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Well thats the question on my mind today... Should I stay or should I go.. By this I mean leave my job or stay at it. I work with childern that have speical needs, or have a disability. I been there since July of 2007, right after I graduated from collage. I wasnt sure If i was gonna like working there. But after I got to know the kids I work with, and the more I worked with them, I really enjoy the job, and I feel like I have a great connection with most of the kids i work with.
Now my reason for asking should i maybe leave and find an other job is... I live about 45mins away from the area I work in.. and the pay is well not alot, but enough to live off of. But now with the price of gas getting higher and higher, I am wondering if its worth it. Plus I am gonna need a new car PDQ ( pretty darn quick), and I am wondering if i cna afford everything I am paying now plus a car loan.
My parents basicly told me... that I should just leave where I am at now, and find a job around home... Even if it mean going back to the factory... I am sorry I wont go back to that place EVER AGAIN!! I understand where they are coming from really, but I am an adult now, I been living on my own for 5 years now, and yes I know they want whats best for me, but they cant dictate my life to me. I know they mean well really they just dont wanna see me suffer and fall into a whole I guess.
I talked to my boss today about what was going on. She told me that she would ahte to lose me since I am doing such a great job with the kids, and she knows that the kids respond great to me. But if I had to leave due to money issues then so be it.. But she offered to Up my hours.. I am working 38hrs a week. She will offer me an other 11hrs a week.. But that means I will haev to give up one of my days off.
Now I been thinking this all out and trying to weigh my pro's and con's. I am even thinking that if I stay at my Boy friends/ soon to be husband... then I will live closer to the city. ( 20mins a way) and not have to worry about gas.. of bills.. Or even staying there a week on and a week at my place or something.. I donno.. and if i did move in there with him, my parents wont think to much of it, which is something else i am worrying about.. But i guess I should just stop worrying and follow my heart, but right now I am just confused. Any comments or advice is welcome.. Thanks ^_^
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Posted by UtopiaDawn on 2008-01-10 23:06:52 | Rating: | Views: 85
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First, it sounds like you feel a real joy when you work with the kids and you’re obviously good at it. Having that is extremely valuable and can bring you a deeper sense of happiness and peace of mind than any job at a factory or doing something that’s closer to home (and maybe pays more) but isn’t meaningful or rewarding. That deeper satisfaction is something you can’t buy for any amount of money. (As Brittany Spears, Lindsey Lohan and Paris Hilton are discovering these days). To me, the money you’re making is the vehicle that you hope will lead you to the kind of good feelings about yourself and your life that you’ve already discovered with this connection you have with these kids.
If you see it the same way (and everybody is different, so you may not) the key then, since you’re lucky enough to have this connection and this talent, is to find a way to be able to keep that and still pay your bills and afford to live. There are a number of things that you can do.
In simplest terms, you need to either cut down on expenses or increase your income. What’s the best way you can do one or both of those things?
Are you living at home with your parents or do you have a place of your own? If you already have a place, could you move closer to your job? Or maybe moving in with your boyfriend/eventual husband would be the answer. That deserves some thought before you do it though. Such a move can take all of your energy and focus because it usually requires a major adjustment. Would making the move now would be supportive or disruptive of your job? Or do you view that relationship as the only thing that matters and the job as just a way to pay the bills so you can have the relationship?
Once you know what’s important, than you can look to structure your life and make the decisions that best give you what you desire. Everyone is different, so what would be a dream job or living situation for one person would be a complete nightmare for another. If you know what you want, you can focus on those things and be willing to sacrifice less important distractions.
Another question—is it just these kids, or could you find a similar job elsewhere that might be just as fulfilling but pay more or be closer to home? Have you looked at the local job market to see what else is available? You might be able to use this job to get the experience and good references that would lead to a better workplace. But if the goal is to keep this situation, you might explore whether there’s another way to make money that would supplement this job. Do you have any skills or experience that people would pay for? Have you talked to a job counselor or read any books on this topic? Do you know what your strengths are?
