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GRRR THOUGHTS YOU SUCK! (just typed this only to have it deleted)
So I just finished reading Gabriel Garcia Marquez' (Nobel Prize Winner) novel Love in the Time of Cholera. It was not an easy read and I actually put it down for a few weeks halfway through, not sure if I would pick it back up-- boy am I glad I did.
I am an avid reader. I LOVE to read.
Anyway, this book is about... obviously... love. Now before you say, alllllll novels are about love. This novel is about love practically, impractically, love in terms of the emotion, love in terms of sex, love in terms of family, love in terms of compassion, love in terms raw human emotion.
I won't give much away in case you are reading or intend to read it... but basically it is about two young people who think they are in love through letter correspondence, one decides they are not based on superficial reasons, one who remains a virgin in terms of being in love for their entire life however sleeps with MANY people of all ages, races, walks of life, and one whom gets married and lives the traditional "life of love."
So anyway, as I was finishing it, one particular passage spoke to me. It was describing a widow who had lost her husband of over 40 years as she was reflecting on her love life. It is written:
She was lost in her longing to understand. She could not conceive of a husband better than hers had been, and yet when she recalled their life she found more difficulties than pleasures, too many mutual misunderstandings, useless arguments, unresolved angers. Suddenly she sighed, "It is incredible how one can be happy for so many years in the midst of so many squabbles, so many problems, damn it, and not really know if it was love or not."
To me, this WAS love. This IS love. Love is wanting to be with someone through all of the stupid arguments, anger filled squabbles, etc. Making it through a lifetime of ups and downs and being happy and feeling blessed that you were able to share these experiences with one person is loving them whole-heartedly.
This is my OWN interpretation of this woman's voice, and by no means does that mean that that was the author's interpretation.
I just think about B's and mine arguments, our squabbles, but ya know, no matter how angry or frustrated or hurt I think I get... I know he loves me and I know I love him. When I wake up and see him sleeping beside me, I smile. When he calls me "my baby" and "my sweetness," I melt... and yeah we argue about money and sometimes other things but inside, I don't want to be an old lady looking back on my ups and downs without thinking about him being there through them all as well.
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I agree that is what love is....making it through thick and thin. That's why it brings tears to my eyes EVERY time I see an old couple still holding hands, still doing things for each other, and still looking at each other in complete adoration....because you know that they have been through sooo much together and, yet, they are still crazy about each other. That's what I want out of any marriage I have...someone to grow old and be happy with.
I might have to check this book out...
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-07-02 02:02:04
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That's very very true, love IS when you love someone so much you stick with them no matter what obstacles life throws at you!
This book sounds very interesting, I may see if I can get my paws on it.
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-07-02 05:38:03
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Aww...I loved this post!!!! You are so right, its loving the person through all the fights, its the smile u get on ur face when u make up after a fight :)
my brother once sent me a text:
"Perfect love is not receiving, its giving and FORgiving. perfect love is not red roses on valentine's day, its the rest of the 364 days of knowing u love someone. perfect love is not phone calls and stolen kisses, its the silent smiles in the memory of ur sweetheart. perfect love is not a grand wedding, but spending a lifetime together. perfect love is not fight-kiss-and-make-up, its LOVING THE ONE WHO ANNOYS THE HELL OUT OF YOU"
:D
I loved this post :D
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-07-02 09:04:52
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Thanks everyone :-) Like I said, it's a tough read and at times slow but it's really interesting. They also made a movie about it in 2007 but I haven't seen it yet. :) The book is usually better anyway!!
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-07-02 11:16:23
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I am curious about this book...maybe I'll have to read it now!
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Posted by KarKar
on 2008-07-02 13:14:32
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Awesome post - I am glad that what you have with B is so real and that, despite the difficulties, you are well aware that you have it pretty good. I envy you!
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-02 14:10:56
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I've wanted to read this book for a while, but couldn't find it. But now after your post I'll do my best to search it.
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Posted by LuckyJulia
on 2008-07-02 19:12:58
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I have tried reading this book and I keep putting it down. I am really struggling with it! That was a good post. It made me think of my B and wonder what I have or what I should do. For me my past love had such few struggles that when we argue, I always think it's the end. I'm just not sure if love should be difficult.
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-07-03 11:19:33
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I like the sound of that book, and have to agree.... I used to think love was about seeing all the flaws your partner had and loveing them unconditionally regardless.
Of course it works, so long as you are both on the same page! lol :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-07 16:44:58
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