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Mom's broken heart Club!

I am a full fletch member of, "Mom's Broken Heart Club". Is a free membership, never any charges or dues to pay. All you have to do to belong is to have children that you love with all your heart. To be concerned, worried and suffering long for your children's welfare.

As your children grow. You watched how they grow and flurished through out the years. You are always there to bind up the cuts and to kiss away their fears. Then they get to an age that makes them think you are an antique and your words of wisdom once held very high in respect, now sound plain dumb. They know better. So as any mother you watch your children take off into the world thinking they know it all. Once in a while they land back into your life with minor situations and dilemas. You do all you can at that moment and soon they are in flight.

But then comes a time when they cannot solve a problem stop a hurt and find a cure for their breaking heart that have fallen in love. Love can be wonderful but can also be painful. When their love is reciprocated by their love object then all is well and they seldom come for a landing into your heart for refuelling.

But, when loves goes badly, and the object of their affection and admiration refuses to be with them, to love them back, to stay with them, they run to mother. Fix it mom. Heal my broken heart. Make the pain go away. Rescue me, make him/her come back and love me again.

Your mother's heart freezes with fear and desperation to see your precious child so badly wounded in a place that takes time to heal. They want healing now, stop the pain, now. But you as a mother cannot. You loose hours of sleep worrying over their emotions and their physical beign. You would give anything in the world you and and you would do without to stop their hurt, to see them smile and be care free as they used to be.

You get on your knees and ask God for help because as the author and maker of the human heart, this his department. To try to tell your children to pray, to ask God. But they don't want to hear that. They want it fix and the want it now. So, you as a loving mother do all you can and suffer as much as they do or even more their pain.

I have gone through this once with my daughter, then my son, and now again with my daughter with the same boyfriend. He has told her he is not sure of their relationship and wants time to think. That he does not know what he wants. He did this one about 2 years ago and my daughter had panic attacks and I even ended up in the hospital for one week.

When last night she told me what was happening, a cold frosty feeling went down my spine, my heart skipped a beat or two. I dreaded to hear those words, Matt wants to break up.   Even now my hearts grows cold. He came back later promising that if they brake up again it would not be his idea that it would be hers. Well, that promises is now broken. She is having a very hard time with these yes and no responses.

My daughter and Matt has been together since high school.  They have spent about 6 years in this relationship. It is a long time for her to have spent with that person. I did not want her to be in a sole relationship at such a young age.  Now she is 21 and she wants to marry and settle down in her own house. She has saved her money to buy a home. But I don't think he wants that. He lives at home with his parents and they provided a lot for him. I think he is very afraid to leave home.

I pray God will rescue my daughter from this relationship. If it is not good for her then let her meet a man that is willing to travel the distance with her. I suffer with her so much for all her pain. God please remember us and help us.