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First, i've finished Christmas shopping, yay!! 
So i was thinking about how long it's been since i've seriously dated anyone, and it's been quite some time. It's been nearly six months since i returned from a year overseas, and i've been on a couple dates since i've been back, but nothing even remotely promising. The past few months have been very empty as far as men are concerned. Now i can't really complain about this because the truth is, i haven't tried hard at all. If i really want to at least find a date, i need to put some effort into looking. I've been thinking that this is something i should work on maybe for the new year. I thought i should wait until i worked through some more emotional problems (my eating & body image disorders) but from what i've heard from people with eating disorders, i could end up waiting a very long time. People who are as close to cured as you can get have told me there will still be days when i hate everything about myself. So i figured well, why not just go for it and see what happens? Of course, i haven't met anyone i'm really interested in lately either, but that's probably because i haven't looked very hard. There's just one small problem:
I have no clue how to meet a guy. I've dated so few people in my life, that i have no clue what i should or shouldn't do. Everyone says be yourself. But my "self" gets very shy and self-conscious around guys that i think of in terms more than just friends. Probably because i do such a good job of convincing myself that no guy in his right mind would want to date me even though guys tell me i'm pretty and smart.. Flirting is fun, and i'm pretty good at that too, but dating concerns me. I have no clue about how to date or even let a guy know i'm interested without sounding desperate. Wish me luck, and if you have any advice, i'm open to it.
The Twisted One
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Posted by TwistedChristianChick on 2007-12-16 14:35:47 | Rating: | Views: 100
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Positive self imige is rather important, if you aren't going to struggle at the job.
Be comfortable with yourself and it can be sense by others.
Having said that, The 'image' bit can be easier said than done if you have had years of self critisizem.
Be brave about it.
Regards
Theo.
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Posted by Triforium
on 2007-12-16 15:02:03
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ok, so the first step is definitely being a bit of a flirt and not letting it dead end. alot of men aren't as dense as we women seem to be when it comes to attraction--they are natural hunters! :-) don't be afraid to let a guy know you like him. they don't think you're desperate if you act interested, believe me. they aren't like women! just have an open mind and step out of your comfort zone every now and then--believe me, it's so much fun! good luck!
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Posted by ninjanann
on 2007-12-17 17:13:39
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