Posted by
penumbra88
on 2007-08-21 13:38:38 |
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| Your friend should apply for child support from the father of each child. Where I live (California) the county district attorney takes care of collecting child support. If the fathers don't pay they go to jail until they do. She could always put them up for adoption if she doesn't want them. I would suggest a tubal ligation, then she would never have to deal with kids again. I think there are lot of guys who would like a ready made family to care for. |
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Posted by
alluringcyanide
on 2007-08-21 14:09:33 |
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| she does get child support from both which is great and she does want her kids and she is a good mother. she is just too opinionated about other people having kids. I guess we are entitled to be though |
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Posted by
girlonthemove2
on 2007-08-23 04:08:44 |
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| my sister-inlaw is preg she and her feance are happy but they think that they are to young to have kids she's20 and he's 19 wht should they do cuz they both work 40hours a week |
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Posted by
alluringcyanide
on 2007-08-23 11:54:07 |
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| she will be fine. there is always a way to work it out. tell her it's better and cheaper to find a babysitter that's in a home rather than a day care. I worked at 2 different ones and trust me, no one wants their kids at one. I wish her luck! |
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Posted by
urhrtsdesirex
on 2007-08-26 17:57:19 |
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| I actually agree with your friend. I come from a house where my parents struggled to support me & my brother. My dad worked 60+ hours and most months they had to choose between buying us food & paying the bills (& we were on welfare) So as I child, I was denied a lot of things that other children got because my parents didn't have the money. They have been divored for over three years now. They both have great jobs & make decent money, but they still struggle, and on more than one occasion, i have given my parents money to have grocery money or gas money. It's a huge financial burden on me, when I'm paying for my own school & my own bills. Honestly, I think it is in the kids best interest if their parents wait to have them until they are somewhat financially stable...& by no means am I saying you have to make 100,000 a yr or whatever--Being financially stable is different for everyone. I've already made the decision that I will not have kids until I am financially stable, so my kids do not have to experience things I did. |
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Posted by
alluringcyanide
on 2007-08-27 08:50:25 |
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| I totally agree with you but my friend said if you don't make 100,000 a year then you shouldn't have a child. This coming from someone making 20,000 and has two kids. I just hate hypocrites. Thanks for your input! |
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Posted by
Officer_Sugar_Tits
on 2007-09-10 09:06:12 |
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| It think people that don't even think about quitting smoking and cutting back on the drink every weekend shouldn't be allowed to have kids. Your basically teaching your kid how to fuck with your health. |
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Posted by
himaintenance
on 2007-10-23 21:03:02 |
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I've got it all figured out. How's about these guidelines before having children?
1) Our society has so drastically changed in the past two decades that the only recognizable degree is a Master's. Every person should be ready to commit to the completion of a Master's (at least) to ensure the highest possibility of career placement and, in turn, ensure that the maximum amount of money shall be earned in the future. A side benefit to this is that new parents will be nearing the Big Three-Oh and will have the life experience to properly raise a child.
2) Once educated and in the work force, upon deciding to begin a family, every employee should immediately discuss an unseverable 18yr contract with his or her boss. Let's get real... a good income NOW does nothing if laid off LATER. What a shame for a poor defenseless child to be caught in the crossfire of a parent's failed career.
3) Anyone considering having a child will attend a five year mandated parenting class in which every single fathomable catastrophe will be spelled out and planned for. This will surely eliminate the need for parents to fly by the seat of their pants in some situations and just do the best they see fit. I'm sure this will obliterate future childrens' cries of "My parents screwed up my head!".
4) The right to have a child should be closely monitored by our government, and any person desiring to be a parent should be required to obtain a license. A full arduous background check should be done on each applicant and the rules should be stringent, denying any person with the following "evils" the license: smoking, drinking, cursing, watching of R rated movies, extreme religious fanaticism, lack of religious belief, more than one full-time worker in the home, eating fast food, cooking anything but chemical free foods in the home, cleaning with unapproved products, having a too warm/ too chilly home, driving an old car, having a criminal record of any sort, tattoos, piercings, body modifications, elective plastic surgeries, black friends, white friends, asian friends, indian friends, other acquaintances not previously noted, divorced, having family who may have divorced, provacative dress, and anything else that may be seen as destructive to the little psyche of the poor unborn child.
*rolls eyes* Gimme a break. People have kids, and then they have opinions on other peoples' kids. I'm of the thought process that if we all expended a little more energy in focusing on our own dilemmas we'd find that we could all solve our own ills. Your friend has a ridiculous expectation of others that even SHE can't adhere to. That makes her kinda stupid. Officer Sugar Tits up there has thoughts too. Splendid. So while your bud is off finding a real job, and Officer is off being pious, I'm off to have a cigarette and a glass of wine before I kiss my sleeping kiddo on the forehead and hit the rack... I've got work in the morning. |
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