjolie,

Men and women look at relationships so very differently. When a fight occurs, men usually ask themselves "Do I really want to live with this bitch?" when they should be asking themselves how to resolve a problem with a person they actually love. We are not very good at handling fights. We don't spar well, in the verbal sense. We are not that good at expressing our feelings, unless they are feelings of anger.
Men are pigs, and they learn to be this way from childhood onward. When boys do something wrong, the world at large looks at it and thinks, "boys will be boys," but when a girl acts inappropriately, the world goes "tsk, tsk," and convicts them of being immoral, evil, or just plain stupid.
Keep on being the mother you are. You obviously love your kids and want to do right by them. This is the important thing. As for how to deal with your husband, I got nothing. You know him better than anyone else, including, I suspect, him. You sound like a reasonable, intelligent, caring woman. I'm sure you'll do what's right in the relationship.
Stay strong. Focus on the kids: they are the future, the very precious and valuable future. I'm not usually empathetic to people posting on here, but I have a soft spot for moms. My mom went through a hellish decade with my dad, and she did some amazing things to rase us kids right. I'm always on the side of a good mom.

DS
Posted by  DentedSyke  on 2009-01-19 07:54:07 
  
Thank you DentedSyke for the clarification on men. I've heard that men are pigs but never met anyone :) lol As for the fact that they learn that from their childhood i would love to know at what time so i can prevent this to happen to my boy he's 3 years and 4 months and the last thing i want for him is to turn out like his father SELFISH. I wish peole would appreciate what mothers are capable of doing in order to get the best for their children. We only ask for appreciation and a little love.
All i have to do is be stronger for the sake of my children.
Posted by  angelinatresjolie  on 2009-01-19 08:40:31 
  
Yes, Get your kids out of there ASAP, before anythin' worse happens...! Best wishes hun...xo
Posted by  OLP76  on 2009-01-19 10:35:17 
  
I must say the hitting scares me
Couples fight, kids are a lot of work and that creates a great deal of stress
but, things should never get violent
I am worried for you and your kids
Posted by  hurt  on 2009-01-19 10:51:54 
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