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Let Me Be!

I am almost eighteen and the time is coming in which I have a decision to move out. I have a lot things going on, including a senior project I must do. Lately I've had a difficult time with life in general. I get into arguments with my family, usually over stupid things. Its just that time in my life where I would really like to move out, but just can't quite yet. one of the biggest things I've been having problems with is girls. There are a lot of cute, funny, amazing girls out there, but nothing seems to be able to go right with them for me. My last realationship just ended this last weekend. It had to do with a lot of things, but part of it was cause of our age difference, I am a 17, and a senior in highschool.... she is 14, and freshman! My mom just found out her age, not that it matters anymore we're not together anymore, but she is really mad at me because I'm not suppose to date anyone who is not at least 16. I really don't like this rule because I don't see what's so bad about dating anyone slightly younger, I know the laws very well and know what is legal and what isn't, so what does it matter, as long as there is nothing illegal about it! I know, if your most people you'll say something like "cause your parents said so!" But here's the thing, I know my mom pretty well, and that rule is only based on our religion, in which until recently, is what I focused most of decisions on. Recently I decided that I really don't want to be any religion, I still believe most of what my church teaches, I have based most of my values off those teachings, but there are things I'm just don't care about anymore. One of which is the date only when your sixteen, and date only those who are at least sixteen belief (not really worded that way, but it's the general idea). Knowing my mom, if either we weren't this religion, or this wasn't a belief of that religion of which we are, than that probably wouldn't be the rule in our house about dating. I feel like I'm kinda being forced to follow every rule now! I'm leaving the church and I don't care about most of it anymore. I can see where she still makes me go to church and stuff, but I feel like who I date is kinda up to me, I respect my mom's opinion and all! I mean if there was I girl my mom didn't like for a good reason, I probably wouldn't keep dating them. But I'm not doing anything bad or illegal by being allowed to date people who are under 16 (as long as it's within the law of course). I just don't see why it's that big of a deal, I'm going to be able to completly make all my own decisions pretty soon anyway, why not ease me into it? Instead of just droping all the important decisions I'll have to make along with all these petty ones. But NO, my parents are SOOO offended that I would even dare suggest a thing! supposedly, I'm now cause great turmoil in are house. They have even suggested to send me to live with my grandpa and grandma down in idaho to work on their farm. I just don't know what to do anymore about anything, I just don't feel like my parents aren't very resonable anymore, that they really don't care about what I think. They're always telling me I'm almost an adult and that I need to act like one, but how are you suppose to act like one if they won't treat you like one?