Focusing intently on your intentions is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. When you can get it working for you, you can do some amazing things. And it’s only a single force. With some planning and effort you can discover other powerful forces that will either be working for you or against you and learn how to harness them. As a life coach, I’ve spend a lot of time discovering ways to do that effectively. It can be the difference between swimming upriver against the current or riding on top of the wave.
Your post impressed me with your talent for caring about and connecting with others in order to help them have better lives. I view that as a very valuable contribution to the world and it sounds like you’re good at it, so if I can help in any way, I want to. I’d be happy to give you one free 30 minute coaching session. We’ll spend the time focused on you and your life and how you can make it better.
You see, the peace and joy you get from helping those kids—that’s the same feeling I get from helping others discover their unique individual potential and how to achieve it. As you sound like someone who will pass on your sense of caring to others, I can know that if I help you strengthen and grow that, then I’ve made the world a little better place for us all to live. If I can offer you any help whatsoever, it would give me great joy to do it. If you’re interested, email me at Pmcclure24@aol.com and let me know when and how to contact you to set up a specific time. If you’re not, that’s perfectly fine, too. Hopefully, something I’ve said here will help you along your journey in some small way. Good luck. And keep caring and reaching out to others!
First, it sounds like you feel a real joy when you work with the kids and you’re obviously good at it. Having that is extremely valuable and can bring you a deeper sense of happiness and peace of mind than any job at a factory or doing something that’s closer to home (and maybe pays more) but isn’t meaningful or rewarding. That deeper satisfaction is something you can’t buy for any amount of money. (As Brittany Spears, Lindsey Lohan and Paris Hilton are discovering these days). To me, the money you’re making is the vehicle that you hope will lead you to the kind of good feelings about yourself and your life that you’ve already discovered with this connection you have with these kids.
If you see it the same way (and everybody is different, so you may not) the key then, since you’re lucky enough to have this connection and this talent, is to find a way to be able to keep that and still pay your bills and afford to live. There are a number of things that you can do.
In simplest terms, you need to either cut down on expenses or increase your income. What’s the best way you can do one or both of those things?
Are you living at home with your parents or do you have a place of your own? If you already have a place, could you move closer to your job? Or maybe moving in with your boyfriend/eventual husband would be the answer. That deserves some thought before you do it though. Such a move can take all of your energy and focus because it usually requires a major adjustment. Would making the move now would be supportive or disruptive of your job? Or do you view that relationship as the only thing that matters and the job as just a way to pay the bills so you can have the relationship?
Once you know what’s important, than you can look to structure your life and make the decisions that best give you what you desire. Everyone is different, so what would be a dream job or living situation for one person would be a complete nightmare for another. If you know what you want, you can focus on those things and be willing to sacrifice less important distractions.
Another question—is it just these kids, or could you find a similar job elsewhere that might be just as fulfilling but pay more or be closer to home? Have you looked at the local job market to see what else is available? You might be able to use this job to get the experience and good references that would lead to a better workplace. But if the goal is to keep this situation, you might explore whether there’s another way to make money that would supplement this job. Do you have any skills or experience that people would pay for? Have you talked to a job counselor or read any books on this topic? Do you know what your strengths are?
Focusing intently on your intentions is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. When you can get it working for you, you can do some amazing things. And it’s only a single force. With some planning and effort you can discover other powerful forces that will either be working for you or against you and learn how to harness them. As a life coach, I’ve spend a lot of time discovering ways to do that effectively. It can be the difference between swimming upriver against the current or riding on top of the wave.
Your post impressed me with your talent for caring about and connecting with others in order to help them have better lives. I view that as a very valuable contribution to the world and it sounds like you’re good at it, so if I can help in any way, I want to. I’d be happy to give you one free 30 minute coaching session. We’ll spend the time focused on you and your life and how you can make it better.
