You would think after a failed marriage with a non-Christian I would have learned my lesson.  It's very important to me that the person I'm with share my faith.  I always told myself that if for any reason I found myself single again, and looking for a relationship, my next fellow would be devout like me. 
Not so.
Well, not exactly.
My boyfriend doesn't consider himself to be a Christian anymore.  He used to be.  He grew up in the church, was very actively involved as a child and as a teenager.  He and his family went all the time together.  Then, when he went off to college and met the person who is now his ex-wife, he strayed away from God.  He says he doesn't disbelieve, but he doesn't believe, either. 
Now I'm left with a dilemma.  I love this man with all my heart, he's absolutely wonderful and treats me very well.  I think there is tremendous potential for our relationship, except for this.  Now, we are not anywhere near talking about marriage or anything along those lines.  But when you've been with someone for several months, the thoughts do cross your mind every so often.  They've been crossing mine.  If he were to propose to me, I would want to accept.  However, I really need to stop and think about how much being unequally yolked once again is going to bother me.  It's SO important to me, then again, I think I wouldn't want to lose our relationship over this one thing.  But it's not just a little thing, it's a HUGE thing.  It's something I must think long and hard about.  Can I get past this?  I honestly don't know.  I do know that I love him so much I'm not going to give up without a fight. 
I tell him all the time that he has only "misplaced" his faith, and that someday he will find it again.  After all, it was some girl who helped him misplace it in the first place.  Maybe some girl--me--can help him find it.  His mother and I had a long conversation about this subject just a couple of weeks ago.  She tells me she hopes I can be a good influence on her son.  Just as his X was a bad influence and helped him stray, his mother hopes I can help him get back on the right path.  (His ex-wife has found her way back to God, and seems now to be very devout.  Ain't that a kick in the head?)  His mother and I both feel that since he was raised in the church, it wouldn't be quite so hard to help him find his way back to God.  Proverbs 22:6.  He is very supportive of my faith and my involvement in the church.  He asks how service was, how everyone is doing.  If I make a comment about maybe skipping service, he will tell me I need to go.  He's very encouraging about everything. 
It was different with my ex-husband.  He didn't grow up in a Christian home.  As a child, he never went to church, except maybe on the holidays.  He was not supportive of my faith, or my invlovement in my church.
Why, if it's so important to me to be with a Christian, do I keep getting involved with non-Christians?  I cannot answer that, but have a theory.  Maybe God is using me, as He uses all of us.  Maybe I'm meant to plant seeds, and maybe He will harvest when the time comes.  Actually, it's not like I've been involved with a bunch of non-Christians, only two. (BIGBOB I know what you're going to say!  I agree with you, but then again, if God wants to use me as a sower, who am I to argue with Him?)
I will keep praying for my boyfriend, and for my ex as well.  Anyone who reads this blog, I ask that you pray for them, and for me, too.  I need strength to keep enduring and I need wisdom, should the door ever open and there waiting is an opportunity to be seized.