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How to be submissive without loosing your mentality? Anyone heard of this book? Yeah I haven’t either, but I’d like to read something a long those lines. I need to understand how to become a wife who submits to her husband without it becoming life threatening to my character.
As a young girl I remember beginning to mature, impatiently. I wanted to be an independent career woman with six children and be a superb wife to my future husband. Was it my upbringing that made me that way? Wanting all of it seemed to be a bit much and near impossible so I had to choose. Career? Kids? Chicken and dumpling made from scratch wife?
I chose self-determination. That lifestyle was filled with pleasure, amusing, rewarding days and nights. I was me. I was going to rule the world. No one could tell me any different. And as I recall no one tried too. My ruling the world went as far as…well nothing. I never had a real plan on how to do it, but in my head I was real close. What happened? Well I made myself think life was too easy. Being independent was fun yet who cared if I did it all on my own? My neighbors didn’t care, my boss didn’t care, my family…well my family was too busy doing things on their own to even notice what a powerful success I was about to be. I believe the lonely nights made me decide it was too easy to be all by myself.
What did I do? Well I got married to a man I dated exactly thirty days.
Six years later I divorced. I worked harder on that marriage than I did anything else that came my way. It did become routine after about the fourth year for my thinking to become something like this,
“I remember he did this to me and he did that, so what I’m about to do or say doesn’t even compare to everything he has put me through” What a repulsive attitude I had gained. The fact is though, I gained it and I owned it. During the years earlier, I had submitted to my husband. Then he threatened to kill me, leave me, and never love me like I wanted because he hated me. Or so that’s what he yelled every three days or so.
Here I am getting ready to marry for a second time. He is a man I thought I’d never get my hands on. Simply because of all my baggage. I understand now, it’s not baggage.
It is fact, trial, wisdom that I am bringing to this new life.
I’m scared. I’m nervous my self-regulating mind-set will never completely change into the wife that God intends me to be. What if I can’t submit? What if I fail? What if I submit, and everything seems right for the most part but it feels like I’m a doormat? Let me tell you, I’m no doormat. During the past few years I’ve grown closer to God, and it seems to me that I’ve not had a sacred outlook in the past about being a wife. Now I do, well I’m trying real hard anyway. So the pieces seem to be falling together like a puzzle. But some of the edges still sticking up in places.
To sum it up, I look forward to pleasing my husband treating him with the up most respect, love, kindness, faithfulness. I’m just not looking forward to failing at it.
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Posted by Writer on 2008-02-09 20:16:43 | Rating: | Views: 235
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submission does NOT mean door-mat. in fact, men are not told anywhere in Scripture that submission is their "right" to expect from you. it is an inside job. and by the way, a few verses before the wife-submission thing, men are told to submit to everybody. that includes the wife. and look at the reward for him if he honors her. proverbs 31, baby. submission is how the Lord spent His life. a Servant to mankind. i am a writer, too, and have made a lifetime study of this. as a pastor, it is my job to shut up. Scripture specifically says, "older women, teach the younger women how to love their husbands." men do not have the right to tell women how to love. period. i would love to talk more with you about this if you would like to. -Buck
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Posted by AllThingsBuck
on 2008-02-09 20:31:30
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all good but take what you want and then take more don't submit to anyone not evan jesus in fact take all his wine and sell it on e.bay don't submit, male or female fight till you win or die trying. go get your dream, take control go get what you want whatever the cost. you can always pretend to submit
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Posted by yadokta
on 2008-02-09 20:49:12
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True. He will show me. I suppose I just am ready to have the battle won before it begins. You know, put another check beside my list of things to do to become what God intended me to be! I know how the devil works and he is sitting and waiting for this marriage to happen so he can TRY and step in to ruin my love and I. I will continue to stay strong knowing that the husband I will have wouldn't use me as a doormat anyway, I was just afraid of myself viewing it as that...see that is the devil working putting these thoughts in my head. Crazy devil...he sucks.
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Posted by Writer
on 2008-02-10 13:09:48
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Hello writer/ Welcome
As an outsider looking in, one can clearly see your relationship with the Lord and priorities in life, by placing the Lord first and then the one you love under His care.
I think you have done enough
The Lords blessings are upon you and He will pave the way, to His will
They who pray together stay together
God Bless
Thank you for the visit to my blog
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Posted by greensky
on 2008-02-12 05:39:41
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Writer, once again I will add just a few words to the wisdom that has already been given. Life rewards you with what ever you ask of it. The bible tells us to ask and we shall have, seek and we shall find, knock and the door shall be open unto. Fear not what you are about to do, because fear is of the devil. What ever you do, do it in the name of Jesus, believing that all things are possible, allowing him to guide your steps in every way you want to go. Remember this, time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is not. Learn to love your man unconditionally and fear not.
Much love,
Davis
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Posted by davistheblackeagle
on 2008-02-24 07:47:36
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good luck
I have to keep reading to find out how its going
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Posted by roe
on 2008-07-31 21:00:57
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