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Oh my gosh.... last night Dh and I took Hailey to the mall so we could look at Sears for some weed eaters. Before that though we went to eat at a restaurant that's in the mall. Hailey acted up so incredibly bad in the restaurant that she wasn't allowed to get dessert. So we go to Sears and that child ran off, just one min she was there and the next she was gone. So I'm running through the store looking for her and as soon as I see her she takes off running again - laughing like it was funny. I wasn't laughing. It wasn't funny.
So Dh takes Hailey so I can look at some clothes and he's looking at some shirts - other side of the store from where I'm at. All of a sudden I see Hailey running but hiding behind a rack of clothes - my husband is in a panic and is yelling her name and looking for her. I go up behind her (quietly mind you) and I pick her up. She starts kicking and making a big fuss, I calmly tell her that we are about to find a place for time out because she was being naughty. DH comes up and takes Hailey from me and Hailey hauls off and hits him in the face and screams at him, he flipped her over in his arms and popped her on her butt - she starts screaming again and hits him in the face again... he tells her NO and then turns her back over and pops her again. She starts crying crying crying reaching out to me and it took all I had not to rip her out of his arms, but I didn't. I didn't want to undermind what he did.
The rest of the trip through Sears and even into Barnsandnoble was pretty uneventful, she kept saying she was sorry and that Daddy hurt her heiny.
I can't say that I'm going to be a spanker - but obviously my threats of time out were totally ineffective, maybe because that's all I was doing, threatening and not following through.
*sigh*
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Posted by Whitters on 2008-06-03 08:23:06 | Rating: | Views: 815
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spanking works well...
mind you im young im 17 but i think that i would not be the same person it my parents dint spank me. see even when i was little i never would have thought of acting out like ur daughter did.
that's the problem that a time out if not bad its not hurtful. you have to explain to the kid what she is doing wrong and explain what will happen next if she continues. even if she is young she will understand kids are not stupid. i would have loved to be put in timeout when i was 5 or 6 lol you just sit there and do nothing how fun.
think about it when you spank at a early stage your kids learn to respect you. and they learn what they can and can not do. it they learn it at a early stage you will have less of a problem when they are teens.
write back to tell me what you think
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Posted by whatonlyisee
on 2008-06-03 08:33:37
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I spank my kids when they do stuff that could end up being harmful or dangerous to their own selves. Running away when in a crowded area can certainly be labeled as dangerous. Baby got one in the butt last weekend when she unbuckled her seatbelt in the car and crawled onto her sister while I was still driving. It broke her heart, but she understood.
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Posted by Willowcross
on 2008-06-03 08:34:53
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Yeah my parents spanked me too - but my daughter is only 2 and I just think it's a bit much. I don't know if she can understand the whole, Its ok for me to spank you for hitting me. Is that not showing her that it's ok to hit? That's where I get confused.
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Posted by Whitters
on 2008-06-03 08:36:11
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sometimes you just need to get their attention..and draw a line, i've had to do it to all 5 of mine at one time or another.
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Posted by Wayne
on 2008-06-03 09:01:20
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I tor Kaylie's ass up when she was 2, one time was in the middle of walmart...
She learned though, the minute my voice drops down and I get really quiet..she knows she's in trouble and she'll stop
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Posted by Mamacita925
on 2008-06-03 13:25:52
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empty threats can bad... or the "Just wait till your father gets home" lol If you cant be the spanker you can do other things, there are ways to get into their little minds.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-03 14:59:40
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Spanking works. I know that some people think that Time Outs are the way to go but when I was a wee one, I didn't mind being sent to my room for a Time Out. It was the spankings that got my attention. A little pop on the butt can work wonders.
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Posted by Mandie142
on 2008-06-03 16:33:40
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Whitters, it is hard to go through that and I am assuming from what you wrote that this was the first time that she has been spanked. Now I am also going to assume that your little one still wears diapers (sorry if I am worng). So the sound was proably the issue more than the hurt. However I will stand corrected if I am wrong.
There is going to come a point where Haliey is going to push and push and push to see how far she can get away with things before you will react in terms of spanking. And the first time you do it (if you do) you most likely will go and hide for a bit and have a cry. I know I did the first time I had to make a point and get their attention.
But in the long term of things you need to handle dicsiple in your own terms and so does your husband, but you need to be on the same page, or else it will never work out because Haliey will soon learn to play each of you off on it other.
Sit down with hubby one night and talk with him, set ground rules up on how the two of you deal with issues, and all will be fine.
I hope that makes sense.
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Posted by KP
on 2008-06-03 21:56:42
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Kind of interesting that all of us were spanked at one time or another and look how great we all turned out!
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-03 22:04:01
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Sometimes a tap on the rear end is a great attention getter.
From being in a relationship where the father didnt discipline his kids and I disciplined mine, his are holy terrors, one is 30 now, and has been in so much trouble with the law it isnt funny, to mine, who I am proud to say is in good standing in the community she lives in, spanking when needed is not a bad thing.
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Posted by 1221dol0306
on 2008-06-05 10:24:57
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I know you've gotten alot of response on this. My mom spanked me during my adolecent years. I'm 39 and she still scares me sometimes. If someone makes her mad, I am so thankful it wasn't me.
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Posted by Faith
on 2008-06-17 19:12:12
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