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It is very hard to understand why the person you love would lie to you. I must remember that just because I would not do such a thing it does not mean that a person that I trust wouln't do it. I have gone through life trusting people and in my ignorance I discovered that people do not think, or act the way I wanted them to. I was seeing them through my own image. In my life I have met many liars. I have hurt deeply because of lies. It is agonizing to discover your spouse is a liar. That all the things he/she said to you even the wedding vows were fiction.
It is not so hard to catch a liar if we are alert and not quick to believe. Observing and some detective work will show what is in his/her hearts. We blind ourselves when the evidence is right in front of us. We don't want to believe it because that will burst our happy bubble. Deception comes in many ways. There are many kinds of lies. Some lies are called "white" lies. However, a lie is a lie and because is falsehood it cannot be painted white. Someone once said, "If you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all." The so called white lies are told to protect a persons feelings and not to injure them and cause them pain. Most of us use flattery, exaggeration in our daily lives. It would be very cruel to always say what is on your mind. I must remember that God's command us not to lie.
All my thoughts do not belong to me. I cannot claim ownership for thoughts that are mean, unkind and evil. They could come from the enemy of our souls and from childhood teachings or hearing it from TV, radio , reading and many lines communications.
But, there are some lies which are malevolent. Those are the lies that are intended to deceive, misrepresent, conceal, betray, to take our money, our property, our very sould and to benefit only the person who is telling such lies. We can train ourselves to be observants of the body and facial expressions of people. Some signs give the liar away. Such actions like been ambiguous or evasive, body shifting, moving from side to side, eye contact evasiveness or eye to eye contact with too much enforcement as staring straight into your own eyes. If you look into their eyes and he/she is starring right into your eyes, shift your attention to their face or facial expression. Watch the lines in their face, twitch, sardonic smile, movement of lips, the color shade of their faces. When a person is been untruthful, his mind will play back the truth and at that moment a the facial skin will flush, become darker or pale, beed of sweat may protrude from eye brow, upper lip.
Pay attention to their body chemical odor, life force, their energy field. That is one thing they cannot hide. When someone is evil or deceptive their energy field is negative and readable if you pay attention. What are you looking for on their energy field. Energy moves is never at a stand still postion. Our bodies give out electric and chemical surges. That electric or magnetic energy sometimes is called an aura. Listen with your own energy field. That feeling inside of you that tells you something is not right. That little voice that talks to you. The impression we get when someone is talking to us. Observe not so much of what is been said, but how it is been said. The voice can change pitches as our emotions try to come through as positive. Listen for stops, sounds, silence and many other quirks in the voice of that person. Also listen to what is not been said. You think, how can I listen to what it has not been said? Simple, ommission is a lie. You can detect that. Also, listen for key words such as "but", "maybe", "it could" etc.
Do not believe them, Even though they speak smooth words to you. (Bible) Jeremiah 12 vs 6
God has given each one of us intelligence to understand and to perceive deception. Don't listen with your heart, but listen with your brain. I am not saying that you should treat every person as a potential liar, but I am saying don't be quick to believe.
Our bodies are made with certain chemicals that are produce in our daily lives. If you train your mind to perceive and receive the scent of many human chemical like, when people are laughing, sad, at peace you will distinguish the different chemical scent of a liar. It takes practice, lots of practice and it can be done. You do not need to hire a detective to find out if your love object is cheating on you or doing illigal things, commiting crimes that will hurt you and your family. Again, observe, make a point of writing that information in your journal. You be surprise how it all comes together and reveals the full picture. You do not have to suspicious of everyone. Just certain people that want something from you. Be on guard and write down your true impressions. Don't sugar coat because you like that person. That is you! Not them!
Lies of ommission, evasion, secrecy even the so call true confessions can be a lie to cover a bigger deception. When a liar is discovered he/she has to employ different tactics to quickly save themselves.
One of them is turning tables guilty for suspecting and they end up the victim.
They lie in wait as one who sets snares; They set a trap; So their houses are full of deceit. Therefore they have become great and grown rich. They have grown fat, they are sleek. (bible) Jeremiah 5 vs 26, 27, 28
Some men/woman refuse to talk about their private lives and that is fine unless they are trying to form a physical and loving relationship with you. It does not mean that they have to tell you there whole life experiences and faults. But you should be informed on what could cause you pain or physical harm. For example: This person has HIV or has been in prison, married and have children, his financial status, employment, communication skills. Those things will affect you if you get into an emotional and sexual relationship with a person. Are you not worth the effort of discovering what lies beneath? Why wait for them to relinquish information that they are trying not to reveal. What is their loving relationship patterns or the way they live? Do they constantly move from from state to state? Listen with your brain and not with your heart and you might save your heart from pain or even safe yourselves from physical harm.
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Posted by airsjc on 2008-04-05 08:46:46 | Rating: | Views: 84
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