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I’m so over the being married I really have to think sometimes if i do in fact still want to be with my husband. Sometimes I feel like we're still together because of our kids and I don't believe that is right. I just really feel like he doesn’t realize how much I do or maybe I don’t do as much as I think I do. For example last night I didn’t get home until around mid-night after a 3 hour drive each way to going to a viewing for my friends dad who past away on Monday. That morning our son wet the bed so I but the sheets in the wash, later that evening I talked my husband asked him to put them in the dryer. When I got home ready to get to bed after all the driving there are no sheets on the bed (I didn’t really think he would make the bed so that’s no surprise) but all the clothes that were on the bed since I didn’t have time to put them away were all push on my side of the bed! Is it so fucken hard to help out and put them away?? So I just went to sleep on the couch. I doesn’t really seems like he helps out very much at home, yeah he works hard wakes up early, I understand that when he gets home he is tried and wants to relax, when is it my turn to relax and sleep in? I don’t really know how I feel about it all there are times that I wish that he would just leave and we would be done. He is a great dad and husband when he feels like it. A couple different times when we were having a fight he said to me “you are the one who chose to quit working and stay home” yeah that’s true it was my choice to be a stay-at-home-mom but many times I feel like a single mom. Then another time he tells me that I wouldn’t be able to make it if we ended it all, what kind of bullshit is that?!?! If anyone has any good advise or anything I just really don’t know.
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Posted by aidchy on 2008-08-07 15:24:20 | Rating: | Views: 61
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Well, I hope you and your husband consider counseling before jumping to divorce. Divorce is so sad, hurtful, painful and emotional. I, for one know that I've considered it and have no children yet. I can't imagine having children and thinking of divorce.
A good counselor can help open the door of communication, and possibly help to save your marriage. Maybe, your husband is so used to you being the dominant person in the home that he feels you don’t need him. Men, always want to feel needed, even if it’s to take out the garbage. Again, I have no idea because I’m not living there but the road of divorce isn’t always the answer. I speak from the heart, and I tell you this, as a child who has seen divorce twice, it really has a major impact on a child’s life. My parent’s were divorced by the time I was 2 so I don’t remember them together but my dad remarried when I was 8 and divorced AGAIN by the time I was 16. Divorce is so ugly! I have to remember the man I married and the vows we took. I also remember: for better or worse. And believe me….we had a lot of worse!
Good luck and please think about a counselor before a lawyer.
Jen27
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Posted by Jen27
on 2008-08-07 16:03:57
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Okay here goes, stay with your husband. Find a way to communicate with him and help him understand your fustrations. School will not help with your heart. If your husband is a good father and you love him then stop guessing what he is thinking. If you don't know how to be happy by yourself, have someone you trust council the way it is going. I think you need to find a way to see happyness with what you have. Sorry to be negative but that is my take on this. Stay strong.
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Posted by theotherjim
on 2008-08-07 16:11:21
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