I am having an affair and don;t know how to get out.  This affair has been going on for three yrs now and he is still with his wife.  The claim of course is bc of his children! 
I wish I could get out of this but I work with him and see him daily!  Everytime I am mostly out of it or feel totally independent of him, he somehow suckers me back in to it.  It is mostly an emotional affair bc he is not really a physical person...is when we are together, but doesn't have to be physical!  It amazes me, bc that is what most people seem to seek in an affair-or at least everyone that I have known that has had one.  Anyway, I want out...want to be totally free from him and the misery that having a "secret life" puts on you!  To all of you out there, take it from me-NEVER EVER get involved with an affair.  It is so easy to "fall" in to!  The little innocent comments about how nice someone looks or how I bet your husband just loves you bc you are this or you are that....don't fall for it!!!!