Just when I was in the midst of enjoying my holiday and finally feeling free from all the stress in the office , I got a telephone call from a friend that puts me right back to the beginning of it all. I must admit I am a very kind and giving person and for some reason I seem to be an easy target for the deceitful and manipulative kind of individual .
Though I am much more prepared than I was in the past, these folks just need to be stopped in their game. My friend had the nerve to engage me in conversation as if nothing had happened though I have concrete proof of the scandalous, deceitful and manipulative intentions only a few weeks ago.
The good thing is that I have come to learn the attributes of my friend, so when my friend feels on top of the game, I have got it all covered. I do believe in the old adage, once bitten twice shy , and for some reason folks like these makes it difficult for real people to come into your lives simply because we are always feeling the same thing will happen again.
Sometimes I wonder why this individual constantly prey on people , as if its provides some sort of inner satisfaction. I am much wiser now since I’ve come to analyze my friend’s actions and motives . In the initial stage of our friendship, I was sold a sad story of abuse and being taken advantage of that my gut believed as if my friend was fighting for something and struggling to overcome me, and me being an emotional person naturally surrender to my friend’s highly effective psychological weapons .
We all possess weaknesses and insecurities that folks of this kind might exploit, which are sometimes used against us. They attach themselves to us and sometimes know us better than we know ourselves, so they know which guilt button to push. I have never wanted to think of myself as callous or insensitive and that has opened the gateway for my conniving friend to thrive on. I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt and not disregard the malevolent intentions I suspected. I was more apt to blame and doubt myself for daring to believe what my gut told me about my friend’s character.
It is sad how we treat each other and then say we are our brother’s keeper. I could never think of hurting someone for financial of material gain , but obviously my friend was socialized a lot different than I was. Can you believe I was even invited to lunch after all that was said and done. What I have learnt also is that these folks have no shame in their game, and the worst kind of person to deal with is one without shame. But guess what? I have accepted the invitation, and will do the honorable thing, and that is to confront my friend since it would be hypocritical of me to continue knowing what I know.
I have already braced myself for the outcome, and will be happier knowing that I have gotten it off my chest and put to rest, than walking around smiling in pretense.I am sure at some time we all have been subjected to someone who entered our lives with an ulterior motive. Just be aware and be very careful for there are numerous tactics and defense mechanisms such as lying, guilt tripping, playing the victims role ,villifying the victim, seduction or even projecting the blame to others. I have experienced them with my friend and the last thing I want is for someone to be exposed and experience what I have endured.
You came to me in such disguise
I called you friend, despite your lies
Was there for you, fulfill most needs
Yet want and want and want , such greed
When others turned their back you came
Running to me, with all your game
I listened and was there for you
Not knowing you were so untrue
I watched your back, cushioned your fall
My friends were mad, not one but all
They say some day you’ll talk my name
For folks like you aint got no shame
Was blind back then, but now I see
The things you’ve done still puzzles me
Was I so dumb , put to your test
Deceitful, manipulative, dishonest!
For folks like me you easily prey
Sad stories bought without delay
Your motives were so dishonest
Guilt trips you played , the very best
Have seen the light, a bit too late
You’ve played the victim, who they hate
The final curtain has come down
Exit my stage, the show is done
Here’s hoping my vacation gets back to where it was before my telephone call and your day be ever more productive that the day before.
Remember I am no trained specialist, but a voice with soul under construction
Much Love
Chet*
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