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I saw this internet article today that had a very interesting message. It told women (single and in relationships) to stop watching romantic movies. The message implied that women get the idea all realationships should be like the ones in movies if we watch romance and romantic comedies.
Well I thought about this for a moment and came up with the conclusion that women are not stupid. Of course we dont all expect Robin Hood to rescue us and save the kingdom. We do not expect Lancelot to steal our hearts from the king. Women do not expect to be swept away in a whirl-wind romance to be married to the prince of some tiny yet beautiful country. And I will dare say, most women do not expect to be carried off the altar by their one true love on their wedding day(as most women would expect to be marrying their one true love).
Again, women are not stupid. We know relationships take work from both parites. We know there are good and bad times in all relationships. And we also know that love, truth, fidelity, understanding and acceptance are the keys to every relationship. But still I question the idea that women should not watch romance movies because it fills our heads and hearts with unrealistic ideals of love.
I must say that is what is wrong with the relationships of the world now. It is often said that if you have high expectations you are likely to get what you want. Why shouldn’t women have high expectations of love and romance and relationships? I think the idea that romance is dead spreads to rapidly accross the world and is reaching the youngest of hearts. Women SHOULD and MUST have romantic expectations of relationships...we deserve it (and I guess the men do to).
No, every fantastic idea of love and adventure will not and cannot happen. A knight on a white steed will not likely resue you from a villian and create and instant, undying, eternal love...BUT women should expect the grand gestures...The surprise candelight dinners, the dancing in the living room, the moonlight walks, the declarations of love, the flowers for no apparent reason other than HE thought of you today, the passionate kisses, the long tender hugs, and so much more.. These are all simple, wonderful and realistic expectations that can be done daily (and I suppose the women could do these for the men too, occasionally) and can make a relationship stronger.
Romance is not dead. Women should not lower their expectations of love because one person has. Watch those movies, get those ideas, expect greatness from your relationships. Expect romance, expect surprise, expect love. Just don’t expect someone to stand outside your window, in the rain, with a radio blasting a love song(the neighbors wouldn’t appreciate it). And don’t expect a young man to climb to your balcony window declaring a passionate love for you only having just met you.(we know how this story ends and avoid it at all costs please).
Ladies, don’t give up on romance. Don’t stop expecting declarations of love from words and actions. Don’t stop watching all those movies that give you hope that true love exists for without hope there is no chance of love. Without hope, there is no chance of happiness. Expect it all and you will receive it all..Expect nothing and thats exactly what you get.. FIGHT for romance and you will win.
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:) Yes..fight for romance..I feel like a warrior right now...but i dont know..sometimes its not worth it to have expectations because you are just setting youself up for heartbreak..these days even asking for a little bit of concern and time from your partner is thought of as expecting too much...
I fully agree with what you've written, we ideally SHOULD expect these things..but we need to remember whom we're expecting them from :) We might just end up getting disappointed coz they dont realise what we're worth (I dont mean to generalise, I know some guys out there have potential ;))
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-03-21 05:56:27
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