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One of the guys I work with is married. As far as I can tell he's happily married, a bit under sexed but over all I haven't heard him complain about anything other than that. Well Tuesday he sent me an email asking if he could ask me a question - I said sure. I heard nothing from him Wednesday or anything so I didn't know what the question was, I honestly had forgotten all about it, seeing as it's now Friday. This morning I got a phone call from him asking if he could ask me a personal question... I said sure. I'm pretty much an open book anyway. So he asks me a question about my sex life.. if things have slowed down or picked up since I have had my daughter (he has 2 kids). I answered him as honestly as I dared. Well he said to me, "If we were together - it would be a whole lot more often". Ok it was a totally inappropriate thing for him to say, but on the inside I feel really good, almost giddy if you will.
I would never do anything to jeopardize my relationship with my husband or my daughter for that matter, but the fact that someone else noticed me (when sometimes my own husband doesn't) really makes me feel good.
Am I wrong for letting that give me a little extra kick in my step??
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Posted by Whitters on 2007-10-19 12:01:58 | Rating: | Views: 158
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Posh font Mrs ..winks and grins
Woooo, that was a tad out of order of him regarding his reply, but aye, I'd have felt the same ..hehe and heck hon, its great and good for us to get our ego's upped this way, if it feels good and isnt hurting anyone - which it isnt. cool
hug
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Posted by kentlass
on 2007-10-19 12:22:10
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No judgement here but I think so, let me explain.
Secretly we need affirmation that we are still desirable, however, by allowing his behavior you in essence showed him it was alright to talk to you so intimately like that. Remember we teach others how to treat us. This guy is a scum bag for saying that at all and probably a cheater waiting to happen if he hasn't all ready. Many married men seek married women to fool around with because it's less complicated. He was testing the waters with you to see how open you were. Since you didn't say how you responded I can not say for certain the message he received from you. I would have said, you know...I am married and so are you and I find that highly inappropriate especially from a co-worker. It could be considered sexual harassment but that's always subjective to how the person on the receiving end perceives the advance. But I totally understand where you are coming from and sometimes we don't know how to respond in a situation like that. But I always try to keep in mind...can't walk through a door that isn't open. ;) haha
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Posted by Izzesmiles
on 2007-10-19 12:37:44
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hi whit!
i agree with the wee lass before me - everybody's ego deserves a perk every now and again!
can i ask you a personal question?
are you two people or one person with two heads? i can't tell from your photo.
sorry. i get confused over these things.
:o)
cheers!
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Posted by badlydrawnstickman
on 2007-10-19 12:37:53
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I agree. Nothing wrong with giving and accepting a compliment. Also, flirting is okay as long as it doesnt go anywhere, and both know it doesnt need to go anywhere. You enjoy it while you can (and go home and give hubby a kick up the pants too!) lol
Namaste
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Posted by scotslad60
on 2007-10-19 12:38:05
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LOL my profile pic is of two people, I'm on the left. Though I think it would be really cool to be a 2 headed person.
Izzie - I told him that it was a personal question and I told him that I have no complaints in that department. That's what I answered him verbatim. I could have told him where to shove it, but I didn't.
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Posted by Whitters
on 2007-10-19 12:48:16
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haha...I would have but that's me. I think you responded appropriately. Enjoy your boost. ;)
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Posted by Izzesmiles
on 2007-10-19 13:18:01
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I think that everyone needs an ego boost now and then...married doesn't mean "dead" after all.
And yes...it was a little inappropriate, BUT, as long as he doesn't try to force his attentions on you or make you feel uncomfortable, I think you handled it gracefully.
Of course, unlike you, I'm a freaking dinosaur so I get excited when the bag boy at the grocery store smiles at me now. *LOL*
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Posted by devldggal
on 2007-10-19 15:37:57
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I believe it's okay to flirt...We all need that now and than...Just hopefully he doesn't push it forward, cause office rendezvous can lead to trouble or legal action...xo
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Posted by olp76
on 2007-10-19 18:53:43
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You reacted in exactly the right way and Scot is right you should give you hubby "a kick up the pants".
I too would have had a spring in my step if someone had noticed me in that way!!! I am of an age now where being noticed in "that" way is extremely unlikely. But I can still flirt. :}
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Posted by bede
on 2007-10-20 13:47:09
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Why in the world wouldn't you get a little kick out it? It just adds a little spice to the routine of life. I think after being married for a while, you feel a little bit like a used model and it's nice to know that there is someone else out there interested in your particular model. I think your response to him was perfect. No harm, no foul.
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Posted by Fracture
on 2007-10-20 23:05:54
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