You see, the peace and joy you get from helping those kids—that’s the same feeling I get from helping others discover their unique individual potential and how to achieve it. As you sound like someone who will pass on your sense of caring to others, I can know that if I help you strengthen and grow that, then I’ve made the world a little better place for us all to live. If I can offer you any help whatsoever, it would give me great joy to do it. If you’re interested, email me at Pmcclure24@aol.com and let me know when and how to contact you to set up a specific time. If you’re not, that’s perfectly fine, too. Hopefully, something I’ve said here will help you along your journey in some small way. Good luck. And keep caring and reaching out to others!
First, it sounds like you feel a real joy when you work with the kids and you’re obviously good at it. Having that is extremely valuable and can bring you a deeper sense of happiness and peace of mind than any job at a factory or doing something that’s closer to home (and maybe pays more) but isn’t meaningful or rewarding. That deeper satisfaction is something you can’t buy for any amount of money. (As Brittany Spears, Lindsey Lohan and Paris Hilton are discovering these days). To me, the money you’re making is the vehicle that you hope will lead you to the kind of good feelings about yourself and your life that you’ve already discovered with this connection you have with these kids.
If you see it the same way (and everybody is different, so you may not) the key then, since you’re lucky enough to have this connection and this talent, is to find a way to be able to keep that and still pay your bills and afford to live. There are a number of things that you can do.
In simplest terms, you need to either cut down on expenses or increase your income. What’s the best way you can do one or both of those things?
Are you living at home with your parents or do you have a place of your own? If you already have a place, could you move closer to your job? Or maybe moving in with your boyfriend/eventual husband would be the answer. That deserves some thought before you do it though. Such a move can take all of your energy and focus because it usually requires a major adjustment. Would making the move now would be supportive or disruptive of your job? Or do you view that relationship as the only thing that matters and the job as just a way to pay the bills so you can have the relationship?
Once you know what’s important, than you can look to structure your life and make the decisions that best give you what you desire. Everyone is different, so what would be a dream job or living situation for one person would be a complete nightmare for another. If you know what you want, you can focus on those things and be willing to sacrifice less important distractions.
Another question—is it just these kids, or could you find a similar job elsewhere that might be just as fulfilling but pay more or be closer to home? Have you looked at the local job market to see what else is available? You might be able to use this job to get the experience and good references that would lead to a better workplace. But if the goal is to keep this situation, you might explore whether there’s another way to make money that would supplement this job. Do you have any skills or experience that people would pay for? Have you talked to a job counselor or read any books on this topic? Do you know what your strengths are?
Focusing intently on your intentions is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. When you can get it working for you, you can do some amazing things. And it’s only a single force. With some planning and effort you can discover other powerful forces that will either be working for you or against you and learn how to harness them. As a life coach, I’ve spend a lot of time discovering ways to do that effectively. It can be the difference between swimming upriver against the current or riding on top of the wave.
Your post impressed me with your talent for caring about and connecting with others in order to help them have better lives. I view that as a very valuable contribution to the world and it sounds like you’re good at it, so if I can help in any way, I want to. I’d be happy to give you one free 30 minute coaching session. We’ll spend the time focused on you and your life and how you can make it better.
You see, the peace and joy you get from helping those kids—that’s the same feeling I get from helping others discover their unique individual potential and how to achieve it. As you sound like someone who will pass on your sense of caring to others, I can know that if I help you strengthen and grow that, then I’ve made the world a little better place for us all to live. If I can offer you any help whatsoever, it would give me great joy to do it. If you’re interested, email me at Pmcclure24@aol.com and let me know when and how to contact you to set up a specific time. If you’re not, that’s perfectly fine, too. Hopefully, something I’ve said here will help you along your journey in some small way. Good luck. And keep caring and reaching out to others!
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Posted by CoachPhillip
on 2008-01-11 17:13:57
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Oops! I'm sorry that I managed to repeat my comments mulitiple times. I write in a word processor and cut and paste to the blog and accidentally put the same comments in more than once. I'm just learning how to use these tools, so you'll have to overlook my clumsiness. Sorry.
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Posted by CoachPhillip
on 2008-01-11 17:21:13
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