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A couple weeks before Christmas, i went shopping with Amanda and Zoe. Amanda is married with two children. Zoe is married and her big news was that she's pregnant with her first. Of course the night turned into a discussion of pregnancy and the joys of motherhoood, except for a portion of time when both Amanda and Zoe expressed their annoyance with my refusal to set up a MySpace account. (I prefer Facebook, which they find too complicated.) My news for the evening? I was very excited about taking a spring semester class at the college.
Fast forward to today: I was driving back from visiting a friend from my undergrad years, and thinking about how i haven't seen or heard from Amanda & Zoe since our shopping trip. I was thinking maybe i should call or e-mail them when i had a terrible thought: i don't really want to talk to either of them right now. I'm such an awful person/friend. At first i thought maybe i was subconsciously jealous of Zoe's baby, but the truth is, i don't really want a baby. The issue is, i think i'm getting to the point where i have nothing in common with my married friends. Everyone has to do what works best for him/her. I chose a career path which included getting a B.A. and spending a year out of the country. They chose the family path and will be quite content to be homemakers (i have nothing against homemakers; they work very hard and rarely rest). Our lives are so opposite. It's not that i don't ever want a family, but i want to be educated and self-sufficient enough to be okay financially if i don't have a husband before i rush to the altar. And after 4 years of college, staying at home doesn't exactly appeal to me.
Today i had such a great time with my friends who are more career-minded like i am. And i'm so looking forward to my college class with other people like me. And it's not that i think i'm "too intellectual" to spend time with them. It's more that i want to talk about more than pregnancy and annoying husband habits.
I thought i was a good person and a good friend, but today when i realized i didn't want to talk to either of them, i realized, i'm not a good person or friend. We get along and yes, i'm truly glad they're happy, but i wonder if we're too different to continue our friendship. And i wonder how much i really want to try.
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Posted by TwistedChristianChick on 2008-01-01 21:49:11 | Rating: | Views: 103
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Have you ever heard the old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together?" Sometimes people are drawn to friends with similar interests. Maybe you can continue the friendship, but it won't be the same. BunnieMarie
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Posted by BunnieMarie
on 2008-01-01 23:45:29
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